Don't let yourself get sucked in by BM'ers and DG'ers

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN]

We had a different teacher come teach for one of our lectures today, she is an amazing women and nurse, super smart, she didn't start working as an actual teacher at our school (she is a CI though) until after we got done with the classes she is teaching. BUMMER because she is such an amazing teacher. Anyway, we got a really crappy EKG class last semester so she came in to refresh us on that today since she is now covering that class. Cardiac ICU is her specialty. She was so engaging and FUNNY, OMG we were crying from laughing to hard. She is very real world and has hilarious stories.

SO ANYWAY! She was giving us tips and advice as new grads, she said to stay away from the BM'ers and DG'ers. (we have them in real life and even on these boards) That is her nick name for "itchers and moaners" (not really itchers but you get the point) and "Doom and Gloomers"

So true, she said for every 5 mins of negativity you are around, it can suck up about an hour of your energy. Just her own theory and observation. But seriously, how true is this?

So to any new students now joining this section, if you want to have a positive experience, STAY AWAY FROM THESE PEOPLE! They seriously will suck the life out of you if you let them. They will make you start focusing on the negative things and all of that. They will drag you down so they have someone to be miserable with. Don't let it happen.

Nursing school is what you make of it. It doesn't have to be a terrible experience that takes all of your time and energy and you are miserable and super stressed for the next few years. Surround yourself with positive people that have a good energy. Allow yourself a few hrs to feel sorry for yourself if something negative comes and then pick yourself up and move on.

Don't be one of those people that only ever has something negative to say.

I mean really, who wants the nick name of a BM'er

Good luck to all the new grads and all the new students!

[sumrtime]

Thank you so much for posting this. I really needed to hear that too. I've been a little down lately because I'm not real buddy-buddy with hardly any of my classmates anymore..but this reminded me why I backed away from them in the first place...they "itched" too much! Lol! Seriously, as nurses we need to encourage each other because only WE know what WE are going through. New nursing students: Don't follow the crowd! Surround yourself with others like you...appreciative to have the opportunity to be in nursing school and optimistic about your future!

[whichone'spink, BSN, RN]

I try not to be a BM'er, but I worry excessively about when I graduate, making me a closet DG'er. I don't talk about these things with people though.

[anonymousstudent]

ITA with her. They are EVERYWHERE though and they are toxic.

When I was a manager I would always tell my new hires to find somebody who did thier job well and LIKED it and stick with them until they felt confident.

[Despareux]

Yes! I tune out the toxic and then avoid them like the plague. I have a job to do and can't afford negative influences.

[cogath]

Thank you so much for posting this. The negativity runs rampant in our nursing class. One girl literally picked on me and was catty to me on top of having nothing good to say about anything regarding school and clinicals -- always complaining, making very rude and spiteful remarks. I have heard a lot but some of the things that come out of her mouth have made me pause momentarily in disbelief. Needless to say I got her and her "bff" in my clinical group this rotation too, with their matching bad attitudes and tendency to try and cut me down with petty remarks (i.e. by telling me my hair isn't good enough, my cottage cheese looks disgusting, etc -- *****).

I am going to avoid them like the plague and, after venting here, forget about them. Thanks for this post.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

I am very glad I could help. Years and years ago I was surrounded by so much negativity and it definitely took it's toll on me. I finally had to end relationships with those people or keep them at a very arms length distance. It has dramatically improved my own feelings.

I mean, I still get down at times, I get mad, annoyed, frustrated and so on. But I make sure not to let it last and bring me down for long. I try to make the best of every situation and I try to always learn from things and have a positive outlook.

I think this outlook is the main reason I have really enjoyed nursing school, had a great experience with clinicals and instructors, have never experienced 99% of the horror stories I have seen here, and nursing school has never been my life. It's never been a "big deal" in relation to it ruining or running my life. I have had numerous people always tell me "OMG How do you do it, blah blah blah" and I always find it so off because I never see myself as some extraordinary person for the things I have come through, it's just a part of my life.

Anyway, BEST OF LUCK TO EVERYONE!!!!!

If you stay away from these types of people and keep a positive outlook on things, I guarantee you that nursing school or whatever you face in life will not be as bad.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

With all the new students I am seeing post I wanted to bump this up! I just wanted to add too, I received wonderful feedback from a phone interview, the #1 thing the HR lady said was that I just radiated enthusiasm and passion for nursing and positivity. It really does pay off to keep a good attitude. This is coming from a New Grad in an area where jobs are few and far between and this was a hospital. It doesn't always have to be doom and gloom.