hi everyone. i've taken the nclex recently and it's my 4th time not to have passed! today i went to church with my fam and guess who i saw? i saw some of my classmates from the same nursing school that i graduated with that are rns already and i also saw friends' of my parents who also knew that i was supposed to take my nclex soon. they've been asking if i'm a rn already and where i'm working. whenever they ask me these questions or similar to these i feel disappointed and discouraged. my reply to them is that i didn't take it yet. they wonder how come it takes me a long time to take the nclex since i graduated in summer of 2007. i'm just speechless...
my question is should i tell people the truth that i have taken the nclex but haven't passed yet even though i'm afraid they'll respond by putting me down and i'll just be embarrassed or should i just keep silent because i don't really think it's anyone else's business but mine to know if i passed or not? i'll share if i want to and with whom. when someone i know keeps asking me these same questions my confidence level just goes down.
can u please give me your opinions and advice about this matter. i'd really appreciate it. thanks!
Yes I to have taken boards 5 times and still have not passed... I don't understand why... I can rattle things left and right off but can't seem to pass that darn test... I to Have told some people and others not... I get so upset at people who keep asking... I usually end up telling them because they won't leave me alone.. I think they feel bad though when I finally do tell them but sometimes I think they are just nosey.. I wouldn't tell anyone unless you had to because I believe it gives you more stress to try and pass. I also feel at work the people look down on me because of my situtaion... I have told people several times.. that I don't want to talk about it and just because I didn't pass the boards doesn't mean I'm stupid and don't know anything... Even though I have proven time again and again and other nurses tell me I know you know it We can tell by just the way you take care of patients (i'm a Patient Care Assistant and Health unit coordinator) that I know what I am doing and I know how to prioritize my care... So keep your chin up and we WILL pass one day!
I guess it all depends on what you're comfortable with. For me I really didn't want to get any negative thots about what others were thinking and when I would be taking it. The first time I failed I let them know. But recently when I had taken it, I kept it a secret. I felt more comfortable that way since I knew people weren't gonna be asking me if I passed or not and I found out that I passed. =)
I agree with most of the reply of this thread. I too didn't pass the NCLEX twice. It's so embarassing returning to work and face my director of nursing and my other co workers. I can see it in my director's face that she was expecting a good news the day I returned to work but that didn't happen. So Im planning to follow suzanne's plan this time around and focus on prioritizations, delegations, and assessments because it seems like from many many people told me that they got those kind of questions and so did I on my last exam. Im not going to tell anyone when Im taking my test anymore because the pressure of passing is so great. I'll just secretly take the exam and hope to God I pass and when I do I'll return to work with a huge smile on my face . Good luck to everyone in the same shoes. We'll get it!!!
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hi everyone. i've taken the nclex recently and it's my 4th time not to have passed! today i went to church with my fam and guess who i saw? i saw some of my classmates from the same nursing school that i graduated with that are rns already and i also saw friends' of my parents who also knew that i was supposed to take my nclex soon. they've been asking if i'm a rn already and where i'm working. whenever they ask me these questions or similar to these i feel disappointed and discouraged. my reply to them is that i didn't take it yet. they wonder how come it takes me a long time to take the nclex since i graduated in summer of 2007. i'm just speechless...
my question is should i tell people the truth that i have taken the nclex but haven't passed yet even though i'm afraid they'll respond by putting me down and i'll just be embarrassed or should i just keep silent because i don't really think it's anyone else's business but mine to know if i passed or not? i'll share if i want to and with whom. when someone i know keeps asking me these same questions my confidence level just goes down.
can u please give me your opinions and advice about this matter. i'd really appreciate it. thanks!
