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Is this a good idea?
From what I can see,
Pros:
- Always have something to talk about
- Using "busy" as an excuse has an actual chance of working
- Better chance of finding someone who is smart and will be financially independent
- M/F Ratio
- Physical assessments can suddenly be very fun
Cons:
- Good chance of not wanting to listen to more nursing stuff after your shift
- "Busy" might actually be the case, and relationships are distracting
- Better chance of finding someone who is uptight, competitive, and controlling
- M/F ratio means anything you do will be gossiped about. So if you mess up with one girl, it might mark you to the rest.
- Might have to work with an Ex
- Overexposure from class time.
Seems like a toss-up.
Okay, explain that one, Men. Just why is a female nursing student "uptight, competitive, and controlling, " and you male students are not. Come on, defend your words, here.No matter what the career field, you will find that the competent women are every bit as intelligent, strategical, and aggressively career-oriented as the men. If they were not, they would not be good employees. Non-competitive students usually do not finish nursing programs. If you want a GD yes-woman-housewife, marry a dependent mommy with a G.E.D. education who works at the local grocery store for min wage. She ought to be non-competitive enough to suit you.
In case you had a hausfrau for a mom, let me tell you: Working women do not want to coddle you the way your Momma did. You are expected to pull your weight, and be a team member. When I was married, I didn't waste one iota of time on any non-paid housework that I didn't have to do. If you think women are "uptight, competitive, and controlling," maybe the problem is that YOU still expect to be BABIED and CARRIED! An equal partner will not play second fiddle to a boyfriend or husband. She has her own goals and schedule to keep. Grow up, boys.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that you may have answered your own question. The truth is, a lot of the older women nurses I work with are exactly that. They also exhibit little to no sense of humor and can be quite rotten and downright hostile at times. Not all of them, but the OP might have picked up on that as well at some point, hence the "better chance" of finding someone like that at nursing school.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that you may have answered your own question. The truth is, a lot of the older women nurses I work with are exactly that. They also exhibit little to no sense of humor and can be quite rotten and downright hostile at times. Not all of them, but the OP might have picked up on that as well at some point, hence the "better chance" of finding someone like that at nursing school.
I sorta agree with this. In my clinicals there are 2 male nurses and 7 female nurses that I have been able to talk to and ask about the residents.
The male nurses, when there is down time...socialize, joke around, show us the ones with the hardest pulse to find and make us find it, etc etc etc. But when its work time. They are serious and get the job done
The female nurses...well they are kind of in their own little world. The only interaction I get with them is the nod and a smile in the hallways. Other than that they stick to their own cliques.
Btw, this is just what I observed. I am in no way saying that this is how it is at all hospitals/LTCs :)
Personally, I would pass on dating classmates. Nothing wrong with becoming friends during school, but save the dating for after graduation.
Remember - Never s**t where you eat. As evidenced by the multiple horror stories in the replies, bad things can happen if the relationship goes south.
I dated one girl in my class for 5 months roughly and well it didn't work out. Yeah this has been worst decision I have done since I started school a couple of years ago. At least when you date someone in your school in another program you can avoid them but in case you see them all the time. She hates me because it simply didn't work out and no other big deciding reason. Now I have to deal with her for another 3 years upset at me. It's tempting but it can also backfire dating someone in your class.
TheSquire, DNP, APRN, NP
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I didn't type it, so I have no intention of defending it. Please don't generalize one bad apple to my entire gender.