Hi,
I need to get an opinion. My fiance' and I are having a "difference of opinion" as you could say. Today, for the first time, I had a patient pass away. She had ESRD, COPD, the whole nine. Her family was still trying to make her better. She had this test, that test, Vanco here, Morphine there. I was, to be honest, scared to go in her room at first. I had a coworker come with me while I changed her position Q4 hrs. She had a stage 4 decubeon her coccyx. Face it folks, this woman was suffering. I was curious as to the signs of impending demise so I went online and looked it up. She had every one of these signs starting with the confusion, loss of speech, loss of ambulation, eventually becoming non-responsive. I also had read that some people just keep "hanging in there" so to speak. The day before yesterday she had her "miraculous recovery type" good day and then went backwards. I had her on 5L o2 with a rebreather mask. She was o2 sat 94%. Everytime I changed her position her sat would drop down to the 80's. The CNA had taken vitals and forgot to tell me that she had a temp of 101.3. I put icebags under her arms and gave her a Tylenol suppository and that's when she crashed. But, before this all happened I had sat with her a few times and rubbed her arm and told her that she didn't have to hang on anymore, that it was alright and she could go. My fiance' thinks that this is unethical or possibly illegal. Please help me with your opinion. I have more to tell but I'm running out of room.