the truth is, i myself have taken the exam three times and failed....i also graduated in may of 07 and i am currently workin at the hospital....i have lied to my family, co workers and some classmates that i have bumped into...i have avoided phone calls. text messages and comments on certain pages....because i was embarassed to tell them i had failed....i have seen some of my classmates workin as rns in my job and its been a year...i always feel down and dumb...but i have picked myself up and started suzannes plan....i have finished it and i am takin my boards this thursday.....i believe there is a right time for everything...god works in mysterious ways.......dont worry about what anyone has to say or what they think of u....just get back up , study and pass....you have come a long way and nursing school wasnt easy...there r many that cant even pass that....so have faith in yourself and believe that you will be an rn....good luck with your studies and keep your head up....:wink2:
i agree with most of the reply of this thread. i too didn't pass the nclex twice. it's so embarassing returning to work and face my director of nursing and my other co workers. i can see it in my director's face that she was expecting a good news the day i returned to work but that didn't happen. so im planning to follow suzanne's plan this time around and focus on prioritizations, delegations, and assessments because it seems like from many many people told me that they got those kind of questions and so did i on my last exam. im not going to tell anyone when im taking my test anymore because the pressure of passing is so great. i'll just secretly take the exam and hope to god i pass and when i do i'll return to work with a huge smile on my face . good luck to everyone in the same shoes. we'll get it!!!
i am in the same boat as you are...took my 2nd exam monday found out i failed wednesday..and at 75 questions...i already rescheduled my exam and the only people that know is all nurses, my husband and my mother. i am very tired of people asking me, i know they mean well but the stress is too much having to tell people, "no i failed again"...that gives me more anxiety sometimes than the test itself...best of luck...we can do this...at least we have people on this board to talk to that have been there, done that...that in itself is a blessing!!!!
I just remembered that it took John F Kennedy Jr several attempts to pass the bar (law ) and he had all the world watching and aware of his "failure". It really is not a failure, for him or any of you having to repeat the NCLEX.
Hum.....I would say you dont have to tell them you have tested and failed but I would try to avoid lying by saying you havent tested. Just simply say you are still studying for the test so that when you test you can be sure to pass. That is the truth without having to lie about not having taken it previously.
I myself didnt pass the first time and just simply didnt tell anyone I tested. I simply said to those that asked that I was planning on testing in a few months once I felt totally prepared. This was the truth...regardless of the fact that I had already tested once in June.
Hope this helps.
I also just found out yesterday that I failed.. I did tell a couple of trusted friends and aunties.. and also told them that I failed. So right now whenever someone asks me about it I just tell them that I am still studying and is still thinking about when to take it. I know the pressure but looking on the brighter side..you are now down and i suppose there is no way but UP.. so hang-on. we'll get by!:nuke:
and.. thanks to allnurses.. it keeps me company.:redbeathe
:heartbeatNice encouragement for us who will still take the examination, I am not scheduled yet , still waiting for my ATT and yet I am anxious already about everything, about what will happen next...i'vebeen away for nursing for 5 years, with 3 great kids (8,4,and 1y.o.), I am a school nurse at the moment (4 months now), so I can watch my kids in school while I am also working too LOL.
To all who will take the NCLEX-RN..we can make it !!!!
. Good luck to everyone in the same shoes. We'll get it!!! 
i know they mean well but the stress is too much having to tell people, "no i failed again"...that gives me more anxiety 
sometimes than the test itself...best of luck...we can do this...at least we have people on this board to talk to that have been there, done that...that in itself is a blessing!!!! 
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Yes I to have taken boards 5 times and still have not passed... I don't understand why... I can rattle things left and right off but can't seem to pass that darn test... I to Have told some people and others not... I get so upset at people who keep asking... I usually end up telling them because they won't leave me alone.. I think they feel bad though when I finally do tell them but sometimes I think they are just nosey.. I wouldn't tell anyone unless you had to because I believe it gives you more stress to try and pass. I also feel at work the people look down on me because of my situtaion... I have told people several times.. that I don't want to talk about it and just because I didn't pass the boards doesn't mean I'm stupid and don't know anything... Even though I have proven time again and again and other nurses tell me I know you know it We can tell by just the way you take care of patients (i'm a Patient Care Assistant and Health unit coordinator) that I know what I am doing and I know how to prioritize my care... So keep your chin up and we WILL pass one day!