Boyfriend and school?

[TaraRae123]

Ughh. Okay, so my nursing inspiration is at 100% now! :) But I am having a MAJOR road block. My boyfriend and I recently started dating and but we moved very fast, very quickly. I love him :redbeathe. He does NOT understand school work. I go to school full time (15 credit) full of pre-reqs and I am a candy striper AND starting a CNA course (hopefully!). He gets angry when I don't pay enough attention to him, if we don't talk on the phone enough, or we don't do 'stuff' enough. We both still live with our parents, and he has a part time job and is thinking about joining the army in August. I don't drive so currently he is very PO'ed at me for having to drive to get me. Well SORRY! Does your boyfriend/significant other get so angry and threaten to break up with you JUST cause you want to go to school to get a job to be able to drive, get an apartment, and raise a family. I am trying to do the best for us! I am also always freaked that I will get pregnant so I want to get as much school done now as I can. I don't know what to do, I love him so much and we will be together forever but I don't know what to do.

[FLmomof5]

I don't know where this young lady attends school....

But, in her defense....

My own daughter was pushed into AP classes beginning Freshman year in HS. This action was district-wide to increase the # of students involved. (Looks good to the government.) Anyway....she will be a dual enrolled student her Senior year. I have seen her assignments and thank God for spell check!

It is possible that she has been pushed into some more advanced programs. Also, there are some folks who have learning disabilities that affect the "spelling" section of the brain, yet they are highly intelligent.

One can never know a situation through a computer screen!

[Saysfaa]

Well said, Music in my heart. And whoever mentioned not cosigning loans.

TaraRae, I do remember what it feels like to be your age. I know a lot of the advice here is not what you want to hear and it often feels like we don't understand or that *this is different*, but I've learned that is much less painful to learn from other peoples' experience and although the details of your situation differ a little from so many other peoples', the pattern is the same.

As for 16 year olds, high school, and college. My daughter, at 16, was a senior enrolled in our local high school taking all of her classes at a university through a dual enrollment program. She was indistiguishable from any other freshman at the university (except she had a different advisor).

She was by far the youngest in her high school class but that was because she had a late birthday in a state with a very early cut off date and we started her when she was allowed to go. Then moved to a state with a late cut off day where almost everyone with late birthday children (late being within the second half of the year) took the option of waiting an extra year.

I currently have four teenagers. From what they tell me about their friends and classmate, I believe there are many people in situations like the original poster describes.

[John--RN]

OP States she is doing Pre-Reqs, quote is below. I almost hope this is a fake post, as a father with a daughter the same age I hope it is. However even if it is fake you know someone out there is currently in this same position and it's possible the advice here may help them.

..... I go to school full time (15 credit) full of pre-reqs and I am a candy striper AND starting a CNA course (hopefully!).

[Moogie]

I just remember how stupid I've been about some of the romantic choices in my life even though I am a reasonably intelligent person, which is why I think this post might be the real thing.

At various times in my life, I could have been the poster child for the book Why Smart Women Make Foolish Choices.