Eating Their Young

heron, ASN, RN · Jan 18, 2017

Seems like you've been a nurse for bit. I'd like to hear your opinion upon the points in the video. Surely, somebody with such a high post to like ratio could come up with something more clever than "angry, brittle, person."

You didn't ask me, but I watched as much of the video as I could. For myself, I found the points in the video to be old news. She's basically restating ideas that have been around for years.

sickonXmas · Jan 30, 2017

not sure what qualifies as bullying. there are a couple of old hags at my hospital who have unresolved issues with themselves.

i'm going on 3+ yeas now. i've gotten:

"you're not a nurse." not sure what that meant. my response was: "odd... i am your RN coworker."

one walks away during mid report.

another bumps me with her computer cart

this one likes to make a scene about the patients refusing me as their nurse. not sure what transpired in the patients' room. note, i've only been refused twice and she was the oncoming shift nurse BOTH times. on the other hand, i've also been recognized by patients and their family members as an outstanding nurse.

one always tells me how i'm screwing up. for example, i was reprimanded because i gave a patients benadryl to assist sleep (it's indicated for itching) because he didn't have a sleeping aid ordered and i didn't want to call the MD at 2AM. ironically, it's perfectly fine when she does it.

one even randomly called me stupid, once. lol

doesn't bother me as much as it used to.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jan 30, 2017

not sure what qualifies as bullying. there are a couple of old hags at my hospital who have unresolved issues with themselves.
i'm going on 3+ yeas now. i've gotten:
"you're not a nurse." not sure what that meant. my response was: "odd... i am your RN coworker."
one walks away during mid report.
another bumps me with her computer cart
this one likes to make a scene about the patients refusing me as their nurse. not sure what transpired in the patients' room. note, i've only been refused twice and she was the oncoming shift nurse BOTH times. on the other hand, i've also been recognized by patients and their family members as an outstanding nurse.
one always tells me how i'm screwing up. for example, i was reprimanded because i gave a patients benadryl to assist sleep (it's indicated for itching) because he didn't have a sleeping aid ordered and i didn't want to call the MD at 2AM. ironically, it's perfectly fine when she does it.
one even randomly called me stupid, once. lol
doesn't bother me as much as it used to.

You say you're not sure what could be counted as bullying. Perhaps you don't realize it, but referring to your colleagues as "old hags" could be construed as bullying. Stating that they have "unresolved issues with themselves" could also be termed bullying. So far as I can see, the bully in your particular situation is you.

sickonXmas · Jan 31, 2017

You say you're not sure what could be counted as bullying. Perhaps you don't realize it, but referring to your colleagues as "old hags" could be construed as bullying. Stating that they have "unresolved issues with themselves" could also be termed bullying. So far as I can see, the bully in your particular situation is you.

my preceptor was over 50 at the time of my training. i never referred to her as "old hag" or "having unresolved issues" with herself. i work with a few wonderful people in their 60s. what happened to these others?

1 of them (who berates me often) i hold highly in regards to her "nursing" capabilities. to try to make my peace with her, i covered her sick time, once.

another, called me blind because i told her, her iv bag was almost empty. there was 50cc left in there and the pump was beeping, so i slowed the rate to KVO. at the nursing station, she said "what? are you blind? thing is half full.

1 even accused me of stealing the the unit camera when it was lost. it was in another patients' room.

i guess i'm the bad guy/bully because i referred to these folks with s***** attitudes as "old hags" and having "unresolved issues" on allnurses. i never did anything to receive that type of treatment from them. awesome logic, i guess. can't say i never tried to build a working relationship with any of them.

allnurses Guide · Jan 31, 2017

Don't look now, but your misogyny is showing.

Must be why I voted for Trump.

sickonXmas · Jan 31, 2017

You say you're not sure what could be counted as bullying. Perhaps you don't realize it, but referring to your colleagues as "old hags" could be construed as bullying. Stating that they have "unresolved issues with themselves" could also be termed bullying. So far as I can see, the bully in your particular situation is you.

And... my use of "old hag" was in reference to nurses who've been in the industry for a while. I have no issues with old nurses. Wrong choice of words on my part. Can't either original post.

Wuzzie · Jan 31, 2017

And... my use of "old hag" was in reference to nurses who've been in the industry for a while. I have no issues with old nurses. Wrong choice of words on my part. Can't either original post.

We prefer "Battle-Axe" thank you very much. :whistling:

heron, ASN, RN · Jan 31, 2017

We prefer "Battle-Axe" thank you very much.

Better yet, Crusty Old Bats :lol2:

Julius Seizure · Feb 22, 2017

I did not accuse anyone on here of being a bully.. nor do I expect people to be perfect. I think we should be decent human beings to each other. Remember at any point a coworker can become a patient. At what point does the bully see them as worthy of their compassion?

This just caused me to wonder....the poster seems to imply that the reason a coworker should be treated with compassion/kindness is because they might someday be a patient. Shouldn't fellow humans generally be treated with decency....simply for being fellow humans? It seems very "nursey" to frame it as mattering because they could be patients someday.

Something about that rubs me the wrong way, but I'm having trouble putting it into words eloquently.