A Father's Tears - page 4

I received his mother, AA, to a room on our floor shortly after midnight one night. She had presented to ER at 15+ weeks gestation with ruptured membranes and intermittent vaginal bleeding; the OB... Read More

  1. by   Lorie P.

    thanks for such a powerful story that showed that both parents needed closure . thanks for being able to allow this father to say good-bye to his son and taking the chance of the dad!

    like others have said, sometimes the father is left out because dads don't have the bond that a mom does when carry the baby.

  2. by   macspuds
    I am most grateful to this father for having the courage to share these thoughts with others.
    This article has brought tears to my eyes as well.
    How wonderful it is to see the other side of an event such as this.
    May the blessings of The Great One go with this family.
  3. by   Roy Fokker
    Damn! Maybe it's the long shifts I've been working or maybe it's the fact that my Father's birthday is coming up ... but it reminded me of something that has long been a "family secret" which also incidentally concerns myself, my brother and our Father.

    Father's never been a very "emotional person" around us - but deep down inside, I know he hurts and grieves on certain days of the year.

    Your article allowed me to catch a glimpse of what his world must be like.

    Thank you
  4. by   KaroSnowQueen
    My youngest DS had a stillborn baby, 17 wks early. His mourning was actually mocked by his beloved's parents. Thank you for your story.
  5. by   mandykal
    wow, you made this guy cry!
  6. by   naners0978
    I'm crying now. Thank you for posting that. Daddies love their babies just as much as a mother.
  7. by   skilledteacher
    Thank you for your story. I just sat and wept as I read the last several sentences to your experience. It is truly striking and meaningful. Having miscarried myself I find this story strengthening and almost consoling. My husband never grieved nor felt it was okay or appropriate to do so. It is sometimes so hard for men to let down the expectations society has for them and just let the emotions flow in and out. This is truly a beautiful inspiring story. Thank you so much for sharing it with others.:heartbeat
  8. by   Midwest4me
    Incredibly touching; thank you for sharing it!
  9. by   oceanstar08
    As someone who has lost four babies, this story touched me and made me realize that I was not the only one that was hurting. Thank you.
  10. by   kendall16
    Thank you for sharing such a story. Reading it was heart wrenching but it opened up my eyes to making sure to include and think about the father of child that has passed on. I am going into nursing and am really glad that you posted this story, you have a wonderful way of writing.
  11. by   DaveCRNA
    All I can say is thanks for sharing your experience. I was moved to tears by your story. It is nurses like you that make us all remember why we are here!! You were able to ease both a mother's and father's pain through your own caring and compassion.

    Thank you!!!!:wink2::wink2::wink2:
  12. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from Elvish
    This patient who in the recent past has affected my life most profoundly never actually took a breath on this planet.
    Thank you Elvish - got me crying this morning. In a good way though.

    Sometimes I am so grateful God made me a nurse and gave me these feelings (other times I am not so grateful!) But I would hate to have a nurse who could not be touched by a time such as this, wouldn't you?
  13. by   nurseontheway
    Thank you so much for writing this story. It really touched me.