i decided not to have my son circumcised-need feedback

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1.does anyone think about circumcision-i decided not to have my son circumcised

2.At the hospital they told us not to pull the foreskin back and clean it until he's older-my friend the other day did the exact opposite she pulled it back and started cleaning it, she said she did this with all her kids any ideas????

it is not even an issue in Europe. We expect your average bloke to have a foreskin and are mildly disconcerted if he dosen't unless he is Jewish or Muslim.

I totally understand that, it's what's expected in Europe. Here in the US you're more likely to encounter an uncirced member than an intact one. Unless you are Hispanic or Mexican. Or one of many other cultures that don't do it but are a minority here. I would never tell a person to do it or not do it, it's such a private decision. I just think people should do their homework if they are on the fence.

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What a lot of nonsense! Funny how all Europe does not run around with infected memberes at all turns.

Circumcision is a superstition. No more and no less.

It is an entirely unnecasary mutilation.

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I just walked through the living room with a plate of pizza and asked my dh, who was laying on the floor playing Legos with our 5 year old son "Besides wanting our son to look like you, why would you want him circumcised?". He looked up at me and smiled and said "Because it looks funny otherwise".

My former husband was of the same opinion - my two oldest boys were circ'd even after I plead with their dad not to do it.

My oldest boys, as I said, told me they would be very angry with me if I had left them intact.

What the heck is a woman to do . . .??? There are men here saying just the opposite. :uhoh3:

steph

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I regret having my son circumsized at 11 days old. I was exhausted and berated by his fathers folks to have it done. In the end, I was the one who took him to this barbaric clinic and sat numb as they strapped him to the plastic board with bright lights shining in his eyes, cold fluid on his scrotum, no numbing and then SNIP! The coldhearted Doc wiped some neosporin and rough gauze and handed him over within seconds.

I have also been there in the newborn nursery and assisted while wonderful Peds docs took thier time to soothe the infant and assure the comfort of the baby and parents and observed a calm and quiet circumcision in which the baby usually slept thru the procedure.

I agree that it is a personal decision but if I were a male might have a different take on it. My husband was born in Cuba and is not circumsized and it makes no difference. He has never had a problem with it (being married to me is a whole other bag of worms!)

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I agree that it is a personal decision but if I were a male might have a different take on it. My husband was born in Cuba and is not circumsized and it makes no difference. He has never had a problem with it (being married to me is a whole other bag of worms!)

Ah, there's the rub . . . . we've got MEN giving us different opinions! :uhoh3:

I had to laugh at your "bag of worms" comment . . .

steph

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Specializes in LTC, Home Health.

I have a son that WAS circumcised. I thought I would never have to worry about adhesions. When he was 5 years old his member was red and swollen. I took him to the pediatrician who told me he had adhesions. I don't know if this is very common but it can still happen. On a side note I looked at his member after his circ had healed and it was not a very clean cut. Kinda jagged. It almost made me cry. I guess he looks alright now but if I have another son I will check with the Pediatrician to be sure he is not under the influence or too sleepy. :idea:

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in response to some of the comments about girls not wanting to "go south" if a guy isn't circumcised or that women think men who are uncircumcised are less attractive or that there is a bad smell associated with uncircumcised memberes, let me say that I think that is just silly and without much merit. I understand how being different, i.e. uncut in America, could be a source of insecurity and even harrassment as a young man. But if a woman doesn't accept you and love you and appreciate your body for how it is, then why do you care what she thinks anyway? Believe me, any woman who would think you aren't attractive for that reason isn't worth your time. Find someone who is less shallow.

My boyfriend was born in Europe and is uncircumcised. Really I didn't even notice it for the first few months we were together, then I thought about it and looked more carefully and realized he was indeed "uncut". He is a beautiful man with a beautiful member and never has any bad smells. I was a little surprised because I'd heard and read stuff about the "anteater effect" and all the extra skin but I don't notice much of a difference to be honest. And yes, I've seen a few circumcised memberes in my life!

The truth is, some men are just blessed with attractive members and others, cut or not, are simply not as pretty to look at. I'm sure the same applies to women's genitalia and that it is all really in the eyes of the beholder. ;)

I read that circumcision removes something like 10 square inches of sensitive erogenous tissue from the member, so while circumcised men are certainly able to enjoy sex, do they really know if they are enjoying it as much as their more sensitive, uncut brothers?

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my hubby isn't circed, neither is anyone in my family.

i won't have it done if i have a son.

i'll admit as a medical nurse it's a little more work to clean elderly men, but i've never seen any of them need a circumcision.

heck, i didn't know for a few months that my husband wasn't. and no, he doesn't smell any different than a circed guy.

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I watched my brother go through major h*ll when he had to have a circ at age 36. In my opinion, if there is at all a posibility that my son(s) would need to go through that when they got older than the age of 1! Why wouldn't I do something to prevent it?

I see it this way, I have never heard of complications from HAVING a circ at birth, but have heard of several cases where a person had complications later from NOT having one. I'm not willing to take that chance. Both of my son's were circ'ed at birth and neither felt it as a trumatic (sp?) experience. Infact, they don't remember it at all. :coollook:

Some complications I have seen from having a circ;

A baby bled so much that he need a blood transfusion. Several that have had silver nitrate (burns) on the member to stop bleeding. Even that didn't work for the baby that needed the transfusion. I have seen infection set in (really nasty to treat). I have also seen one when the doctor cut so much off that skin around the member became unattached, that poor little boy ended up having to be transported to a childrens hospital and having a pediatric urologist work on him. I have also seen part of the gland cut off when doctors have used the mogan clamp.

Do complications happen often - No. But can they happen -Yes.

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