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Does lack of motivation means no no to nursing?

Hey Everyone

I just want to ask for some advice or encouragement if I may? This week is finals week for me and right now I am not even motivated to take them. This whole semester to me was a waste I beleive. I know the material , but I am just not focusing on the work and my grades are showing because of that. I am begining to wonder if my lack of motivation with my studies is telling me that nursing may not be for me. I am a new mom so that may be oneof the reasons , but then there are new moms out there who do what is needed to be done. I am transfering to get my bsn , however I have to finish up my pre-req before I can transfer. The CC I am atending is not as helpful as it should and I feel that this is also another factor . When I go to the biology lab there is never any one there to assist the students because its runned by students so I donteven bother. I hope someone can just share a word of encouragement. Thanks

Nichole

if you are unsure maybe you can shadow a nurse in your area. that may help you decide if nursing is really what you want. i know after i had both of my kids i wasn't very motivated to do anything that took me away from them. that could be a big factor for you and not so big for others. if you are not in hurry maybe take a semester off to be with your baby and find a renewed motivation!

You need to step up and take responsibility for your actions (or lack of them). Forget your baby. Forget your bad college. Starting going over all of your notes in a barricaded room where nothing except for a bit of light from a small window can get into the room and study you ass off! This is how you survive finals week!

Lisa CCU RN, RN

Specializes in Geriatrics, Cardiac, ICU.

Personally, I think if I gave up on everything I wasn't particularly motivated to do, I'd be in a mess.

No, I don't think yes because you are feeling unmotivated now it means you don't need to be a nurse.

How old is your baby? Did this lack of motivation start only after the baby was born? Could be related.

HeartsOpenWide, RN

Specializes in Ante-Intra-Postpartum, Post Gyne.

are you doubting that you want a nurse or do you just have schoolitis? I just completed my first year of a BSN and I was so ready for finals to be over with that It was hard to make myself study. Not because I do not like school or not because I don't want to be a nurse, but because I was burnt out, but after busting my hump to get an A- in patho and pharm it is understandable why I was ready for a break. This last week has been relaxing.

are you doubting that you want a nurse or do you just have schoolitis? I just completed my first year of a BSN and I was so ready for finals to be over with that It was hard to make myself study. Not because I do not like school or not because I don't want to be a nurse, but because I was burnt out, but after busting my hump to get an A- in patho and pharm it is understandable why I was ready for a break. This last week has been relaxing.

Yes I feel that me not focusing on my studies is leading me to believe that nursing isnt for me. I lie school but the issue is that Instead of going forward and progressing I am going two steps backwards and messing myself up. I am trying to take to many class at once thenI have to deal with coming home and being with my son. Its like if I feel like if I dont hurry and take these classes I feel like I am going to miss out. I have been doing this since 2001 andI still cant get it right.

I graduated hs in 01 and went a cc for pre-nursing , I got discourage becuase of the wait and left to go to another school . I got my associates in health and I statred working for an insurance company. Long story short I had my son stopped working, went back to school . I just want this , but my question to myself is at what cost? I am so giving to everyone and when it comes to me I dont see people being there for me. Thanks for listening to my bable.

Personally, I think if I gave up on everything I wasn't particularly motivated to do, I'd be in a mess.

No, I don't think yes because you are feeling unmotivated now it means you don't need to be a nurse.

How old is your baby? Did this lack of motivation start only after the baby was born? Could be related.

My son is going on 11 months and and boy is he a handful, so this is where the no time to study comes in . I quickly give up becuase all I do is go to school and then come home to my son.

You need to step up and take responsibility for your actions (or lack of them). Forget your baby. Forget your bad college. Starting going over all of your notes in a barricaded room where nothing except for a bit of light from a small window can get into the room and study you ass off! This is how you survive finals week!

Your right I do need to take responsibilty . I am the type to find reason or fault for anything and when things dont go as should I question if this is for me. I cant forget my son. I just at a lost at the moment. Thanks for your reply.

if you are unsure maybe you can shadow a nurse in your area. that may help you decide if nursing is really what you want. i know after i had both of my kids i wasn't very motivated to do anything that took me away from them. that could be a big factor for you and not so big for others. if you are not in hurry maybe take a semester off to be with your baby and find a renewed motivation!

thanks , i am in a hurry, but being in a hurry is what is messing me up big time . i am rushing to take all these classes and not getting no where . on top of that i havemy son who has my focus i just want to be able to get somewhere.

You need to step up and take responsibility for your actions (or lack of them). Forget your baby. Forget your bad college. Starting going over all of your notes in a barricaded room where nothing except for a bit of light from a small window can get into the room and study you ass off! This is how you survive finals week!

I don't think this is necessary. Especially forget the baby part. That's rediculous. I have 3 kids and as much as I was ready for the semester to end, I was able to get through it and still be a mom to my kids.

IMO, you just need to do what you can to get through it. I have a feeling you just have summeritis more than anything. Once you are done with your finals, you will have a break (right??)... take it and spend it with your family and do something nice for yourself. If after a few weeks of freedom, you still feel like school/ nursing isn't for you, then maybe you can re-evaluate your situation. But for now, I would chalk it up to a long year and a very anticipated break.

Good luck to you!

