Calling In Sick: Dealing With Mental Illness At Work, Part 3

The series continues with a look at some of the ways nurses with mental health challenges can help themselves to achieve and maintain wellness. We also discuss what can be done in the unfortunate event that an episode of illness manifests itself on the job. Nurses Disabilities Article

Among the challenges of being a healthcare professional with a mental disorder, perhaps none is so difficult as maintaining one's composure during an exacerbation of illness. Not only is it undignified to be so out of control that you disrupt a staff meeting or hear voices coming from the desk fan at the nurse's station, it's potentially disastrous to your career.

Obviously, you want to avoid manifesting signs of your illness at work (and it would be nice if you can keep your cool at home, too). But medications and therapy will only take you so far; you have to help yourself along the way by practicing good self-care techniques. These don't have to be elaborate or expensive; in fact, they're the basic health habits everyone should follow---namely, eat well, find some form of exercise that you'll do regularly, take time to de-stress every day, stick with your meds, and of course, get plenty of sleep.

A few words about sleep: This is one of the most vital components of mental health, and it's also one of the easiest to get wrong. Lack of sleep is a double-edged sword that can hurt you in multiple ways---it can be a sign that your condition is deteriorating, as well as a trigger for an episode of illness. It also feeds on itself; the less sleep you get, the stronger the grip of the illness, and as the episode itself escalates, the harder it is to sleep. Often it takes medication to break the cycle, and then you must commit yourself to going to bed AND getting up at the same times each day.....even on your days off. That can be extremely difficult to manage (my argument is always "But what the deuce is there to DO at six AM?!"), but it's necessary to maintain optimal sleep function.

Still, there are times when you're doing the best you can to stay well, but trying circumstances or life events may knock you off course and a breakthrough episode results. You find yourself forgetting details such as charting meds you've given or calling lab results to a physician. Or instead of chatting with co-workers on breaks, you retreat to your car and gobble down a handful of cookies. Or you notice that you're more and more anxious and you start dreading work, fearing that you'll make a mistake or embarrass yourself in front of a patient or supervisor. Or you start getting funny looks from co-workers and criticized by managers for talking too much and too loud, rushing around too fast and making amateurish errors, and lacking attention to detail.

Of course, you're going to be in contact with your healthcare provider (correct?) to try to bring the episode to a swift end, but in the meantime you are probably going to need some time off to deal with it. DO NOT be afraid to take it. An exacerbation of mental illness is just as legitimate as a bout with the flu, and it deserves every bit as much attention.

You don't have to tell anyone why you need time off unless you need a formal medical leave of absence or FMLA. Use your vacation days or other personal time off---that's what it's for. Often it takes only a few days to get things under control, but depending on the severity of your symptoms and the degree to which they disrupt your life and work, you may have to go out on LOA and exhaust your earned-leave benefits. Do it anyway, even though at this point you will need a note from your doctor stating why you need it and providing a date when you may return to work. Trust me, going back before you're ready is a recipe for disaster, and in any case your facility will not allow you to return until your doctor releases you.

Of course, by the time your episode resolves, the rumor mill at work will probably have been churning, and you may face some curious glances and perhaps even some questions from your co-workers as to the nature of your absence. You are under no obligation to discuss this with anyone. If you're comfortable doing so, you certainly can, but as a general rule it's best to avoid the gory details. Unfortunately, there is still a great deal of stigma associated with mental illness, and while your friends may understand, chances are that some of the higher-ups may take a dim view of nurses with MI, and they can make your life so miserable that the stress tips you into another episode or even forces you to quit.

In the final installment of this series, we'll discuss what to do when a nurse finds her/himself in an untenable position at work because of a mental health condition, and what (if any) recourse is available when one's employment is in jeopardy as a result of that illness.

Thank you Vivalasviejas for these wonderful posts! They are very insightful to nurses who are dealing with MI and coworkers we may In counter. I worked with a wonderful nurse who dealt with bipolar, she would take medical leave frequently. Finally after this last medical leave she never came back. It makes me sad cause she has been at this facility for over 10 years and she is the sweetest and most hard working person to be around. After reading some of your posts and articles I now understand that she didn't come back probably because of her MI.

Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
betterlatethennever said:
Thank you Vivalasviejas for these wonderful posts! They are very insightful to nurses who are dealing with MI and coworkers we may In counter. I worked with a wonderful nurse who dealt with bipolar, she would take medical leave frequently. Finally after this last medical leave she never came back. It makes me sad cause she has been at this facility for over 10 years and she is the sweetest and most hard working person to be around. After reading some of your posts and articles I now understand that she didn't come back probably because of her MI.

