Divorce

frannybee · Feb 16, 2003

1. Not married but de facto x 2

2. 1 big breakup

3. When I started my training

4. Yup - I had ambitions and he had KFC and beer

ERNurse752, RN · Feb 16, 2003

Both of my parents are nurses, and they are now divorced after 25 years of marriage...were both nurses at time of divorce...neither has remarried. I don't think nursing contributed though...lots of other issues.

I see a lot of nurses in relationships where they take care of the other person. I think the caretaker role is something we're born with, which is why we become nurses...and if it carries over to relationships, it can be unhealthy.

I think the job itself can also be unhealthy to a marriage, depending on how it's handled by the two people involved.

High stress, a lot of hours, weekends, holidays, night shifts, etc, all take their toll.

Nursing is a career, in my opinion, where we need our S.O.'s/spouses to understand what happens and what we go through to a certain extent, and to be there emotionally for us.

And that can be hard to find. :)

renerian, BSN, RN · Feb 17, 2003

I have been divorced. I won't say how many times I picked losers LOL. Now I have a gem. He is a nurse also.

renerian

SmilingBluEyes · Feb 17, 2003

Try the military if you want to see high divorce rates. The strain is incredible. How lucky that I am a nurse, dh is military and we are still going strong after 14 years' marriage eh? Kinda beating the odds by doing nothing more than HARD work.

whipping girl in 07, RN · Feb 17, 2003

Hmmm, nearly everyone I work with is married; a few are divorced (two of whom realized they were gay after years of marriage and kids).

Whoever said your spouse has to be supportive is SO right! My husband, despite knowing little about medical things, is so great about listening to my stories and being a shoulder to cry on when I lose a patient or things just aren't going right. I just have to remember to edit the gross parts (and also that anything involving any body fluid/emission he'll consider gross :) ).

Trauma Columnist · Feb 17, 2003

Well, I don't think being a nurse or being a military family relates to it. Hubby and I have been married for 23 years, I'm an er rn, he's retired from the air force - this is our first marriage for both of us. We have had a lot of difficulties with our sons (healthwise) but we are very supportive of each other too. I guess that's the key - to realize that as you grow you change and be able to accept that change and grow with it. Good luck...judi

Rustyhammer · Feb 17, 2003

I think my wife thanks her lucky stars everyday.

-Russell :)

Nurse Izzy · Feb 17, 2003

Originally posted by konni
Whoever said your spouse has to be supportive is SO right! My husband, despite knowing little about medical things, is so great about listening to my stories and being a shoulder to cry on when I lose a patient or things just aren't going right. I just have to remember to edit the gross parts (and also that anything involving any body fluid/emission he'll consider gross :) ).

I completely agree. And, my hubby is the same way - he'll listen, even though he doesn't understand - as long as I give him the Disney version - nothing gross! We're both fortunate in that I don't really understand that much about what he does (99% of it is over my head as far as comprehension) and vice versa.

almondhoney · Feb 17, 2003

I'm on the brink of a divorce; as soon as I stick my nose in my

books, the arguments start.

I don't understand it!

Right now as it stands, I hate men!!

essarge · Feb 17, 2003

Unfortunately, I'm one of your statistics. I started nursing school and problems in the marriage started. Not all of the problems had to do with school but it did help magnify them. But that's ok...life is good right now and I've got quite a few good friends that I hang out with (when I have a chance). But on the other side, I do have to say, that there are nurses and students who have wonderful marriages...I just seemed to get putzes.

ThirdWorldGirl · Feb 17, 2003

I didn't want to go to nursing school I was happy being a housewife, and mother to my 2 daughters til my husband decided I needed to go to LVN school then I went and decided I'm making money and wanted my name on the checkbook and to be able to go to the grocery store without having to get him to sign a check for me, then after 2 years of it, all of a sudden I was too "independent" and the marriage fell apart. We won't even talk about husband #2.