Don't ever forget that you were once a new nurse!!

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please, don't ever treat a new nurse like the nurse that was supposed to be orienting me treated me on my first day yesterday. i just started my first job since graduation, and all the clinical experience i had was from school. the job happens to be at a nursing home. i was assigned to a nurse who apparently disliked me from the very moment she set eyes on me. prior to her arrival, i was with a different nurse who at least explained to me what she was doing, and how the documentation is done at the facility for the different kinds of meds (very different from what i was used to at the hospital during clinicals). anyway, i came with a "willing to learn anything and everything" attitude and had decided that i would ask questions when i needed to. so when the second nurse came, she did not even bother to introduce herself, or ask me my name. so i decided to ask her name, to which she responded without even much as a glance at me. anyway, she would be chatting with someone and the next thing i know she is gone. she never attempted to show me any procedure or explain what she was doing or why. she would not talk to me unless i asked a question and would only give me curt responses. then out of the blue, she asks me to go give coumadin to a pt. so i have no clue where the coumadin is, or where to chart afterwards. so i ask her where it is, and she points to the cart. a med-aid eventually came and helped show me where to get it from. every question i asked was met with a "what do you mean" with a sneer on her face. eventually, with a sneer on her face she asked me if i was a new nurse, i said yes and thought phew! maybe now she will understand where i am coming from. anyway, she disappeared again, and by this time, i only had 3 hrs left to go, and i felt like i had learned nothing from her. so someone else, out of pity, pointed out a different nurse (whom we will call nurse x) for me to follow so i can watch him do the med rounds.

nurse x was awesome! he explained everything as far as the procedures, let me do them as he watched...when bam! out of the blue, the previous nurse walks toward us and states in my general direction..."i just thought you should know that hall xyz is over there." meaning the hall i was supposed to be working with her. i say ok, then go back to where she was. she looks at me and tells me that she is already done and only has one pt to go (a blood sugar). so the previous nurses had allowed me to do their blood sugars, so i asked if i should do it and she responded with a curt "no!" i follow her in and out of rooms then she tells me.."why don't you go back to nurse x, since that's whom you wanted to be with?" i take a deep breath and figure, let's start over, i don't know what's going on here. so i explain to her that i'm a new nurse, i'm not familiar with their procedures, and that if she could just take time to explain the procedures and policies, i would appreciate it. she responds "well, i can't explain anything to you if you are not here." i say nothing (i had only followed the other nurse after someone suggested that i do so as everyone was feeling sorry for me. btw management was already gone, including my sup, who had assigned me to her...and this nurse was talking and acting normal with everyone else and talking and laughing with them. so she definitely just had a problem with me). i figure if she did not want to help me, she should have told me or the sup. anyway, i ask her what time she leaves, and she responds with a sarcastic "i don't know." i ask her what's next and she says "i don't know about you, but i am going on break," and walks off. when time came for me to leave, she was still around, and since she had come late and told me that she did not know when she was leaving, i was not sure whether her shift was over, or whether she was going to stay on to the next shift (the previous nurse had pulled a double, to cover for half this nurse's shift). so i asked her if she was going to give report and she says mhh hmmm (without looking at me). i let her know that i would like to stay and watch (even though i had clocked out). then i ask if the next nurse is in yet, and who is he/she? wordlessly, and once again without looking up she points to the general direction of 2 nurses. at this point i'd had it...i mean it's not as though i lack self esteem and have to take all this crap from her. so i just tell her that i decided to just leave, as i had already clocked out. she neither responded nor, acknowledged my statement. i thank her anyway, and leave.

i later found out that she had just come back from 3 days suspension due to her attitude (even though she was telling everyone that she just came from a nice vacation). anyway, everyone there was telling me to ask to follow a new nurse today. i have already lost and wasted one of my 4 days of orientation and can't risk losing any more. but at the same time, i don't want to cause any drama at my new job.

moral of this long post...please, please remember that you were once a new nurse, you all once had a day 1 on the floor, you all had questions, you all were unfamiliar with policies and procedures at a new job, you all needed someone to at the very minimum be civil with you and take you under their wing. don't ever forget where you came from, and most importantly, please, don't ever forget that you were once a new nurse!

Specializes in IM/Critical Care/Cardiology.

I've just come to terms with there are natural born teachers and some who are not. I took what I could from the experience and moved on. Do your job safely and according to procedure and if something looks "like a setup" avert it with tact and documentation. And keep killing her with kindness.

IMO some folks are so "threatened and insecure" with their own life let alone at their jobs, it makes one feel like they have to watch over their shoulder kind of thing.

I've given myself the old pep talk on the way to work and ask for guideance during my shift. I wish the circumstances were different for you, but unfortunetly there is always that one it seems. Nip it in the bud and know you are secure in yourself and your work. Best of luck.

Specializes in Jack of all trades, and still learning.

