Friends mad at me because I passed and they didn't?

[rmfrier]

Has anyone experienced their classmates whom you thought were your close friends mad at you because you passed HESI and NCLEX, and they haven't passed HESI after 2nd time? I am just flabbergasted. After phone calls were ignored, I finally found out that they didn't want anything to do with me. I just don't understand. I am just so hurt for them and me. I didn't even tell them that I took NCLEX, but of course they found out. SHould I just let it go? I am one of these people that can't handle friends being upset, but I know that I didn't do anything. Help!

[LEN-RN]

Okay, not to be mean, but just because you are in class with someone, and you study together, does not mean you are "friends." You are classmates. It sounds like you are a kind and sincere person. You put your heart in the relationship. They obviously did not. To them, you were a convenience. Their purpose was to get thru class not caring who they had help from.

Dont lose sleep over this, and dont plan on hearing from them. There are 2 different types of people out there, givers and takers. You are better off without them!!!

Good job on your accomplishments!!!

[NewTravelingNurse]

You didn't do anything?? Yes you did!! You passed a traumatic time and they didn't. Doesn't sound like 'true' friends to me...

OH BTW. Congrats on passing!!!

[Faeriewand, ASN, RN]

who says they think they are better? Everyone is always so quick to blame others when this world would be a better place if people would take a look at theirselves every once in a while- that was all I meant. Obviously this girl is hurt by her so called friends. This is just writing- I can't read minds. She explained and then I explained and that was it. I guess some people that read this get upset because I didn't feed fuel to this girls fire about her friends. "Ditch them" " lose them" " you are right" I don't see it that way and I have a right to my own opinion as you do as well. There are alot of misinterpretations with forums. She didn't have to explain herself she was asking for opinions and put her situation out there- and I gave her mine. THe end.

Whaaaat? I have no idea why you are replying to me like this. I gave my opinion. No reason to get so upset over nothing.

[iwilldothis]

Whaaaat? I have no idea why you are replying to me like this. I gave my opinion. No reason to get so upset over nothing.

I'm not upset and I was just making it clear that I wasn't implying that anything was this womans fault persay. She is married and has children- why would she become so upset with their behavior towards her if she says they live a different lifestyle and they added stress to her life during test and so on. If she was having people check on them at Kaplan? Why? If they didn't awnser my phone calls- ignore me- I would have been upset as well, but I have a life to live and husband and children to take care of. Of course her "friends" may live differently than she does. They are more than likely younger and single. Just another way to look at things. no pun intended:specs:

[Faeriewand, ASN, RN]

Oh ok thanks for the clarification :)

[LH1212]

I was close with two other classmates in my nursing program as well. We had even hung out quite a few times outside of classes and I thought they were wonderful people. We were in almost every class & clinical together. I was scheduled to take my exit exam the day before them. I passed the exam so of course I called them right afterwards (I actually had a missed call from one of the girls during the test wondering how I did and if I was out yet). I called her and we had a pleasant conversation. Later that night, I recieved a extremely rude email from one girl because she was mad I did not tell her everything I remember from the exit exam. I called and she did not pick up and left her 2 messages. She later emailed me back with another rude email. I called the other girl we were friends with and she hung up on me. That was over a month ago and I haven't seen or heard from either since. For a while I was really torn up about it because I was getting to be very close with the girls and I know that I had not done anything wrong. But my husband pointed out to me that it was better I found out early on that they weren't the people I thought they were.

I know it is hard, but just think of all the wonderful people that are in you life and are supporting you 100%! I know it is hard but I hope you can realize as I did that you don't deserve having people in your life who treat you so badly!

[racing-mom4, BSN, RN]

OK that is crazy--- A real friend would not be mad at you because you did well. I am sure you have plenty of other friends and will make even more when you start working.

Reminds me of a "friend" of mine once who asked to see my paper I wrote just so she could "see the flow" and all etc etc. Naive me e-mailed it to her so she could "look" at it over the weekend. A few weeks later she turned in her paper with cut and pasted PARAGRAPHS taken directly from mine!!!!!

Actually----she paid the price by having to take the class over and believe it or not, we have re-kindled and actually now today are friends. Nursing school does crazy things to people. So maybe once your friends pass and move in the right direction they will come around. Until then, keep your distance, you should be celebrating not be getting caught up in thier negativity.

I do have something to ask, what is HESI? I have seen that before on this site, but I have never heard of it. I graduated from nursing school in Indiana and what ever HESI is, I dont think we use it.

[karendc21]

Hey!

Don't be so affected by being ignored by your so called ''friends".. I don't even think that they are real because even though they failed, they shouldn't be so bitter of your success...If you were in their shoes, what would you do? wake up girl...