So I have a patient that was always very 'touchy feely' with his female caregivers/nurses. Well he has taken a decline in health, and his wife is no longer able to care for him (she isn't in the greatest of health herself..and the stress is causing more acute probelms), so the caregivers must provide more assistance for him.
I had a complaint from a caregiver that the man grabbed her bottom, talked about his subsequent errection from the action, and then proceeded to show her. He does have s/sx of dementa...so she was offended but was very kind and just said that that wasn't appropriate. Then all the sudden, this man who claims he can not walk, or even have the strength to dress, heard his phone, jumped up and answered it totally 100% appropriately. Then spoke to his wife as clear as a bell about the converstation, while standing with no signs of faultering, and walked giggling back to his room where he proceeded to sit down and act like he couldn't move on his own!!!! A nurse was in the room at the same time and saw (thank goodness documented) on this!
SO I was talking with my DON, and she was talking about dealing with it because of his dementia...I disagreed and said no caregiver (she is a CNA) shouldn't have to deal with that, and that steps to avoid this should be taken. We both agreed that this was a grey area, and it depends on personal opinion on what is 'inappropriate'. And that some people find things 'cute' or "oh that is an old man for ya' or "no way that will happen to me, I would so chew him out". Then I reminded her, we needed clear definitions because what one person does effects others..and if I were to take it or another did..the next person may feel very uncomfortable with this and be very upset!
We talked to his spouse, and she is just so use to his...what she calls "flirtation" (yeah flirtation??? Okay he would be in jail in public for what he did!) that it doesn't weigh to heavy on her..something she has always had to deal with (poor gal..she is a dear, and to have to put up with this behavior all her life..oh I hurt for her!!!!!!!).
What do you think...just keep telling him he is innaproprite and leave it at that, or make a formal complaint that may not be listened to by the facility administration (I almost guarentee it would go nowhere!!!!!!), or go even higher???
Toughie huh? Even if someone didn't see him get up and do all that...still would be a toughy! What about Caregivers...should they have to deal with this, or should nurses who may be more trained for the psychosocial reasons behind the behaviors????
Any thoughts???????