Bullied after submission of resignation

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I don't know how to respond to this. Help.

I submitted resignation letter, a few days left to go. My manager accepted reluctantly, asked me to stay with the organization.

Suddenly today, she calls me to her office. She states she did not see me in my office all day. Strange, I saw her, but I did go out 3 times to visit some patients, drew some blood. I think someone provided this information to her. She appeared really angry. She did not ask, but I can provide proof of my visits. I used translator service and signed in to a long term facility twice.

She was having me give her report prior to my departure, then suddenly, she informs me there will be a 3rd party for me to provide report to. I know the 3rd party manager is a hot head, very unprofessional. Suddenly, I'm asked questions about patients like I did something wrong. How do I respond to this?

Just a few more shifts!

The only reference that would be of note would be that of HR. Who can confirm or deny if you can be rehired. There's lots of states that don't allow anyone else to give a reference. Doing so could be grounds for someone coming back to sue for slander, is subjective opinion, that kind of thing. And HR is interested in notice given most of the time. If you are required 2 weeks, and you give 2 weeks then yes, you could be eligible for rehire. If you give 2 weeks and they require a month, different story...

Best wishes in your future endevours. The questioning of where you went/where you were can be proven by the footprint you left when doing your job. No need to get into it with them, they can investigate all they want, and they will still come up with the same conclusion. You were where you needed to be when you needed to be there. Period.

If they make it really rough on you and you happen to get sick for the rest of the time...

Many places have a policy that you will not leave in good standing if you don't work out your full required notice period. If that's her only job for the last 27 years, it's probably a bad career move to burn the bridge.

Specializes in Registered Nurse.

I completed my two weeks notice, in spite of, all the negativity of my employer. I suspect anyone calling for references gets sent to Human Resources by this company and I imagine they provide limited information. However, I imagine returning to the organization, will not be an option if my next employer does not work out. The management talks, gossips and shares information in regards to anyone who seeks to return. Unfortunately, the management can be quite vindictive. When I left some of the QAI data dipped slightly and I was informed that I did it purposely. I did not. The excessive CQI protocols and quality goals were not easily achieved. That's one of the reasons I decided to move on.

Just a few more shifts!

The only reference that would be of note would be that of HR. Who can confirm or deny if you can be rehired. There's lots of states that don't allow anyone else to give a reference. Doing so could be grounds for someone coming back to sue for slander, is subjective opinion, that kind of thing. And HR is interested in notice given most of the time. If you are required 2 weeks, and you give 2 weeks then yes, you could be eligible for rehire. If you give 2 weeks and they require a month, different story...

That is something that is often bandied about, but it's simply not true.

Past employers can't say anything bad about you. At least once a month, I hear someone say it's illegal for employers to provide a detailed reference, or any information beyond confirming job title and dates of employment. Not true. It's legal for an employer to give a detailed reference, including negative information, as long as it's factually accurate. (That said, some companies do have policies that they won't give references, but these policies are easily gotten around. I've never had a problem obtaining a reference for a candidate, and I've checked a ton of them.)

The 4 Biggest Myths About Job References - US News

Myth No. 2

Most corporations direct reference check requests to their human resources departments, and these people won't say anything bad about me.

Reality:

Most human resources professionals will follow proper protocol. However, in addition to what is said, prospective employers often evaluate how something is said. In other words, they listen to tone of voice and note the HR staffer's willingness to respond to their questions – both critical factors. Often heard is Check this person's references very carefully”, an ominous statement from any perspective. A human resources department will often divulge if a person is eligible for re-hire. Are you?

Seven Deadly Myths of Job References

Specializes in Registered Nurse.

Interesting information. Perhaps, I will hire someone in the future to check my reference. I've heard there are places that do this. My 27 years with the company were mostly uneventful. I did complain to management about an MD who did not enter orders in EMR and often changed orders verbally and just prior to the time the patient was scheduled to get the medication. I don't think he really wanted to support the company algorithms that he signed off on electronically. However, management, felt a physician could do no evil because they bring in business. My coworker threw me under the bus. She had a special ability to communicate with the MD and I did not. I never had a write up of any kind during my 27 years, but who knows if this was added to my employment record as I departed. I may very well be a no hire based on this.

Re-instate the resignation. Be glad you won't have to be there much longer!

Specializes in Family Practice, Mental Health.

Write yourself a wonderful reference, with a statement about how you have worked in "X" capacity over the years.

Take it to each manager and ask them to sign it, or tweak it and give it back to you.

You can use that as a reference at your next job.

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