Father of a nursing student needs advice

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I feel a little like a fish out of water here. I have been following this site for some time. I do believe you call them lurkers. :) I have followed it because my daughter decided to go to nursing school and I thought this would be a good place to find out the real information about the profession. Well, it has been. Good and bad. I want to say to each and every one of you that you are amazing in your support and compassion to each member in this community. I need advice concerning my expectations as a parent of a nursing student. She will be graduating in May 2014 with a BSN from Ohio State. She will be 22 when she graduates. She has been a great kid. I have paid for her schooling. I did it by starting a savings fund when she was born. I am one of those parents who said your job is school even though she has held part time jobs. She works part time at Ohio State's hospital. My parental brain is now saying it is time to apply to jobs and apply for a residency and see if you can get it. I have talked to her and I feel like she is burned out from 17 straight years of schooling and may need a break. I guess I need some advice. Do I just back off ? Am I the only parent like this ? I know some of you must have children in college. I am not sure why part of me continually pushes. I hope it's because I want the best for her. I don't want to push her away. Thank you for reading and again you guys really are great. I hope each of you knows how fortunate you are to have a place to talk or just vent if you need it. Jim

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Be grateful of your good memories. It makes it feel like he is still watching over you. My thoughts concerning my Dad border on contempt even after all the years he has been gone. Is that how we want to be remembered by our children ? I lost the lottery but not the sense of my self worth and what I could do with my life. My Mom. I used to be close until I was old enough to realize what she allowed to happen under her watch. I know she is my Mom but parents do not let those things knowingly happen and turn the other cheek.

I did not raise my daughter the way I was raised. Thankfully for me and her. However, I raised mine the way I wish I would have been raised. I raised her like you raised your daughter. I love how you talk about your daughter. How cool is that? I get to go to the campus next week and help pick out my daughters cap and gown and get instructions on what to do when we attend the graduation. Just think, you will be doing that in four years. It will fly by. And because she knows I like this she also bought tickets to a Sherlock Holmes exibit in Columbus close to campus. That is what I mean. She does little things to show her appreciation. Take care

A perfect example of it;s not the road blocks in our way but how you went around them.
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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
Yes, she has to remember that job is not going to start as soon as she graduates. Honestly I do not think she has applied anywhere yet. She will find out it will be more difficult than she imagines. Again, a lesson she will learn the hard way if that is the path she chooses.Thanks

Yes, I was one of the guys in the silos. It's like a city down there. You were required to stay down for two weeks and then have two weeks above ground. Believe it or not almost all the civilian population knew where they were. But, getting close to them is another thing. Wichita Falls KS. Dorothy should have stayed in Oz.

I'll never forget the beginning of the movie "WarGames" where it showed the guys going into the silo. In the beginning it looked like they were going into a regular house, and it turned out it was a silo.

​I have to give you credit for doing that. To me, it must have been an incredibly boring job, but nerve wracking at the same time, IYKWIM.

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I'll never forget the beginning of the movie "WarGames" where it showed the guys going into the silo. In the beginning it looked like they were going into a regular house, and it turned out it was a silo.

​I have to give you credit for doing that. To me, it must have been an incredibly boring job, but nerve wracking at the same time, IYKWIM.

I love that movie !! It was extremely boring you are right. The training was intense.

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Like many people here have said she should take a week or two break then start the search in earnest. As a Calufornia new grad I was forced to take 4 months off before getting my license, and i was getting no bites for jobs because i lacked a license. Right after i got my license i got a job in LTC... Mainly because of the burnout of doing job apps that went nowhere. The length of time may stifle determination like it did for me. Luckily my LTC facility pays well and has opportunities for advancement. I still have hope that I'll get into a hospital, but the length of time i was forced to wait definitely brought my feelings of ambition down a notch.

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Like many people here have said she should take a week or two break then start the search in earnest. As a Calufornia new grad I was forced to take 4 months off before getting my license, and i was getting no bites for jobs because i lacked a license. Right after i got my license i got a job in LTC... Mainly because of the burnout of doing job apps that went nowhere. The length of time may stifle determination like it did for me. Luckily my LTC facility pays well and has opportunities for advancement. I still have hope that I'll get into a hospital, but the length of time i was forced to wait definitely brought my feelings of ambition down a notch.

Thank you and congratulations on getting the job. I can tell you have determination. That alone will take you far. You will get your job in a hospital. You will now have experience to draw on and put on your resume. It seems that is what hospitals require most. Experience.

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A perfect example of it;s not the road blocks in our way but how you went around them.

Exactly. You are so right.

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Sounds like our upbringing was similar only it was my mother who was abusive and out of control, while my dad was too busy to do anything... either that or he didnt know what to do. I feel the same way about my parents as you said you feel about yours. To answer your previous question to me, Im not a mom, so I cant give parenting advice. Its just that from the outside looking in, you seem very caring & your daughter is lucky to have one of the good ones.

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Sounds like our upbringing was similar only it was my mother who was abusive and out of control, while my dad was too busy to do anything... either that or he didnt know what to do. I feel the same way about my parents as you said you feel about yours. To answer your previous question to me, Im not a mom, so I cant give parenting advice. Its just that from the outside looking in, you seem very caring & your daughter is lucky to have one of the good ones.

Thank you so much. That is very nice of you to say. We have been through the ringer and came out on the side. We both know that is not parenting. When and if you become a parent you will like me not want your child to endure that nightmare. One thing about it, that upbringing makes you find the little things in life to smile about.

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