Do you ever feel like you will be a student forever?

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Hey guys! I feel like if anyone could see where I'm coming from it would be you guys! I feel like I am going to be a student forever! My frustrations may come from the fact that I am taking 14 credits this summer :uhoh3: (3 weeks to go!) and simply my brain just hurts! I guess I could do some background here. I graduated 2002 and went straight into college not knowing what I wanted. Then first semester got sick and had to have surgery and ended up only being able to use one grade from that semester. Took a year off to recover and figure out life, then took a 10 month MA course. After that I was sure nursing was for me so Spring of 2005 got into the CC and started taking classes. I now have 55 credits and this fall will finish my final 13 credits to finish all pre-req/co-reqs/required core curriculum for associates & bachelors degree. I guess it's not bad to finish 52 credits since spring of 2005 (I also work full time usually min. of 50 hours/week, no kids yet just a hubby) It's just so frustrating that everyone knows I've been going to school forever yet they don't understand why I don't know when I'll graduate. Nobody understands this nursing school process, they think you just sign up and you're in. I am getting ready to apply for nursing school and I'm just terrified that I won't get in. I know that I'll never know until I apply, but I just feel like I'm not the best. I'm an A/B student which is good considering my demanding job. But sometimes I have to prioritize classes and what I'm studying for with my time allotted and just can't pull out straight A's. I guess I will see the light at the end of the tunnel when I finally get to the point of getting in a program, but all the uncertainty is just so frustrating! Does anyone else feel like their life is on "hold" for school? I'm to the point where I want to start a family, but have to put it on hold for school.

So_buggie be patient, at least you are in college right now and working toward your goal. If you are going to transfer make sure that you won't lose credits by enrolling in another college. I didn't even start working on my first degree until I was 23. I graduated with a B.A at 27, worked for a few years and now I am taking classes again at 31! If I can get into the program I want I will be done by the time I am 33 or 34. Looking back I wish I had never lost patience and changed my major from nursing after my first year of college way back in '99.

I thought it was going to take forever and I wanted to graduate as soon as possible. Looking back if I had stuck with it surely by now, 8 years after I originally set out to become a nurse, I would have had that nursing degree. I had to live and learn and this time no matter what happens I am going to get my R.N license.

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Ive been in since 1994 have 150 hours or so not to mention LVN school which was 2000 clock hours and Medical assisting school that was 1200 clock hours . I only have a AAS in liberal Arts and Im a LVN but keep hoping that one day Ill climb the RN ladder and people will stop knocking me off...

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So_buggie be patient, at least you are in college right now and working toward your goal. If you are going to transfer make sure that you won't lose credits by enrolling in another college. I didn't even start working on my first degree until I was 23. I graduated with a B.A at 27, worked for a few years and now I am taking classes again at 31! If I can get into the program I want I will be done by the time I am 33 or 34. Looking back I wish I had never lost patience and changed my major from nursing after my first year of college way back in '99.

I thought it was going to take forever and I wanted to graduate as soon as possible. Looking back if I had stuck with it surely by now, 8 years after I originally set out to become a nurse, I would have had that nursing degree. I had to live and learn and this time no matter what happens I am going to get my R.N license.

Just to fill you in, My credits will transfer over. I've done my homework. lol. Right now, just from my freshman year i will have 20 credits that will transfer over. With my sophomore year, if i get all above a C (which i will i just have to study more) i will have 53 or 57 transfered credits. Which if i'm correct, it will put me at a junior. I'm not quite sure how many credits you need to be a sophomore/junior/senior.

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That's isn't bad at all you are on the right track....good luck!

