Co-worker was fired..

leslie :-D · Jul 31, 2004

if she's in jeopardy of losing her license and you can prove that it was contemptuous input from these 2 nurses, then vindicating your friend by standing up to the plate would be the most helpful.

and do not be afraid to reach out to her and help her in any way you possibly can.....wishing your friend much healing, and wishing you good decisions.

leslie

Gromit · Jul 31, 2004

Wow! thats just, wow! not sure what to say.

I know I'd write a formal letter to the superiors involved (make sure you list that its copied and forwarded to the other superiors so these people won't be so quick to push it under the rug -so to speak), I'd also considder sending a copy to the nursing board -these are the only ones who can actually take the license, and the ones you should make aware of the problem -for your friends' sake -and you can testify as to her character, for that matter.

Hmm. I'd also get out of there. You really don't need this. The next one they retaliate against could be you.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jul 31, 2004

Don't know what to say. Are you sure you even want to work there? A nice thinking of you, card certainly would be appropriate.

chris_at_lucas_RN, RN · Jul 31, 2004

Take her a cake or some other goodies. Visit her. If she is "practically a recluse," try to get her to go outside with you, but certainly take yourself personally to her.

Maybe she wants to talk about it, maybe she doesn't. But all humans need caring, and when we are hurting, we need it more. Maybe she will be able to talk about other stuff, until she can talk about this.

Don't be shy--she may refuse you at first. A good friend steps back a few paces and just doesn't give up.

She's having a rough go, but on the positive side, how many of us have a friend like you!? She's lucky, in that respect.

Good luck to you both--give her our best. We don't have to know her to care (it's not like we know each other, right?)

Trauma Columnist · Jul 31, 2004

I'm with the other posters - if these two are so vindictive - they might turn on you. Your friend is lucky to have you.

moia · Aug 1, 2004

well if you can prove they lied start calling people...call her and let her know they lied and you will back her up...call the mangement and tell them you know it's lies and you are fighting for your friend...get loud and get ugly...but and it's a really big but...make absolutely sure you have all the facts.....don't climb onto your horse only to find out she did something that got her fired....

SmilingBluEyes · Aug 1, 2004

watdh your back.

and be her friend anyway you can.

Dixiedi · Aug 1, 2004

well if you can prove they lied start calling people...call her and let her know they lied and you will back her up...call the mangement and tell them you know it's lies and you are fighting for your friend...get loud and get ugly...but and it's a really big but...make absolutely sure you have all the facts.....don't climb onto your horse only to find out she did something that got her fired....

Back up your calls with email if possible. Be sure to mention "as per our telephone conversation" so as to back you up on it. Phone calls can so easily be forgotten and there's no proof they ever did.

And, as the last poster said, please watch your back!

Gromit · Aug 1, 2004

Back up your calls with email if possible. Be sure to mention "as per our telephone conversation" so as to back you up on it. Phone calls can so easily be forgotten and there's no proof they ever did.
And, as the last poster said, please watch your back!

Even though Email has gained in popularity, a papertrail (showing that its been sent to several others -this makes it less likely to be ignored, as they will be aware that others also know its been sent to them as well) is better.

zenman · Aug 1, 2004

One of my co-workers was recently fired due to the lies of two vindictive RN's who had vowed to "get rid" of her at all costs. She had been at this job 10 yrs. My heart breaks for her and I don't know what I can do or say to comfort her. She may possibly loose her license over this incident. The work environment was so bad I feel sure that's why she didn't put up much of a fight. Just too worn down to go on against these two back stabbing individuals.:angryfire
Can anyone give me any suggestions on how to let this nurse know I'm her friend and support her. She is so down on herself she is practically a recluse now. Feels like the world is against her. I don't want to call and make her relive the incident all over again. I just want to send her a nice ecard or a poem to let her know I'm thinking of her, and if she wants to talk she can feel free to call me.
Any thoughts will be greatly appreciated!

About the only thing that makes me "lose it" is when someone lies about me. I'd be very assertive and have an attorney. Just for the heck of it, I'd also challege the two backstabbers to a lie detector test in front of my supervisor just to see the look on their faces.

I had a fellow manager one time write me up because I told her the definition of a sexual word that she had used. Apparently she had no idea what it meant so I told her in private, figuring that it was better to be corrected by me than to be saying it out in public. So, a short while after HR "talked" with me, this same lady, while sitting across from me (and with a male sitting beside me) laid her hand on my thigh while making a point about something! What the heck!