Decided to Interview - Those that know my story help help help

I just said that they didn't want to be contacted for the one. Boss was ticked off at me for quitting w/o notice (a very dumb thing to do, but she had beem making empty promises to me. She kept promising full time, and I never got it.)I kept hearing she "couldn't afford" to pay me full time, yet she turned around and hired another full time employee for the sales dept. I had an offer for a full time permanent job, so I took it. Granted, I should have given appropriate notice, but I was too steamed to care. For the others times I requested the company not be contacted, I said I didn't want them to know I'm interviewing because they tend to make life at work difficult once they find out you are interviewing. Never had a problem.

Check to see if your previous managers will talk to prospective employers, as some are not allowed to. If only HR talks to them, find out what info they give out. Companies are worried about liability so don't tend to want to say much about previous employees. I have the impression that telling a prospective employer NOT to contact a previous manager is a problem as they assume you had problems there. It seems to be viewed as reasonable not to have them contact a current employer. I have had problems with previous employers, but it has never been a problem when applying for new positions when I allow them to contact everyone. Try to get RN references from any previous positions where you don't want them to contact managers, as they can talk about your work and problems on the unit or with the manager if needed. When asked about previous positions, have a canned short & sweet response ready. If you get emotional and get into actual details, you'll probably blow the interview. By the way, I have the impression that home health jobs are easy to get. I know someone who has been fired multiple times and quickly gets new home health jobs.

I'm thinking of just stating the facts. I like many other nurses want to get away from floor nursing and I like homecare because you can do one on one and actually tend to the patient.

What do you think?

That doesn't cover the previous employer.

I can reinforce that since I left it was a personal blow to management so they will probably only give verification of employment.

I'm scared. I do want homecare. I'm feeling better but not about working in a hospital.

Wanting to get away from hospital nursing and then emphasizing your wish to do the type of care needed in the job you're applying for sounds great. Always try to spin a negative into a positive. I don't get what you mean about a personal blow to management. But if you say something like that you're opening up the can of worms you'd like to keep closed. You can just talk about the general problems with hospital nursing when asked about why you left previous positions.

"personal blow to management."

By leaving it was insulting. That is kinda what started it and I just didn't suck up or kiss butt.

I was unhappy. People around me were unhappy. I had reached my limit of unhappy. When I tried to check out another unit everything surfaced and I didn't kiss butt. I had basically stayed longer than I should of and couldn't get out fast enough so I put the icing on the cake and "let'er rip"

But it felt so good. I get goose bumps thinking about it sometimes. Sometimes I wish I would have been really psychotic to really scare them especially now since they have exaggerated it any way.

I'm being so evil thinking about it. I have this visual of actually SNAPPING and scaring her. That would have even felt better. She deserved it. The way she describes it I might as well have. Take me away in a straight jacket for R&R.

SDA instead of unemployment.

State they may confirm employment dates. Otherwise be positive but state I was looking for my spot in nursing and these weren't it. State you have been interested in nursing outside of the facility atmosphere for quite awhile but monitary concerns were an issue, now you realize HH is where you need and want to be. Good luck.

I would let the interviewer know that you were ready for change, and wished to grasp the HH opportunity before it could pass you by. Facilities are hungry for good nurses, and recognize that previous employers of the interviewees may not have been the perfect fit. Remain enthusiastic regarding the job you wish to pursue and leave the bad memories behind.

Good luck with your new pursuit!

But it felt so good. I get goose bumps thinking about it sometimes. Sometimes I wish I would have been really psychotic to really scare them especially now since they have exaggerated it any way.

I'm being so evil thinking about it. I have this visual of actually SNAPPING and scaring her. That would have even felt better. She deserved it. The way she describes it I might as well have. Take me away in a straight jacket for R&R.

SDA instead of unemployment.

Honestly, if I ever felt like that about any of the positions that I left, I'd definitely leave the field and get some intense counseling.

I wish you the best, but are you sure you're ready for this?

OK.

I have decided to interview. I really feel that I want this homecare opportunity.

What do I say about my previous THREE employers that I don't want contacted?

I am so scared. I don't want to be back where I was a month ago.

I don't know as far as references, but all they can say is dates worked and attendance, right?

Go into this as an experiment, not as a pass/fail, ok? ((((((((( Broken RN Heart ))))))

Don't know your whole story but can tell that you have been through a difficult time. I wish that I could have told my previous employer off the way it sounds like you did. I'm sure that did feel good. Good luck with your interview and new job.

Honestly, if I ever felt like that about any of the positions that I left, I'd definitely leave the field and get some intense counseling.

I wish you the best, but are you sure you're ready for this?

I was just having a moment. I'm over it again. (actually kidding - couldn't do that - cry instead)

She was just so stupid that I was thinking about what she would have felt if I would have just crumbled and went nuts. The thing is that I didn't even want to waste my time on her. I had seen and heard enough to know that she has issues herself and I had my own and didn't feel like being degraded or beat down by her when her staff was so unhappy and had been for months. Good people - watched the moral go down the tubes.

I have been feeling better. I won't know til I get back on the horse. I am so excited about home care right now and just KNOW I won't do the hospital thing ever again (except agency).

Of course, at the same time the agency work starts coming in.

I really prefer the homecare. I liked it and hospice before. I am actually feeling excited about returning to it.

Don't know your whole story but can tell that you have been through a difficult time. I wish that I could have told my previous employer off the way it sounds like you did. I'm sure that did feel good. Good luck with your interview and new job.

I didn't tell her off as much as I told her the facts and she didn't like it and twisted it. I told her how unsafe it was on the floor and how the moral had changed and that I didn't feel she appreciated me and it was time I take care of me since she didn't seem to want to. Basically let her know that they didn't own me an since they didn't care about my needs I wasn't going to go through what I was on that job. They didn't deserve it and didn't earn it. They can find someone else to do it, but that doesn't mean they will be happy. People were leaving. She got threatened that I had the nerve to scope out options because people had left and were leaving.