Conflicted about Job Offer

[badwolf4]

Hey guys! I'm going to preface this post with the disclaimer that this may be the most immature conflict I have ever had and I am aware of that, but I have never felt so conflicted before in my life and who better to ask for advice on big-life-moments than the people of the internet, right?

I graduated last May and moved across the county, away from all my family and friends, to work as an RN in a state where I didnt know a single person. I've built a good life for myself here, but I know that this isn't where I want to live the rest of my life. I miss my family more than I ever thought I would and I would love to go back to be near them again. Because I missed them so much and I was spending so much on plane tickets to visit, I applied to a job back home and I actually got it with only 8 months experience. It will be over doubling my salary from 40k to 92k. I'll be going from one city to a much much bigger city so nurse patient ratio is suckier, I'll have much sicker patients (some vented, I didnt even realize patients could be vented outside of the ICU), so it will be very challenging but I will learn a lot. I would also have to move back in with my parents and commute about an hour by train to work each day. I'm only 22 so that salary is blinding me. I could be completely out of all debt by the end of next year! I'm currently pretty much paycheck to paycheck. However I'm not sure I want to go yet. I'm not very happy at the hospital I currently work in (very poor management) but I love the friends I have made that I have gotten incredibly close to within the last few months. I feel like I want to stay for just a little longer and have a crazy amazing summer (this is the 22 year old side peaking out), but I don't know what to do. I feel like if I could get a job at 8 months back at home I'll have no problem if I wait a few more months and then start applying again.

TL;DR: Should I move back home to live with my family for a little bit for a job that over doubles my salary, or should I stay in my new city and maintain my independence and have a good summer of memory making before moving back and trying for another job? What is more important, money or memories? Ughh.

[Lauraingalls, BSN, RN]

My vote is to move back home and get out of debt.

[erickz623]

Follow your heart; think about where you would be the happiest.

In my opinion, I think moving home would be best. You'd be with your family, you'd be making more money, and you'd get out of debt sooner.

[Libby1987]

Neither. Where do you want to be in 3-5 years? What will get you there?

If you want to be living near your family in a job you both enjoy and succeed in, don't set yourself up for failure. Perhaps this new higher paying job is just enough beyond your current ability thatbit might be a discouraging experience.

On the other hand, you appear made of the right stuff to accomplish all that you have by age of 22 so I get the feeling you're going to land on your feet either way.

[CrunchRN, ADN, RN]

Absolutely do it. Back home and out of debt.

[nutella, MSN, RN]

If you do not mind living with your parents and you could pay off the debt within the next year or 2 years you should probably go for that option. If you work 12 h shifts, you will only commute three times a week. I commuted into the city for years and had about 1 to 1.5 h of commute each way but it was still worth it for the experience and the amount of $$$ I made. Having said that, you will of course use some money to commute but if you can live with your family it will save you some money.

Another thought - once you have paid off your debt, you can look into some living options closer to your work. Share an apartment for example.

Another thought - perhaps after you have paid off some debt you decide you want to go back to school (like so many of us) and further your education.

[purplegal]

Sounds like the new job is a good opportunity. You say that you don't really enjoy the job that you have now, so why not move closer to friends and family, where you can pay off debt sooner and challenge yourself? You must have done well in the interview, so they must feel that you are a good candidate for the position. Yes, you have made friends where you are now, but you can always keep in touch with them. Moving back in with your parents wouldn't be permanent, especially considering the salary you would be making (92k is incredible!) and you say that you have spent a large amount of money because you miss your family. You will gain your independence again, and you can have an enjoyable summer once you get back home, too.

[badwolf4]

Thanks everyone. I figured thats what everyone would say, thank you all so much for taking the time to reply and give me some insight!

[CanadianRN16]

I did a similar thing when I decided to go to nursing school in another country and obtain more debt than I would at a state school. I'm grateful for the experience I had and have actively been trying to stay here as long as possible since. If you're happy and meet your financial needs, then you'll make it work :)

[kiszi, RN]

If you would be doubling your salary, why on earth would you *have* to move back in with your parents?