Bullied? What the heck is this about?

[ORTech2RN]

Hey guys, strangest situation I've probably found myself in. Been an RN since 2011, and worked health care since 2003, never had a problem working with women. Not one. I have an RN on our unit, well, now she's moved on to another clinical area. For whatever reason, insists on greeting me as "girl." And, to get a show, she'll address me as "what's up girl," in front of other people. Initially I blew it off as just jokes,whatever. However, I'm pretty sure she knows it gets a rise out of me, and does it to jerk my chain, and humiliate me.

The ironic thing, I'm 6'1, 230lb and obviously have very little resemblance to a female, lol. Here's the thing, I can confront people, but sometimes I come off as being too aggressive In other words, I take crap and try to blow it off until I lose it. I have a federal job, so don't really feel like losing it for completely going off an idiot. Plus, I feel with the feds, they wont take any complaint serious, considering I'm a male, a white at that.

Opinions?

[Flyboy17]

Just sup dude? Like the No Shave November, I like it. Or compliment her side burns.

[Girlafraid13]

My sister used to call me an Asian boy all the time (which I do look Asian but am Hispanic) she stopped when I started calling her "sir" in public.

Now she recently got the habit of calling me fat( I'm pudgy but not huge) so I started calling her fat right back which she gets totally hurt by (she just lost 50lbs) and has stopped. Sometimes they need a taste of their own medicine.

[SmilingBluEyes]

Nah don't give "her a taste of her own medicine". It's juvenile and beneath you. I like the direct approach: "please do not call me "girl" or whatever.....please use my name". Some people just need to be dealt with directly. If it persists, then it may be time for a meeting with your manager.

Tit for tat won't get you anywhere but in trouble YOURSELF. Don't do it.

[Thujone]

There is a simple fix to this problem. Simply say and prefferably in front of others and very respectfully "I find it very offensive that you call me a girl, and would appreciate it if you did not do that". The woman who is doing this to you will either apologize profusely or all hell will break lose with her. The bright side is that since you've done it in front of other staff that the other females will mroe than likely take your side. Females love to argue and talk bad about each other, but behind each others back of course. You can use that to your advantage at times.

[dcamenga1]

Direct is good. Prior suggestions seem like a good fix....

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

What's up guy?

Hey dude.

Try that. It's not confrontational and funny.

Exactly.

Give it back this way.

Laugh and laugh when you are referred to as a girl. A sense of humor is your best weapon here.

[iliaccrest]

Had to create a new account ugh....Password rest doesn't work!

I have only ever been bullied by my preceptor..never since have I allowed another half my size to even attempt it. Here is the deal.... if you expect to be treated a particular way "enforce measures to create a culpable setting" you will have to dissect that for yourself my interpretation probably does not match most, I am in-fact vindictive in these circumstances. Tools for thought: sack scratching/resetting junk in front of... expelling nasal contents on bare hands while inspecting and offering a glimpse at what you can make... expelling gas with commentation.... cleaning your nails with your teeth... just generally vulgar stuff (manchild)

[iliaccrest]

Should these tools fail to produce the effective of "leave me alone" Hospital slip trips and falls are rather common... a 230 pound person hell bent to rescue a patient requires a wide birth.........

[Redandgraystars]

OK, ya hipbone that would work male or female but dang really.

[Redandgraystars]

Should these tools fail to produce the effective of "leave me alone" Hospital slip trips and falls are rather common... a 230 pound person hell bent to rescue a patient requires a wide birth.........

Rugby nursing, you just invented a new concept, but I think buzz lightyear would fly better

[Pat_Pat RN]

Not remotely related, but kinda, or something...

I'm the only male nurse at our facility, so many times someone will enter or leave the unit with a "Hello ladies!" or some such salutation. Sometimes they catch themselves and say, "and, Pat_Pat". But I usually just say, "I'm just one of the girls...."

Sorry about your situation. I'd go straight to administration.

[RNator]

Report her for harassment. . I'm sure she'll stop after that.

I agree. I hate the idea of being a prude, but SHE holds the cards. It IS harassment, and you being male puts you at a disadvantage if you reciprocate on her level...they will side with the female, as messed up as that is. You need a trust worthy witness. Charge nurse, HR, Manager etc. she needs to be put on notice.