I'm a relatively new nurse who (so far) has been having an excellent experience... until recently. Someone (and I don't know who) actually told HR (or my nurse manager, I'm not really sure on the facts).. that I act too cocky. I was totally blown away by this!
I ask 14 million questions a day..I'm always *ALWAYS* polite and respectful to the other nurses, even going so far as to give their meds while they are busy. I always offer to help the aides and I just generally try to hang back and learn all I can.
In all my life I have never been told that I was cocky! Why do people always have to go behind your back? I would have loved to have this nurse (or tech, or whoever) just come to me with their problem, because I am sure it was a misunderstanding...
I'm trying really really hard to develop a thick skin when it comes to this kind of stuff, because I know it happens a lot.. but I'm really struggling. I just don't want to be the kind of person with a thick skin, ya know? I've always been sensitive, and I think it really helps with patient care. :/ I just need advice on how to let it roll off my back..
Maybe I am just different but if someone voluteers to give my patients meds-red flags go up everywhere. If you really want to help put my patient on the bedpan, give them a bath, bring me back my lunch when you go to the cafeteria but when you give med to my patient you cross a line. What if you make a med error then I get to call the doctor and take the blame, what if you are really stealing pain medication, then I look suspect. Help me in other ways and I won't think you are cocky...by the way this is how I try to help others. I will never volutarily offer to give another nurse meds to her patients.
Specializes in ICU;CCU;Telemetry;L&D;Hospice;ER/Trauma;.
I work in a unit where people are very very team oriented and helpful....it is not unusual for one of my co-workers to check my meds and see what needs to be given for my patient if I am swirling the drain with a more critical one...and vice versa.....I would never suspicion them as having any other agenda than to help me....and I find it unusual that if another nurse gives a medication to a patient assigned to you, that YOU are to blame if the wrong dose, etc. is given....that isn't even logical or legal....THE ONE WHO ADMINISTERS THE DRUG IS RESPONSIBLE, ie, who ever has signed out the drug.....so I don't understand the previous poster's inference that someone who passes another person's meds for them is somehow placing them in a suspicious light.....
My co-workers depend on each other....and we just don't set one another up to fail that way.....if this is how you have been treated, that is sad....
Why would you think it is cocky to be helpful??? That escapes me....please explain....
I'm a relatively new nurse who (so far) has been having an excellent experience... until recently. Someone (and I don't know who) actually told HR (or my nurse manager, I'm not really sure on the facts).. that I act too cocky. I was totally blown away by this!
I ask 14 million questions a day..I'm always *ALWAYS* polite and respectful to the other nurses, even going so far as to give their meds while they are busy. I always offer to help the aides and I just generally try to hang back and learn all I can.
In all my life I have never been told that I was cocky! Why do people always have to go behind your back? I would have loved to have this nurse (or tech, or whoever) just come to me with their problem, because I am sure it was a misunderstanding...
I'm trying really really hard to develop a thick skin when it comes to this kind of stuff, because I know it happens a lot.. but I'm really struggling. I just don't want to be the kind of person with a thick skin, ya know? I've always been sensitive, and I think it really helps with patient care. :/ I just need advice on how to let it roll off my back..
welcome to life honey. back stabbers are every place. You could really be acting cocky..who knows...or maybe the person is a hater LoL or maybe their upset because you dont give them the time of day.
leslie :-D
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i wonder if your enthusiasm (to help) is being misconstrued as cockiness?
when i started out, i too was perceived as "confident", "arrogant", "cocky".
nursing is indeed a process, filled with alot of growing pains.
not only are you trying to advance your skill set, but it also changes you on a personal level.
you learn alot about yourself.
some of this discovery is through reflection/contemplation:
some of it is through feedback and 'criticism'.
keep what is worth keeping and blow the rest away.
don't automatically negate what others may say.
some of it will be valid and some of it will be nonsense.
only you can decide what is valid.
what i learned, 11 yrs later?
i AM a cocky s.o.b.
:lol2:
j/k.
leslie