Explaining Absence During Colleague's Vacation

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In a couple of weeks, my colleague will be out on vacation (and deservedly so).  This means, however, my workload will basically double.  Instead of overseeing 28 patients, I'll be responsible for 56. 

I don't forsee this as going successfully.  In my opinion, they're probably better off with no manager at all than having me there.  Patients are going to need things I can't give and families are going to have questions I can't answer.  There are going to be things that come up that my colleague is better suited to handle that will ultimately fall on me.  

One example would be is that there is a Care Conference scheduled for a patient that my colleague would normally oversee.  This patient has a new urostomy; I am anticipating the patient and/or family may have questions regarding this.  However, this is not one of my areas of expertise and something someone else should address.  In my opinion, this patient and family are better off having no nurse attend at all than having someone like myself there. I am tempted to not show up to work that day as a result.  

In fact, I've thought about simply not coming in at all that week.  I simply won't be successful in managing so many patients and strongly believe my coworkers, patients and family members will be better off if I am not there.  This obviously means no manager, but it's better than having me there.  

The trick, then, is how do I pursue not coming in that week? How do you excuse yourself from work, knowing fully well someone else is on vacation? 

Specializes in Primary Care, Military.
8 hours ago, FolksBtrippin said:

This thread has definitely crossed the line from busting someone’s silver bells to bullying.

Hope SB really is taking a break from all nurses.

Cause we suck right now.

 

Oof. Point taken. My sincerest apologies to Silver Bells and all of you. 

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Specializes in Cardiac.
On 8/21/2021 at 5:33 PM, SilverBells said:

 As a solo manager, I'm not such a good person to have around

Good self assessment. Since you know (knew) about the patient problem before your coworker leaves, ASK HER TO HELP YOU LEARN THIS, or research it yourself.  Find out what questions they have and get back to them. What would you do if YOUR patient had questions you didn’t have an immediate answer for? I hope you would get back to them after researching the problem. 
This post mystifies me totally!! Do what you were hired for! What does your coworker do when you have a week off? 

On 8/21/2021 at 11:24 AM, SilverBells said:

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In a couple of weeks, my colleague will be out on vacation (and deservedly so).  This means, however, my workload will basically double.  Instead of overseeing 28 patients, I'll be responsible for 56. 

I don't forsee this as going successfully.  In my opinion, they're probably better off with no manager at all than having me there.  Patients are going to need things I can't give and families are going to have questions I can't answer.  There are going to be things that come up that my colleague is better suited to handle that will ultimately fall on me.  

One example would be is that there is a Care Conference scheduled for a patient that my colleague would normally oversee.  This patient has a new urostomy; I am anticipating the patient and/or family may have questions regarding this.  However, this is not one of my areas of expertise and something someone else should address.  In my opinion, this patient and family are better off having no nurse attend at all than having someone like myself there. I am tempted to not show up to work that day as a result.  

In fact, I've thought about simply not coming in at all that week.  I simply won't be successful in managing so many patients and strongly believe my coworkers, patients and family members will be better off if I am not there.  This obviously means no manager, but it's better than having me there.  

The trick, then, is how do I pursue not coming in that week? How do you excuse yourself from work, knowing fully well someone else is on vacation? 

Who is going to cover your original workload? Won't the other nurses need your support or support of a manager? I'm sure the families, patients and nurses would be happy that you at least show up and this includes you saying you are just covering for someone while they are out and may not have the answers, instead of being a no show. 

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Specializes in Rehab/Nurse Manager.

FYI: Week is over.  I never did call out.  Week was very busy, as expected,  but everyone survived 

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Specializes in School Nursing.
26 minutes ago, SilverBells said:

FYI: Week is over.  I never did call out.  Week was very busy, as expected,  but everyone survived 

You make it sound as though you should be congratulated for doing your job. 

Specializes in Rehab/Nurse Manager.
26 minutes ago, beachynurse said:

You make it sound as though you should be congratulated for doing your job. 

Nah, I simply did what was expected.  It was better than the contemplated alternative though, which would have been calling in.  No congratulations have been earned, but I guess at least I didn't screw my coworkers or patients over.  

Most of the issues I was fretting about turned out to be non-issues

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Specializes in Primary Care, Military.
22 hours ago, SilverBells said:

Nah, I simply did what was expected.  It was better than the contemplated alternative though, which would have been calling in.  No congratulations have been earned, but I guess at least I didn't screw my coworkers or patients over.  

Most of the issues I was fretting about turned out to be non-issues

Importantly, you managed to work through what was clearly causing you a great deal of anxiety and demonstrated resilience. You indeed were capable of handling everything in your co-managers absence despite the negative self-talk. If we're trying to manage conditions like depression or anxiety, battling that negative self-talk really can be like pushing a rock up a steep hill. It can make avoidance of what is causing the anxiety appear to be the better choice, regardless of the consequences. I hope you're feeling better, or if you are having difficulties, that you reach out for some assistance. The work we do is difficult and can wear any of us down. 

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Specializes in Hospice, corrections, psychiatry, rehab, LTC.
On 9/3/2021 at 8:28 PM, SilverBells said:

Nah, I simply did what was expected.  It was better than the contemplated alternative though, which would have been calling in.  No congratulations have been earned, but I guess at least I didn't screw my coworkers or patients over.  

Most of the issues I was fretting about turned out to be non-issues

I commend you for sucking it up and taking on something that obviously caused you anxiety. We tend to imagine worst case scenarios when we think of assignments that we don't feel confident about. What usually happens falls well short of that. Now you have proven to yourself that you can handle this. Good job.

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