Hey Everyone

I just want to ask for some advice or encouragement if I may? This week is finals week for me and right now I am not even motivated to take them. This whole semester to me was a waste I beleive. I know the material , but I am just not focusing on the work and my grades are showing because of that. I am begining to wonder if my lack of motivation with my studies is telling me that nursing may not be for me. I am a new mom so that may be oneof the reasons , but then there are new moms out there who do what is needed to be done. I am transfering to get my bsn , however I have to finish up my pre-req before I can transfer. The CC I am atending is not as helpful as it should and I feel that this is also another factor . When I go to the biology lab there is never any one there to assist the students because its runned by students so I donteven bother. I hope someone can just share a word of encouragement. Thanks

Nichole

Nichole I am sorry your feeling down, maybe right now just isn't the time, it doesn't mean nursing is not for you it just means maybe its not for you right now. Your a new mom enjoy your baby! it goes by quick and maybe thats what your mind/body is subcontiously telling you.

ps its ok to want to spend time "just" being a mom infact its a gift.

Its not a sign of failure or giving up on a dream but you are very young you have plenty of time you don't have to do it all at once.

My daughter was one when I went back to school and started taking my prerequisites. I run a daycare in my home and was able to keep my business running profitably, care for my daughter and do well in school.

I always kind of don't care so much at the end of a semester. That's usual for me for my general ed classes.

If you were working full time, all you'd be doing is working and then going home to your son. If you really want to be a nurse, you can do it. I know it's hard to sacrifice time with your child, but keep reminding yourself that you're doing it to make a better life for him and that may give you the motivation you need to continue.

Thanks , I am in a hurry, but being in a hurry is what is messing me up big time . I am rushing to take all these classes and not getting no where . On top of that I havemy son who has my focus I just want to be able to get somewhere.

I think your trying to bite off more then you can chew and getting burned out. Thats ok when its just you involved but right now you have a family too. My advise finish up this semester and take it much slower in the future, there is no shame in taking one class at a time finding a balance that works for everyone will help you out alot.

*Blessed2BaNRS*

Specializes in Neuro.

I agree with luv. You cannot forget your about baby. Bad advice above. You are first and foremost a mother of a baby. That is your first priority, over anything else. Secondly, we ALL go through these periods of no motivation at some point. That is normal. That does not mean that nursing isn't for you.

I just finished all my pre reqs and started on 4 other classes for a BSN while waiting for acceptance for an ADN. I was registered for 5 classes and had to drop one. I just couldn't keep up with all the work, 4 kids and keeping the family running smoothly. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and reprioritize. I got a real bad case of "summeritis/ schoolitis" this semester and didn't do as good as I should have at the end, and cost myself 2 A's. Oh well, that is what I get for not sticking with it. But I still got accepted into the ADN program starting August, so I have taken the summer off (I was originally registered for 4 more classes) to get a break and my motivation back before NS starts. It is okay to take a break!! Just get back into the groove, do your best and by all means, take care of that baby!!

The end of the semester was rough. I already knew I was in, so it was difficult to keep my focus on the pre-requisite class I was in, but I was able to maintain my A. It was close though.

Now I am having a hard time getting motivated to do the reading and studying things I had intended on doing. Maybe I just need a few days to recoup.

I havent lost my desire to do this nursing thing though, cause it is all I think about (day and night).

I can imagine with a new baby, it would be completely overwhelming with everything you have going. I could never forget about my baby. I put off school for many years just for that reason, but it doesnt mean you cant do it. You just have to really look at all that is going on and decide for yourself if you can spread yourself that thin. Babies do grow up fast. I cant believe mine is 15. I know I did the best thing in my situation, and I have NO regreats.

Thank you very much for all the encouragement everyone. I am going to regroup this week and try to figure some things out.

Thank you very much for all the encouragement everyone. I am going to regroup this week and try to figure some things out.

Another thing, you are so young. You have lots of time. ;)

Another thing, you are so young. You have lots of time. ;)

I hear that alot, but I dont want to use that as an excuse as to not try atleast. Its just so frustraiting at times .I am so hard on myself at times with the shoulda coulda would have , and should have done this before the baby came , but I am taking one step at a time ,at least I am trying to.;)

I agree with TexasAngel and Blessed. You are young and your priority one is your son. I waited until my son was 10 before I went back to school, but I am not saying you should wait that long. (I feel a little long in the tooth compared to my classmates) I think you may want to cut back on the class load and give yourself permission to enjoy more time with your son. Don't beat yourself up. You are doing what is right for you and your child. Also you can really concentrate your efforts on getting A's in those classes you do take and nursing schools are so competitive that you don't want to overload and have a negative impact on your GPA.

I disagree with the people who disagreed with me. Don't forget your priorities here: you have only one shot at doing well on your finals which could ultimately determine your fate in nursing. However, you have many chances to answer to the whims of a child (as my mom tells me, "it never ends"). Keeping focused during this critical time is hard enough without a little baby crawling around your work area and crying. Of course other people will tell you this is not so and the child always comes first. This is politically correct rhetoric that will damage your grades!

And seriously don't you have someone to care for him, maybe a spouse or relative? If not you may have to stick him in a playpen for a while with some toys and a TV dialed to a cartoon channel. Don't worry, he won't remember what you did and he'll be better off in the future because of your pro-activeness :)

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