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Hey guys! I'm about 2 months into my contract. I'm feeling huge waves of emotions. I'm having a hard times dealing with the shame and guilt that I feel all the time. My self worth is at an all time low. Just wondering if anyone has attended any Celebrate Recovery meetings to help you emotionally and spiritually? Any input is greatly appreciated!
Wonderful! I'm so glad to hear that it was a positive experience! I feel so safe to be honest when I'm there! It really is amazing to be able to share your struggles and not have to worry about people being shocked or in judgement of you. We are all there because we struggle!
No perfect people allowed!
I have been attending Celebrate recovery for close to 5 years now. I currently serve as co-leader of the group at my church. I came to CR sober but no where near recovered. It is only because of CR and my personal relationship with Christ that I was able to deal with the shame and guilt of my past. I stayed out of nursing over 10 years because of it the support of my forever family at CR I was able to approach the board to event ask for a second chance. I am currently back working as an RN and am forever grateful for the continuing support I have found at Celebrate Recovery meetings
Maybe I am coming from a different perspective. I am a mom and a RN who lost her son in 2015 to a heroin OD. I never thought it would happen "in our family." I have overwhelming guilt at not being able to save him. Looking back, he called most of his family that weekend and none of us really knew he was looking to relapse. We did not see it. He called me on a Friday night, the next call I got was on a Monday morning at work telling me he was gone. The day his heart stopped, I has given a life sentence. We nurses are "fixers" after all, aren't we? Anyway, it has been brutal. There is not a lot of compassion for the lost addict out there. I can see it in the face of those who ask what happened after they find out my son died...I get "that look" I can see it in their eyes...
Anyway, on the subject of guilt and shame. Self forgiveness is a gift. I give it to myself everyday. I know in my heart my son forgives me. If love could have saved him, he would still be here.
That being said. Some of the things that help me....
I journal daily
I pledge to be honest about what happened in our family, and to encourage those struggling to get help
I pledge not to judge
On Ryan's birthday and on Christmas (giving holidays) I give to a local rehab so that someone can benefit from the money I would have spent on him were he still here with us
I love to see the success stories, celebrate it. You are so worth it. Hug each other, love each other and forgive each other. Everyday!
Sally87
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Thank you for your encouraging words! I actually went last night for the first time. It was a wonderful experience! I cried tears of relief, joy, and hope! I actually felt comforted and felt like I belonged there. I'm so glad that I made myself go. It was good for my soul! I'm definitely going back next week!