Quite possibly. Nursing is extremely stressful even under normal circumstances, but when you're dealing with MI, sometimes the stress gets to be too much, and then you tip over and can't do it anymore. I've come close to that, and in all honesty if something were to happen to my current job, I'm done. I simply can't do the floor anymore, nor can I handle the 24/7 responsibility of a management position.

Something inside of me crumbled when the stress of my last job overrode my defenses, and that part of my career is irreparable. I know that as well as I know my own name, and though I have yet to fully accept it, I'm getting there. That's not being pessimistic, it's being realistic......it took many months to emerge from that dark, dark period of my life, and NO job is worth risking a repeat.

I'm glad these posts are helping people to understand what nurses (and others) with MI go through just trying to fit in, and to be the best they can be. No one wants to be mentally ill; but it happens, and it's no respecter of social status, job title, or personal "goodness". Thank you all for your compassion. :inlove:

Because of money, I made the mistake of going off (last week) the antidepressant I had been on for 5 weeks. While not perfect, the AD was helping and let me tell you, stopping them w/o a lot of notice does not help ones cause of staying stable. Ended up going to my doctor yesterday who STRONGLY encouraged me to get back on the medication and gave me Buspar for anxiety. What I realized yesterday is, as much as I would like to NOT be on medication, spending $65/month I truly don't currently have, if I don't make my mental health a priority, I am going to be facing in reality the fears I have about getting so far behind in my bills (I'm pushing month 2 here) that I will lose things - my home mainly - because I'm too depressed/anxiety ridden to function. My spouse is very supportive so that helps.

I started a new job this past Wed. and that is the only day this week I've been there. My new boss said we can start fresh on Monday. Though this is not a job I am going to stay in long term, it IS a paycheck, a schedule and gets me out of the house. Having a routine I also realized is necessary for me. Too much time or too much unstructured time gives me overworking mind way to much freedom in over thinking which causes more problems. I also realized that working 12 hr shifts in a hospital is not something I am wanting to do - not now and maybe never again and that is ok. I've changed because of things that have happened over the past 10 yrs or so and I have to accept, like it or not, I am NOT the same person - that is ok and I can build from here.

Unlike a broken arm or the flu, mental illnesses, true mental health issues, remain..the depression/bipolar/ whatever maybe controlled but it's a person's shadow - for life I believe. And one thing I am also learning is not to allow myself to be pressured into a situation (crowded restaurant,etc) if it happens to be a time I can't really handle that well - I don't owe anyone a reason, sometimes I don't even know what crowds don't bother me one day and the next the noise alone drives me up the wall - and that's ok - people who know/care for me will understand and those that don't can keep on walking.

Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.

(((Marshall1)))

You said it yourself: if you don't make your mental health a priority, your fears may very well become reality.

I pay $124 for a 30-day supply of generic Geodon. (My other BP meds are much less expensive.) Unfortunately for my pocketbook, that is the one that pulls everything else together and I feel the effects if I miss even one dose, so allowing myself to run out or not take it for a few days isn't an option. I hate being so dependent on the drug, but sanity is a precious thing and I know what it's like not to have it, so my mental health comes first almost before anything else.

And it's true---a mental health diagnosis changes us, but even though we are not the same people we were before our illness took hold, we're not worse---we're just different. Thank you for pointing this out. :yes:

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

I have allready started. I am on orientation, for 90 days an i am 4 weeks into it. I called in 3 times, I already got the "informal" "talking to". I WONT do this again. I just CANT. I just CANT!!!!! no more mental health days for me!!!!!

Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
RNOTODAY said:
I have allready started. I am on orientation, for 90 days an i am 4 weeks into it. I called in 3 times, I already got the "informal" "talking to". I WONT do this again. I just CANT. I just CANT!!!!! no more mental health days for me!!!!!

RN, I am concerned about you. Please see your doctor or therapist ASAP so this doesn't blow up in your face. It sounds as though you are putting yourself under tremendous pressure and it's already affecting your job. Get help now so that you can save yourself even more grief in the future!

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Just a very gentle note of concern: while we can offer support, it is extremely important that you are following with a provider whom you trust and can see as often as necessary. While our posters can offer what has worked for THEM, you have to find what works for YOU....

Here is some more info and some resources...

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

I do see a psych doc, and am on medication. .... I will be ok.....

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

Thank you for the concern I DO need it at times..... I just simply CANT let this affect me, because my family will be homeless......

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

oh, just curious... what about my post makes you so concerned, more so than usual?

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Your use of all caps is what concerned some readers. Take care

Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

I see, trauma........ Ty..... It was more of an affirmation to myself ...... like I am FORCING myself to GO TO WORK....even when I dont.want to....lol not funny, but I hope you get my point.....ty again. its nice to have this series started by viva, and supported to and aded to by people like you and the rest!!!!