Is there a way you can pre-empt her by setting up a 'mediation' session between you, her and your senior? Thus she has to raise her 'concerns' and you can raise yours. Then she can suggest ways to solve them. That way you have a record of you trying to be a good nurse, and you have put her on the spot by making her set goals, in front of her manager.

Specializes in physician office, ortho/neuro.

I totally agree with you. I understand that being a preceptor is difficult and time consuming. However, remember that there is a nurse shortage going on. Research has shown that as many as 50% of new nurses leave their first job with the majority citing lack of orientation and bad preceptorship. The nursing shortage is not going to get any better if experienced nurses don't take accountabilty for helping new graduates/nurses out. Why is it that some nurses still rely on the sink or swim method of training?

Specializes in Developmental Disabilities.

There is a girl at my work who totally reminds me of this nurse! She is SO MEAN to new people...and anyone she deems "lower" than her, kisses management's booty, has gotten written up for "attitude problems." I have dealt with lots of people in my life and find it best just to avoid her.

Why do people have to act like that?! My philosophy is...if you don't like someone at work, be professional and polite and go home...you don't have to treat someone like dirt! As new grads we are already stressed out enough already, these people just make it worse!

Specializes in Operating Room Nursing.

missdeevah-I think that you need to document and date all these incidents with her. If things get worse and you wind up in the managers office it's handy to have some sort of record.

I think you may need to speak with her first before going to management. You might want to ask her if she has any issues at all she wants to speak with you about. I did some conflict management stuff at work and they advised when you confront someone never say 'you do this, or you do that'. Your meant to say that I feel that theres a problem here, can we talk about it?

I don't know why they would assign you to someone that was "just getting back from suspension". Did you confront her about it? Or just going based on what your friend is saying?

I'm not trying to defend what she did, the way she acted wasn't professional and no one should have to put up with it. But it sounds like this hospital isn't very organized in how they assign preceptors (because of the fact that she didn't know you were a new grad ..... and for the fact that they assigned you someone that supposedly was just suspended).

One thing to remember, not all people like precepting new people. And they shouldn't be forced to. Again, I'm not condoning her behavior .... she could have at least tried acting friendly and helpful. But if these people are just given an orientee and they don't want one, then it's not going to be a good experience for either person.

So now the thing to do is to go directly to the manager/educator, tell them you don't ever want to be paired with this particular nurse again (don't have to go into specifics, just that it's not working out, your learning styles aren't working together, etc) and would like to be with someone else so you can get the most out of the few days you have left.

Another thing, if by the end of your orientation time you feel like you need an extra day or two, ask for it. If it's truly a good place to work, then they'll work something out with you.

Good luck to you!

Why not go into specifics? At least just state the facts? Why the coy "not working out" stuff? Can we NEVER be up front with management?

I really want to know, not just being a wisea**

well, i'm not so sure what she was or was not told. i do know that she was aware that she was supposed to orient me. even if i was not a new grad, there was no reason for her to treat me like she did. no one should be treated like that, eve if you don't like them, at least show some common courtesy. but, like my friend pointed out to me...why did they even assign me to be oriented by someone who was just getting back from suspension r/t her attitude?

completely agree with you. nobody should be treated that way and to act that way in preceptor role is beyond words. no, that nurse should have not been assigned to anyone at all. that nurse herself should have been monitored for a while for her behavior. a preceptor should be someone pleasant, professional, and willing to teach the routine, policies and others. i am always willing to help a new face on the unit, whether it is a student, new grad, new hire or a nursed pulled to that unit for a shift. i remember my orientation phase and i feel like as i was not oriented the way i should have been.

Specializes in LDRP.

I'm sorry you are getting pooped on!!

((((HUGS))))

Not only will I never forget being a student or new nurse, I am already actively helping the students and new nurses I encounter in my job.

Let's try to make the nursing field a more positive place to work! :)

I had one sort of like that when first started on our floor. As time went on, I realized she was taking students so she could lighten her own load for day. It went like this: you the student did everything while she sat at the nursing station and joked all day long. If you came to her with a question, you'd also get the "sneer," or the look like "why are you bothering me?"

I literally had staff nurses whispering to me behind her back while I was on the floor to get another preceptor. And within a month, I did. My own orientation has had to be extended her by a week or so because the first month was such a waste.

Lo and behold, though, management keeps handing off new grads to this nurse. I have no idea why. Everyone willl mention with this quizzical look like "why is this lady so rude? She won't answer any of my questions ...all I want to do is learn, etc, etc. "

But I figure if the hospital wants to charge me such an exhorbitant amount for my orientation if I leave, they'd better darn well give me a decent preceptor. I demanded the best ones and I complain now if I get someone that rubs me the wrong way. I'm sorry -- but I'm being "charged" for this orientation in a way. I have to pay it back if it's bad and I'll also pay for it in terms of being incompetent if it's inadequate.

I have no idea why mangement keeps putting new nurses with oddball preceptors. Makes no sense. Even THEY know this woman does this to every new grad ...but they keep doing it!

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