I am having a very difficult time right now. I am looking at a decision I really do not want to make.
Currently, I love my job. I love my colleagues. They are always there to support and assist me. They are wonderful educators and colleagues. I feel like an integral part of my team and look forward to going to work each day. I am assigned to med-surg and pcu. I love going to icu to look at strips and ask questions and I love my colleagues, who always answer my questions and give me so much new info, making me better at my job. My hospital is awesome, comprising reg med-surg, ped/ob med surg, pcu, icu...in short, very squared away. As a newer addition, I feel my work environment conducive to learning and becoming stronger, faster, more efficient. The learning opportunities are only surpassed by the number of individuals willing and able to share what they know and have with me. Hey, they are not perfect, but who is? Their quirks actually make them more likeable; perfectionism is overrated.
Where's the problem?
My job is an hour away from my home.
I have three young children.
I work nights (12h shifts), sometimes 4 shifts per week, so it drains me.
I spend little time with my kids due to the number of hours.
My eldest (not 18) has to babysit and help out...a lot.
I am a rapid cycling bp2, but not on meds, as my docs have stated I do not need anything and the diagnosis only applies when it becomes an issue in daily living and functioning. Night shift is bad for us bp'ers, increasing the risk of developing mania or depression and therefore increasing the risk of eventually needing meds.
A close family member has s4 cancer and it is progressing. I live across the way from her and want to help care for her when things head south, which is beginning to happen.
My husband is stationed in another state and only able to visit on holidays, so I am essentially a single parent w/very little outside help.
My husband wants me to switch jobs to work at the local hospital, 15 minutes away from home.
The facility close to home:
The place is little, med-surg is not as high-paced. They have no pcu; their icu is more like our pcu. Their med-surg mixes peds and adult patients. I am not comfortable working with peds. They compensate longer and crash faster than adults. They have parents, some of who may not be so nice, which means I might sometimes have to do the unpopular thing: report it to the proper departments. I live in this community and my children attend school here. These peds might be my kids' peers and/or classmates. I would have to interact with their parents. Any perception of me might be extended to my poor, innocent kids.
I would be med-surg, but in reality they would float me wherever; I would belong nowhere, not really. I hate instability! I hate change. The pay is not as nice as where I am, but I guess the savings on gas would somewhat balance that out.
I am heartbroken about the change. My hubby says it does not matter what I prefer as far as jobs, I must do what is best for the family, regardless of how I feel about it. He states, and I usually agree, that we must do what is best for the family, even if it is not what is best for us. I just do not know if I can be as good at my job if I am unhappy with where I am and if that is the case, I might as well just quit.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.