Bullied after submission of resignation

[Marisette, BSN, RN]

I don't know how to respond to this. Help.

I submitted resignation letter, a few days left to go. My manager accepted reluctantly, asked me to stay with the organization.

Suddenly today, she calls me to her office. She states she did not see me in my office all day. Strange, I saw her, but I did go out 3 times to visit some patients, drew some blood. I think someone provided this information to her. She appeared really angry. She did not ask, but I can provide proof of my visits. I used translator service and signed in to a long term facility twice.

She was having me give her report prior to my departure, then suddenly, she informs me there will be a 3rd party for me to provide report to. I know the 3rd party manager is a hot head, very unprofessional. Suddenly, I'm asked questions about patients like I did something wrong. How do I respond to this?

[Pangea Reunited, ASN, RN]

Just be glad you're leaving in a few days- for good.

[OscarTheOwl]

Its good you have proof. I would just make sure all my bases were covered for each patient, and be glad I was half way out the door. Do not ever use this person as a reference.

[Marisette, BSN, RN]

Sadly, I will use this company as a reference because I worked here and remained through various different name changes and acquisitions by bigger organizations. When I started it was a small health care provider, now it's a mega company. I hope they don't bad mouth me if my next employer does not work out. I spent 27 years there.

[nutella, MSN, RN]

Sadly, I will use this company as a reference because I worked here and remained through various different name changes and acquisitions by bigger organizations. When I started it was a small health care provider, now it's a mega company. I hope they don't bad mouth me if my next employer does not work out. I spent 27 years there.

wow - just make sure you have somebody as a reference who will not give you problems.

Since you are going anyways : smile, nod and wave...

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

Since you only have a couple of days left, ensure you cross your 'T' and dot your 'I' letters. In other words, cover your behind as if your life depended on it.

Your managers seem petty and vindictive. Perhaps they need to do some serious introspection before they keep losing employees.

[OscarTheOwl]

Sadly, I will use this company as a reference because I worked here and remained through various different name changes and acquisitions by bigger organizations. When I started it was a small health care provider, now it's a mega company. I hope they don't bad mouth me if my next employer does not work out. I spent 27 years there.

That's terrible, you've been a loyal multi-decade employee with this organization and this is what you get, I'm sorry

[Marisette, BSN, RN]

I will try to cross my t, dot my i, but this attitude is making me loose my focus. I was actually thinking of withdrawing my resignation as they suggested. But now, it's go, go , go

I hope I can make it without breaking apart. This is so painful.

[nutella, MSN, RN]

I will try to cross my t, dot my i, but this attitude is making me loose my focus. I was actually thinking of withdrawing my resignation as they suggested. But now, it's go, go , go

I hope I can make it without breaking apart. This is so painful.

If they make it really rough on you and you happen to get sick for the rest of the time...

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Is there someone who knows you well who could write a letter of reference for you? That way you'd have it if the next job doesn't work out.

[Marisette, BSN, RN]

I don't think I can get a reference letter. There are multiples managers who communicate and makes plans about who will take over my department or job. I do coordination and do case management for patients. The managers talk and all get on the same side with the plan. Now, there is some silence, but who knows about tomorrow. I have just been keeping quiet, with my head low. I think I have been bullied in my position, with higher patient loads than most nurses so I would get overwhelmed and leave by upper management. However, my direct

report manager wanted me to stay, then suddenly turned on me when I said no to staying. There are no laws against work place bullying. Very few unions in my state. I suspect my age may have something to do with this, but I don't have the time, money or will to pursue legal action. Also, this is very hard to prove. I just want to leave peacefully with a good reference. Sorry about spacing, using my phone today.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

Moved to the Nurse Colleague / Patient Relations forum to elicit more feedback and replies.