Facebook almost cost me my job

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Hi AN family,

This topic has been discussed throughout many threads but I wanted to designate a single thread to this issue. I am a Facebook junkie just like many people from my generation.

I would never post anything patient related or anything that would breach HIPAA. I posted a very tongue-in-cheek status about the daily struggles of nursing (such as drug seeking patients, non-compliant patients, and the patients with a grand sense of entitlement to name a few).

It was meant to be sarcastic and humorous. Well, long story short, HR got a hold of it and almost fired me for it. They said it made me look like a cold, callous nurse and that doesn't sit well with their core values as a facility.

My point of this thread is to be extremely careful about what you post on the internet. My page was as private as it could be but they managed to view it through a "friend's" page.

Luckily, I was able to keep my job and learned a valuable lesson. Don't post work related ANYTHING on your social networking sites.

I was horrified at the number of us who think that posting a 'vent' on 'allnurses' is safer than posting it on Facebook.

Be warned - if it's on the web, it's there forever, and it WILL come back to haunt you.

It is not only about what you post, but if you are going to friend your boss, maybe you shouldn't complain about your job? Some people grant friend request to EVERYONE, whether they know them or not. I don't think that is good either.

Specializes in future speciality interest: Nurse Midwif.

Ounce I clock out of work I leave work behind.

I don't want to think about the patients or coworkers, etc

until its about an hour before my shift.

I dont get why nurses would carry the stress and nonsense

of the work environment out side the building

The most I'd do is vent to a close friend/family where

our conversation is private where other ears will not here.

and that would be the end of it...

Specializes in Emergency Room, Specialty Infusions.

It scares me too that I can't vent to my family or close friends. I have NO one on facebook from work for the fear of it getting back to work. But I realize that anything is possible. And if I write about my horrible weekend in the ER and it could get back to my employer. I am even afraid to write some things on allnurses.com

I wish I did have a job where I could "leave work behind"....but the daily pain of pulled muscles and worked induced strain is a constant reminder.

It isn't just being dumb enough to "friend" your boss. Your other friends will share with the boss or others what you put on your FB page if it makes the organization look bad or if you make your peers look bad. It could be something as simple as complaining (again) about your boss, your schedule, your co-workers or describing a situation that would be embarrassing to a patient in detail. Trust me, they share.

Frankly, any supervisor that "friends" staff members and vice versa should have their head's examined. Why they would want to know about the party where you got wasted or where you were when you called off "sick" is beyond me unless you want to have some subtle decrease in your evaluation or the discussion about values.

Yes, the internet lives forever ("google search" yourself or set up an alert if you don't believe me) and you can be viewed in many different ways and through many different "friend" pages on social media.

Yes, there are HR folks that look for this stuff with applicants in some places and it really doesn't matter if you delete your page or have it private. It can be found.

In today's job market, think carefully about what you post and be prepared for it to follow you for many years.

Facebook has caused more problems than its worth. It like other means of social networking has dumbed down society and got people fired, caused them not to be hired and has brought people to commit suicide, additionally who knows whos behind the profile. I admit I used to use facebook but then I matured and realized that its a big waste of time. If people are that interested in knowing what I had for lunch then they can call and ask me.

Specializes in Urology, ENT.
I think our world is corrupt now that literally everyone has facebook. not gonna lie, i'm a user of it too. But I do wish i wouldn't have ever signed up for it 5 years ago when it used to be just a 'college' network. Now i'm too far into it, and it's hard to let it go.. ahhh dumb! But honestly, right now I like this site allnurses wayyy more than facebook..haha. theres a lot of valuable info on this site and it's good to know that there are a lot of us going through the same thing, depending on different situations. I think that your job took it way out of hand too, really? you getting fired for that?? ridiculous. but anyway, at least now you know not to put anything like that on fb ever again. lesson learned.

I got rid of facebook when school started again (not deactivated; I deleted it completely). It was too much of a distraction. I went so far as to block facebook from my computer. It's been great actually -- yeah I don't know what everyone is doing, but then I'm actually happy to catch up with them, and I'm not always attached to my computer or my phone for an update.

no names or hospitals were mentioned - you were relaying the facts of life as they actually occur in every hospital - sounds like your freedom of speech is being undermined.

Specializes in Emergency; med-surg; mat-child.
I found AN while getting ready to go to nursing school, so posted a ton in the student section and in my state section for info and advice on schools I was considering as well as the school I ended up going to. That alone narrows it down quite a bit. My specialty narrows it down further. I post as though my full name appears on my profile.

I changed my user name because I realized I had posted too much identifying information. I feel more comfortable posting how, but I'm still more careful than i was. And I should know better: I've been online since 1986! Well, I sleep sometimes. :lol2:

First of all, I'd check my privacy settings if I were you. Personally, I don't even let friends of friends see anything on my page except for my name and profile picture. But even then, a coworker who you're friends with might have gone to HR.

In any case, I think the thing to remember about posting on Facebook is that, while it feels fairly private, it is not. Anything you say there should be something you'd be comfortable saying loudly in a quiet, crowded room filled with friends, family, coworkers, employers, potential employers, and complete strangers. I don't think there's anything at all wrong with venting, or employing some gallows humor to cope with a stressful job, but social networking sites aren't a good place to do it.

Specializes in med-surg, dialysis.
You did seem cold and callous and your employer was right to request this from you. I tend to view patients in a different light....those that YOU think are drug seeking, may have uncontrollable pain because they have become so tolerant (p...ain is subjective), the patient YOU think is noncompliant may be so tired of being in and out of hospitals because of a chronic illness that they have had to deal with for years and years, and the patient YOU thought had a sense of entitlement may be lonely and not have anyone at home and seeks attention anyway they can. Perhaps, YOU need to reevaluate YOUR patient approach NOT your patient's approach to you. It is not all about YOU.

I agree with your post, but your insights about patients come from years of experience. Our OP may be a young nurse starting out & has not gained these insights yet. Kind words of instruction go a long way rather than being harsh & judgmental.

Personally, I wouldn't get too carried away or nervous about all this. The fact is, that unless you have a contract and a union or something like that behind you, you can and will be fired if for any reason if your employer wants you out. He may just not like your nose, maybe you remind him of his ex-wife, it makes no difference. So long as the employer doesn't make some racist comment when firing you, and no one in their right mind would do that, you're gone.

I used to have a great job working for a health insurance company. Two years ago, a new CEO and human resources department took over. Six months later, the CEO himself of all people, happen to read a blog I write, which had nothing to do with my job although I did mention in the blog where I worked. Immediately terminated, on grounds of "unacceptable use of the company email system". I had been there 15 years and only good reviews, promotions, raises, etc. Today I'm making 1/4 my former salary.

You may drive to work with a bumper sticker that says "I'm pro-choice and I vote" or "Abortion is murder" or whatever, some executive reads it, doesn't like it, you could be out work immediately. They'll make up some reason about your "negative attitude" or something.

I say: just do a good job, whatever will be will be.

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