Feeling Guilty After Calling in Sick...

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I never call in sick. I mean, I have gone months and months without calling in sick. One day last week, however, I was legitimately sick, with nausea and vomiting and a low grade fever. I felt like I had no other choice but to call in sick, but I spent the entire day feeling incredibly guilty for not making myself push on and go in to work, especially since I work within a small department where it is very keenly felt whenever someone calls in sick and generally leaves the department short handed.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I guess what I would like to know is how you can NOT feel guilty if you call in sick when you truly are sick. I think part of it is because so many nurses are burned out and hate their jobs and call in sick when they're not necessarily sick, which makes me feel that my boss thinks that I, too, am just playing sick to get a day off.

I always feel really weird after I go back after calling in sick, almost like everyone is thinking, "Liar, liar...how was your day off?", because they had to pick up the slack from me being off, even though they never actually say it and are very nice.

I am not this paranoid in other areas of my life, so why is this such an issue for me? Any thoughts?

Specializes in ER.
Advice needed. Been at my job for a little over a year, and hadn't had to call off that whole year. Got the flu in November (and I do all my 12s back to back to back) so ended up having to call off 3 days. Still didn't feel that great coming back, but I hate calling off. Fast forward, I'm now home sick with pneumonia (great luck right?). I've called off twice (which apparently counts as one so long as it's consecutive), but I'm still feeling terrible. When I called off today, the nurse manager gave me the long sigh and really? tone. I've only been a nurse for 2 1/2 years total, but new at this hospital, but I don't call off like this. I'm going to play it by ear tomorrow and see how I feel, but I feel like I'm going dirty looks if I call off again. Suggestions/comments??

Pneumonia? Call in sick now for the rest of your set. Give them lots of time to get a replacement. Offer to send in a physician's sick note if you detect any doubt. Take guilt right off the table. If they are gracious about it you could fill in some time for someone else's sick call, but covering staffing is their job, not yours.

Specializes in ER.
I found out Friday morning I had strep. Started abx at 10am and my sup still had me go to work that night at 11pm. I called them back and confirmed, you know I'm contagious right.... :facepalm

With respect.. I don't understand having a supervisor "make" people come in after they've called in sick. Calling in sick isn't a debate, it's an information call. Don't even tell them what kind of sick, since some people take that as an opening to discuss the situation. You're just sick, unable to work, and any further discussion needs to take place when you are well and back at work.

With respect.. I don't understand having a supervisor "make" people come in after they've called in sick. Calling in sick isn't a debate, it's an information call. Don't even tell them what kind of sick, since some people take that as an opening to discuss the situation. You're just sick, unable to work, and any further discussion needs to take place when you are well and back at work.

I felt fine, just a really sore throat. I called because I was contagious and didn't think they would want me to come in. They asked me if I felt okay to work and I answered honestly, yes.

Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.

I work in NICU, and was recently suffering flu-like symptoms. I called in 2 days, with at least 12 hours notice. Do you think I felt the least bit of guilt about it? Not an ounce of it.

The last thing my critically ill patients needed was a nurse that might be transmitting the flu to them. Same for yours. A lot of managers don't understand this, because all they can see are the staffing numbers. We just have to hope we don't work for an idiot.

Specializes in adult psych, LTC/SNF, child psych.

I don't feel guilty anymore because I'm a supervisor and I trust my staff to do well in my absence (it's unlikely they'd get anyone to fill my spot as there is a 3-11 weekday supervisor, a w/e day supervisor and a w/e night supervisor and I'm the only 11-7 weekday supervisor). I always felt guilty as a staff nurse because we're so short staffed. Now as a supervisor I take call outs and while staffing a call out is pretty much impossible, it works out somehow, whether someone gets pulled or comes in early/extra or a unit manager works the floor. Unfortunately, we don't have ANY agency staff working for us so if there's no response from calls to staff, we're screwed, but that's just my little rant for today.

wow pneumonia is a serious things. Cant even imagine that a director would be sighing and giving an attitude and expect after one day sick with it to be well enough to go back to work. My hubby got it one year and I never in my life saw him so sick. He really probably was a whisper away from having to be hospitalized over it. I think he had to take 2 weeks off of work before he was strong enough to be able to do his job, but it took over 2 month before he really felt back to normal

The stomach bug is the one thing that will always bring me to my knees. I can handle almost anything but that. I am always in bed for at least 24 hours maybe longer if it hangs on. I really dont know how Some people have it and still think they can go to work and maybe once in awhile go to the bathroom if they need to.

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