Hi guys! So background... I have been nursing for almost 10 years but new to ER nursing. It was a big learning curve but I’ve felt like I’ve found my groove and everyone has been giving me great feedback (I had no concerns on how I was reforming). Well until now I guess..
OK so I just need to vent.. I saw my manager today to ask about vacation time and we were talking and she’s like ‘how are you doing, are you liking it here’ so I tell her for the most part yes, obviously there’s days that are harder than others. She then says ‘oh I’ve heard from some Charge nurses that you like to go in the separate break room to chart or look up your patients and they were worried’ so I explained I like to go there sometimes on my break only for the peace and quiet especially on some crazy days and she’s like oh OK yep that makes sense.
So then I approached one of the charge nurses who I knew was the one who told my manager this and she was so rude to me. I was completely taken back from her cold response. I explained to her that I hope she wasn’t worried that I wasn’t staying on top of things and she goes ‘ ugh yes quite frankly I am concerned because you’re the only one who does it and I don’t think you’re charting in real time’ and scoffs and walks away. I literally felt like crying. Just needed to vent and shake it off. It completely killed my morale and I am so upset. To the point that I just want to look for another job. I am usually one to shake things off but this is killing my morale. Any advice or similar experiences??
First, I feel like several of the responses here seem to push the boundaries of supporting each other. Second, we all have days that stuff bothers us more than other days.
Third- there could be some meaner/hardened nurses there. I would try to chalk it up to the charge nurse as having a bad day. I try to get along with everyone because life is too short otherwise. Do you have any nurses you feel comfortable with yet? If so, I would get their opinion on how you are doing, and with the feedback, you are getting, that seems harsh. Some people do not know how to be tactful or care to be.
Please do not let this event change the course of what you are doing. I frequently keep my nose down and continue to work and let coworkers slowly decide whether or not they like me. I do not care if someone I work with" likes" me. I do demand that they act professionally with me and help if a patient needs it.
If this "manager" was so concerned about you going into the separate break room, why didn't she go in the room when you were there to see what you were doing?
"Managers" love to exert their "power" any way they know how. Since there is obviously nothing wrong with your clinical performance, this is what the "manager" decided to make up. Nurses, in general, think nurses that don't share every personal detail of their life with everybody are "suspicious" or hiding something. You go into the alternate break room for the peace and quiet. In the regular break room, that's where everyone spills the details about their marriage, children, families, friends, and gossip about others. There is nothing wrong with staying out of the "gossip station". "Because no one else does it" is totally irrelevant----you are not doing anything wrong. Not spilling the details about your personal life has no effect on your clinical performance.
If that "manager" wants to act like a b*tch, let her. Keep doing what you're doing. Don't quit because of one stupid remark that bears no relevance to your performance.
Sadly, it appears ERnurse81 has left the building as her username has been modified to the generic "guest user" that usually happens when a person deactivates their account. This turn of events might give us a better idea of how things went down. I
Agree! If OP has a problem accepting any perceived criticism here on AN..criticism in the work place will be too much for her.
That definitely was not bullying. The charge nurse did the right thing by taking her concern to her boss. Her job is not to confront you but rather to run the unit on her shift.
I will also lay odds that there are other things you do that concern her. You might want to take this as an opportunity to evaluate yourself and see what might appear to be off to the other staff.
Charge should have spoken directly to the OP before tattling to the boss. This is what I hate about relationships - people are so rarely up front with those about whom they have a concern, but they are not the least bit hesitant to go to the boss.
In this case, how come the boss didn't, within a day or 2 or 3, make this situation known to the OP? Or, better yet, tell the $^)^$!@%# boot-licking Charge to talk to the OP?
Part of running the unit is to express concerns to staff being supervised.
And no, OP, wrong though it was, that is not bullying.
Hi, I just want to jump in to show you my support. Yes, please vent here. We all need to support your feelings since they are real. Nurses are known for being catty and mean to eachother. I would have been upset that someone was unable to speak to me about it rather than going straight to a manager. The charge nurse sounds like a real "Bxxxh" to me. She could have just checked on you and asked if everything was OK when you were in that room. You would have explained it and then it should have been resolved. Take care and keep your head up.
Don't stoop to her level. It will only haunt you. It will make you look unprofessional and looked down upon by others, especially your supervisors. Take the high road.
I think ure going into a separate room to get away from them and do your work unlike them who r socializing and maybe slacking. U did a great thing for ure patients and job as a nurse. It’s good to be alone rather than bad company LOL. Some nurses maybe jealous? But I have sympathy because they probably went through the same thing. Sorry they hurt your morale that was not nice and it will be hard for u to do a good job now. I hope you can recover.
sunshines66, BSN
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First, I feel like several of the responses here seem to push the boundaries of supporting each other. Second, we all have days that stuff bothers us more than other days.
Third- there could be some meaner/hardened nurses there. I would try to chalk it up to the charge nurse as having a bad day. I try to get along with everyone because life is too short otherwise. Do you have any nurses you feel comfortable with yet? If so, I would get their opinion on how you are doing, and with the feedback, you are getting, that seems harsh. Some people do not know how to be tactful or care to be.
Please do not let this event change the course of what you are doing. I frequently keep my nose down and continue to work and let coworkers slowly decide whether or not they like me. I do not care if someone I work with" likes" me. I do demand that they act professionally with me and help if a patient needs it.