Just to fill you in, My credits will transfer over. I've done my homework. lol. Right now, just from my freshman year i will have 20 credits that will transfer over. With my sophomore year, if i get all above a C (which i will i just have to study more) i will have 53 or 57 transfered credits. Which if i'm correct, it will put me at a junior. I'm not quite sure how many credits you need to be a sophomore/junior/senior.
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I'm only 23, but I'm starting to feel the "I'm so far behind!" panic creeping in when I hear about friends getting great jobs, getting married, etc. In fact, I'm in an old roommate's wedding two days before I start my BSN program at the end of the month. She has a wonderful fiance, a great job that is paying her very well, a new house, a new car... and I am single, living with my grandma to save money, and drive a car that has 180,000 miles on it. It's hard. I think us younger people have a unique situation in that we're not fully independent and settled, but we have friends who are. At least, that's what I've been struggling with lately. I want to be done with school so I can do the things I want to do, which will probably include having to get another degree, ironically. :)

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I'm only 23, but I'm starting to feel the "I'm so far behind!" panic creeping in when I hear about friends getting great jobs, getting married, etc. In fact, I'm in an old roommate's wedding two days before I start my BSN program at the end of the month. She has a wonderful fiance, a great job that is paying her very well, a new house, a new car... and I am single, living with my grandma to save money, and drive a car that has 180,000 miles on it. It's hard. I think us younger people have a unique situation in that we're not fully independent and settled, but we have friends who are. At least, that's what I've been struggling with lately. I want to be done with school so I can do the things I want to do, which will probably include having to get another degree, ironically. :)

I would have to agree. College is supposed to be fun but i just want out. I love it because it keeps me busy but still. I have friends who are married/engaged and have kids. But here I am single (have been my whole life) and in college waiting for May of 2009 to come. I think its hard when you're young because you can't do what you want to. We just have to deal with it until we graduate and are out on our own; which totally sucks.

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I won't lie, getting my BA was fun, and I wouldn't want to miss out on that experience if I had to do it over again. But now, about to start my 6th year of school, and commuting 45 minutes rather than living on campus, I have my life on hold (as some of you have mentioned). I don't know if I'll even have time to have a boyfriend and develop a good relationship while I'm in school; I don't have money to do anything but give it to the school and bookstore; I'll have time to work and study, and maybe relax one night a week... hopefully. :) But, it will be worth it! You are still 18; my youngest sister is that age, and she's thrilled to death to be starting school. We are on our own, just in a different way, I think. You haven't even hit 20 yet - you're hoping to live to, what, 80? We have plenty of time! (Now if I could just keep telling myself that... haha). And you know what? I have a friend, who is now in a BSN program as well, who had a kid at 18. She's doing great in school, but that is all she does. I swear, I didn't see her more than once last semester. So babies are not what you want. Play with your friends' babies :) And as for a boy or a husband (which, at 18, I would advise you wait to see who you really are and what you really want before you get married), they're a pain in the ass and can seriously add a lot of stress that you probably don't need right now! :chuckle Keep in touch if you want help getting through this - I had a lot of problems in undergrad, for various reasons, and it was a struggle to get into this program, but I did it. I know you can. You've known you wanted to care for people since you were a little girl: I have too. We're made for this!! What a great feeling to know the direction you want to go in your life at such a young age! I have "wandering" friends who graduated years ago and are working jobs they're over-qualified for, and I have friends who got almost-worthless degrees with majors that they can't do anything with; you're way ahead of the game, hon.

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I graduated from high school in 1986 went to college got pregnant went to college at home while pregnant after giving birth to my son went back to college got pregnant again w/my daughter and did not go back again for a while Then I got my CNA license and worked for a while & let them expire and didn't do anything for a while because I didn't know what I wanted to do I was very young w/two young children so I got my self together and got my CNA license back & got to work got accepted into a LPN program in VA and still was not ready for that so I just decided to work until I was ready to make a dramatic change because I did not want to be a CNA for the rest of my life because I don't like the pay so about 4 yrs ago I decided to get it together and went back to school I started at one school and did not get into there nursing school & did not want to keep reapplying so I tried somewhere else and the same thing happened I felt like it was the school at first but after I thought about it it was me I was not doing what I should have been and now I have got into a good nursing school that has a great passing rate and I will shine like a light bulb It has been 20 years but I am almost there and you will get there too

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I feel like I will be in school forever too! I am 24, soon to be 25 and a single mother of a one year old son. I wish I could have gotten myself together sooner, but everything happens for a reason. This was the journey I was meant to take...so, I am exactly where i'm suppose to be!!

