Crabby Old Woman

[luv_2_nurse77]

When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee Scotland, it was believed that she had nothing left of any value.

Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Ireland. The old lady's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the North Ireland Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on her simple, but eloquent, poem. And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this "anonymous" poem winging across the Internet:

Crabby Old Woman:

What are you thinking ........... When you're looking at me?

A crabby old woman .............. Not very wise,

Uncertain of habit, .............. With faraway eyes?

Who dribbles her food ............ And makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice, .. "I do wish you'd try!"

Who seems not to notice ........ The things that you do,

And forever is losing ............. A stocking or shoe?

Who, resisting or not, .............. Lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding, ..... The long day to fill?

Is that what you're thinking? .... Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, nurse, ....You're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am ............... As I sit here so still,

As I do at your bidding, ........ As I eat at your will.

I'm a small child of ten ..........With a father and mother,

Brothers and sisters ............... Who love one another.

A young girl of sixteen .............With wings on her feet

Dreaming that soon now .......... A lover she'll meet.

A bride soon at twenty, ........... My heart gives a leap,

Remembering the vows .......... That I promised to keep.

At twenty-five now, .............. I have young of my own,

Who need me to guide ............ And a secure happy home.

A woman of thirty, ................ My young now grown fast,

Bound to each other .............. With ties that should last.

At forty, my young sons .......... Have grown and are gone,

But my man's beside me .......... To see I don't mourn

At fifty once more, ................. Babies play round my knee,

Again we know children, ........ My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me, .......... My husband is dead,

I look at the future, ............. I shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing ...Young of their own,

And I think of the years .......... And the love that I've known.

I'm now an old woman............... And nature is cruel;

Tis jest to make old age ...... Look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles, .............. Grace and vigor depart,

There is now a stone ............... Where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass ....... A young girl still dwells,

And now and again, ............... My battered heart swells.

I remember the joys, ................ I remember the pain,

And I'm loving and living ........ Life over again.

I think of the years .............. All too few, gone too fast,

And accept the stark fact ........ That nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people, ..... Open and see,

Not a crabby old woman; ........... Look closer....see, ME!!

~Author: Anonymous~

Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within.....we will all, one day, be there, too!

[bethin]

When I took my CNA class the instructor handed out copies of that poem. Since then, I don't look at old people the same way. When taking care of them I ask them about what they were like as a kid, how the met their husband/wife, etc. I may see sunken eyes, limbs that no longer work but inside is a person who is full of stories and wisdom. One elderly woman told me to make sure I took care of my teeth, I saved for my retirement, and do one thing that frightens you in your life. The things you are most scared of are often the most rewarding.

[suebird3]

I remember that from CNA School, too. I wish more people would honor their Elders.....

Suebird

[RGN1]

I've seen this too, can't even remember where, it was some time back. Certainly makes you sit up & think though!

[PeachPie]

If only nursing home administrators would stop hiring only enough staff to meet only the residents' physical needs. The residents who weren't totally senile were bored out of their minds and could become nasty out of lack of attention and boredom, but would soon loose their minds because there was nothign to do.

[danissa, LPN, LVN]

God this is so sad! You read this and see where you are in the circle of life and think, this could be me in the future. Thought provoking eh! i surely do respect my elders, it's hard to put youself in that place one day, you get so caught up in the here and now, teenagers work money etc! you never imagine future times, only hope you will be healthy, happy surrounded by family,but we should respect the times we are having now! i feel like I won't moan again---(if only!!)

[TheNinjaKitten]

thank you so much for posting this, beautiful and touching lesson for us all!