Last night at work I had my first experience with death.
I'm not freaked out about it, just, well, affected by it and it's heavy on my mind.
I've never even been around anyone dying in my personal life..the closest I've ever been to a dead person was twice at funerals. Wow..how lucky I am, at 34.
Went to work (CNA at a nsg home) at 1400..checked on this lovely lady on my first rounds..she said she was cold so I got her a blanket. She's normally very independent..talkative, oriented and altogether 'with it'. She'd gotten up for lunch that day, then laid down for a nap. The aide who had vitals that day took hers (routine) about an hour later and her bp was 70/28. She told the nurse, and word spread like wildfire through the building..the lady was a favorite of many. By 1530 she was mottling and her respirations were only 8 per minute. At about 1600, another aide poked her head out the door and waved me in as I walked down the hall..wasn't sure if she could find a pulse. I checked her with my stethoscope, told my co-worker we'd better get the nurse. It's a very odd sensation, putting your stethoscope where you know the heartbeat should be, and hearing nothing. The thing is though, you know by looking at them that you won't find anything, before you even check.
I got a little teary eyed, but thank goodness didn't disolve into a blubbering mess, which has been one of my greatest fears since starting nsg school. I'm one of those people that cry over sappy commercials on TV.
And then, I went on and got my run up for dinner. The funeral home came for her within about an hour.
I am overwhelmed by the permanence of it..the fact that it's done and there's no getting it back. I'm not overcome..a little sad for her family, but not totally freaked out or anything. Not even close to what I thought I might be. I've never experienced death firsthand like that, and just wanted to share. I did feel kind of weird about just letting it happen, and it added one more click to the wheel that is turning that will determine where I want to work in nsg. I think I want to be someplace where I can at least try to defy that permanent, irrevocable final step..or at least be part of the team that is trying to save that person. I totally understand and agree with DNRs..this was no exception, but it was till kinda weird..like I should have been doing something. I guess that goes back to the time I heimliched a 10 year old when I was a waitress. That's an amazing high.
Anyway, I'm disolving into a ramble, so I'll stop now. There's no other place in the world that I could have related this with knowledge that I'll be understood..thanks from a truly green student.
Deana