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I feel like I will be in school forever too! I am 24, soon to be 25 and a single mother of a one year old son. I wish I could have gotten myself together sooner, but everything happens for a reason. This was the journey I was meant to take...so, I am exactly where i'm suppose to be!!

Faythlove, you are absolutely corret! Everything does happen for a reason and God has a plan for everyone.

I will be 29 years old in a couple of weeks...I received my B.A in Public Relations/Journalism and I am currently working on a M.A in Urban Affairs/Human Resources :uhoh3: ...I have no idea why! I've always wanted to be a Nurse. I was actually a pre-nursing major during my Freshman year as an undergrad but changed majors when I got accepted into the Nursing program due to fear and discouragement. However, now that I am finishing up my Masters I am going straight back to school to complete a BSN!!!! Nursing is for me and it has ALWAYS been my dream...so I am going to pursue it. I definitely feel as if I've been in school FOREVER...my boyfriend says it all the time :lol2: .

Sure, my journey has been extensive and I have friends whom I attended college with that are doing exceptionally well (career wise and financially), I guess the path for me is taking a little longer but it's okay...I am going to become a Nurse...even if it's the last thing I do ;)

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i have felt this way since i started school. i started college in 2003 because everybody kept telling me that was the way to go if i wanted to get a good job. which of course i did, because i had a 4 month old baby to support.

fast forward three years. spring semester i stopped and actually looked back on college. i have come dangerously close to flunking out twice, and haven't taken any courses that are actually useful (what the heck is music in society, anyway?) anyway, my point is that i didn't know what i wanted to do, but over the summer i realized that i could do anything i wanted to (i've had real issues with this in the past~long story) but i had to apply myself. which is something lord knows i wasn't doing. now i have a reason to apply myself, i know what i'm going to college for, and now i not only have one, but two babies that depend on me...i know that this i what i need to do.

i try not to think about how long it's going to take, because that won't make it go any faster and usually it just discourages me. i just try to think about getting through one day, then the next, and so on.

yeah, it bothers me too that i see stuff in the papers about people i went to high school with doing all these "wonderful" things with their life, and everybody keeps asking me what i'm going to college for and when i'm going to graduate. my own bf asked me last semester why i was just taking courses to fill up my schedule. he says, isn't that a waste of time? that kinda made me look and realize. but anyway, i'm rambling on. the point is, it doesn't matter how long it takes me to get through nursing school, i will get through it. and when i do, it won't be for them, it will have been for me and my babies. that's all that really matters anyway.

:typing

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My story might not be as bad as some of your are but oh well. I am only a sophomore and i'm only 18 years old. I feel like things are never going to happen for me. I knew i wanted to be a nurse since i was in the 7th grade. My first year of college i totally screwed up. I took biology but end up dropping it. Then i took it again the next semester and i passed the lecture with a C but not the lab. I got a D but i needed a C. So now i have to take the lab for a 3rd time. Now because i didn't take chem and i didn't pass biology lab, i don't have my pre-reqs. So i didn't get into the nursing program. I might have to do a 5th year if i stay at the college i'm at. I don't want that, therefore, I might change colleges if i get accepted into this other college. I feel like i will never graduate. Like the years just won't pass. Sometimes, i feel like i don't have what it takes. But then all i have to do is study more. I've wanted to become a nurse for about 7 years now and i'm not letting anyone (including myself) rob me of my dream job. It will eventually happen. Even if i have to do that 5th year.

Oh, do not feel bad! I am 29 years old (as of yesterday, August 17 :balloons: ) with a B.A in Journalism/Public Relations and a M.A in Urban Affairs that I just completed! When I entered college as a Freshman, I was a pre nursing major but changed it to Journalism after hearing about how hard it was to get into the nursing program:angryfire . While an undergrad, I did the samething, I am going to have to repeat some of the courses because of my grades. However, that is okay as long as I am pursuing my goal...something I should've done years ago but I digress:trout: .

So, do not get discouraged, you have your whole life to look forward too. You are going to run into spead bumps and road blocks but just remember, there is a higher power who has a plan for your life. You may not always get what you want when you want it but you will get it...just be patient. Because God knows, the plan I "had" for my life is non existent:uhoh3: but everything is going to be alright ;)

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