she called me a spoiled b***(sorry off topic)

jillyk*rn · Apr 20, 2006

hi,

i answered last time. you have got to stay away from her. disassociate from her now. i wouldn't say anything to the teacher. her craziness has nothing to do with school.

try to get through the rest of school, and then see what you can do about getting away from her.

take care!!!

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Apr 20, 2006

Her outburst reflects badly only on her.

Stay. Far. Away.

You handled yourself well. Now let it, and her, go. Her being unhappy that you're backing away is her problem, not yours.

capribry · Apr 20, 2006

Trust me guys I am trying to keep away from her. My mom brought me some pepper spray (not intentionally meant for her though but I would use it on her) My big sister said that I should be blunt with her and tell her to leave me alone and to stop being so nice. I just can't believe that she did that though. I started to cry a little b/c I always try to be nice and respectful to everybody no matter what. I have never put anyone down or bragged about what I or really my parents have. I must admit that I am a goof ball but not stuck up.

Princess74 · Apr 20, 2006

Sounds like the girl really has some issues. I'm sorry that she is causing you problems.

LoriAlabamaRN · Apr 20, 2006

It sounds to me as if she is mentally ill. Stay away from her. Use caller ID and do not answer her calls. Change your number if you have to. If she confronts you in public, walk away. IF you need to explain to her, just tell her that you do not feel as if your friendship is healthy for you at this point in time, and leave it like that. Most importantly, GET AWAY FROM THIS LUNATIC. Speak with your instructors if you have to.

TRINI_RN · Apr 20, 2006

Brynn, stay away from that whacko girl. You don't need the stress, especially around finals. She's just trying to bring down your mood, dont let her. Good luck on your finals by the way!

CTRNTOBE · Apr 20, 2006

I would distance myself also, but I would be tolerant too. I'm sure this behavior has been going on for a while and you probably liked the attention from her until it became a possible roadblock to you getting in a program.

Plus this is not the place to call people whores and say you are going to mush their face in. All you have here is people's perceptions of you and from the way you speak (write), mine isn't the highest.

Sorry to seem judgmental, but that is how I see it.

Katnip, RN · Apr 20, 2006

If she does something like this again, I'd say something like "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then drop it. If she gets in your face, get up and walk away quietly and calmly. You'll be taking the high road and you'll look a lot better than she does and her poor behavior won't reflect back on you.

As for reporting her to teachers or a future nursing school, I wouldn't. What's between the two of you is personal. If her behavior is going to interfere with her schooling and career, the instructors and others will notice.

Just try to stay away from her as much as possible.

SummerGarden, BSN, MSN, RN · Apr 20, 2006

Out of nowhere the copycat friend started blurting out that I was a spoiled b**ch and that my parents drives a mercedes and how I have an acura and about how we remodel our house every couple of months and that I buy my son everything under the moon and how I don't have to work, blah, blah, blah.

Hey, didn't I call this one in the last post? I knew she would turn it around on you! Trust me she did you a favor! Now you can finally justify having nothing to do with her ever again!

In fact, if she approaches you and tries to apologize say (and be blunt) "I want nothing to do with you ever. I do not trust you and I do not accept your apology." And that's it!

She can hate you all she wants. She will eventually move on to leach off of someone else. Do not fear or worry about how others will think because in general NO ONE CARES! Honestly, most of your classmates are thinking about other things so do not worry about how she may have embarrassed you in front of them.

As for her possibly attending the same school. Do not inform ANYONE what school you may attend. That way she will have to choose one or the other. If you can find out indirectly which one she has chosen, then go to the other school. However, I doubt if she goes to the same school that she will be a problem because IF you make it clear that you want nothing to do with her, the same goes for the future.

She will continue to dislike you, but so what? You need to grow a thick skin too and understand that not everyone is going to like you and that is OK.

And if she decides to spread horrid rumors about you do not worry. I have a jerk in one of my classes who for NO reason (I do not even know the girl's name) acts like a jerk toward me and gives me bad looks. However, I talk to all of her friends and all of my classmates and none of them treat me poorly. Her problem is her problem. So trust me, your classmates will feel the same way. Just treat them with respect and act like an adult toward them so no matter what she may say about you, no one else will agree.

carolinapooh, BSN, RN · Apr 20, 2006

I would distance myself also, but I would be tolerant too. I'm sure this behavior has been going on for a while and you probably liked the attention from her until it became a possible roadblock to you getting in a program.
Plus this is not the place to call people whores and say you are going to mush their face in. All you have here is people's perceptions of you and from the way you speak (write), mine isn't the highest.
Sorry to seem judgmental, but that is how I see it.

I'm thinking she was furious, and probably not really editing herself. Sometimes people need to rant a bit - uncensored.

I too have met people I would dearly love to smack full in the face - as I'm sure ALL of us have. I've actually met some people who need a good swift kick - but it's not my place to do it, and I haven't...yet... :lol2:

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Apr 20, 2006

OK, I had a thread earlier about a friend that copied my every move well I spaced myself from her and she's not taking it to well and this situation has something to do with her.
I was studing today in class for our lab final and another friend wanted to see my phone so she could see pictures of my son on easter. Well while she was doing that and commenting on my pictures, others in the class started to become interested and wanted to see the pics too. A little while later, I was mentioning to others that I wanted a PDA and have to save money up for nursing school and my car note so I won't have to work during school.
Out of nowhere the copycat friend started blurting out that I was a spoiled b**ch and that my parents drives a mercedes and how I have an acura and about how we remodel our house every couple of months and that I buy my son everything under the moon and how I don't have to work, blah, blah, blah.(trust me she said a lot of worst stuff that I don't want to mention since I am a lady) I was so shocked that I couldn't do nothing but laugh. Everybody in the class stopped studing to see what was going on. I was so embarassed and everybody was looking at me for a response(there was no teacher to interupt things) I just said that my parents money isn't mine and I have to pay my own car note and that I worked hard to get where i am at so she can shove that up her a** I picked my books up and left since I was having thoughts of taking one of those arm models and smacking her with it and smushing her face in cat parts.
She called my phone and left a message apologizing about how she feels like I was trying to be mean to her since I didn't talk to her and let her see my pics. I was thinking that this is a crazy whore, I am 20 years old and don't have to cater to anybody needs except my toddler!!
What would you have done in a situation like this. I don't want anybody in class to think that I was ignorant b/c I cursed in public out loud. I was wondering if I should let the teacher know what happen just in case she gets a little crazy and try to to tell him first and blame it on me. I just can't wait until these next 2 weeks is over so that I don't have to worry about her again unless she tries to go to the same school as me. And if she does end up going to the same nursing school as me should I let them know that me and her has problems? I don't want to sound like a whinning cry-baby stool pigeon to them.
Thanks and sorry that it is so long.

1) Don't feed into her own insecurities

2) Show that you're the mature one by not responding to her remarks (especially returning any insults and namecalling)

3) If she acts like this in nursing school, it'll bite her in the ***, even more if you ignore it, then she'll look like she's off the deep end.