Covid wedding... am I the bad guy?

[zoidberg]

My brother had a wedding planned for august. covid is just now spiking where I live, I work in critical care, and have been taking every precaution to keep myself, my wife, and our two young children safe. We are ‘healthy’ and in our 30s but my wife has asthma. They now are thinking about reducing number of guests (not confirmed). I told him I cannot guarantee my presence at the wedding and he now says he doesn’t want to get married if I can’t come. I am annoyed he’s putting this on me. I get he wants me there but I have to do what’s best for me and my family. Some family friends just all tested positive after a small graduation gathering. I see this as no different. I cannot foresee what life will be like in two months with how rapidly the number of cases and patients has increased in the last couple weeks. Am I the bad guy for telling him to take me out of the equation and he can prop me up on an ipad if we have to? Thanks for any input.

[Guest219794]

4 hours ago, herring_RN said:

A surgical or cloth mask will not protect you. I would feel OK if I had an N95 to wear. Otherwise I would regretfully not attend.

PS: When someone asked my mother whether to marry their boyfriend or girlfriend she would answer. "No." When they inevitably asked, "Why?" she said, "Because only if you would marry in spite of what I think, is it the best choice for you."

"covid is just now spiking where I live, I work in critical care,"
It is interesting that the focus here is protecting the OP/family. The reality is that he may actually be the one at high risk of transmitting.

When I interact outside of the hospital, I feel my risks are minute compared to work. No doubt the public thinks I wear a mask because I am scared of getting Covid. My concern is giving.