Back up plan

Community college nursing programs are very competitive. Most wont admit you if you've left another program in bad standing, either. Focus on passing your classes in the program you're in. It doesn't seem like you have any good alternatives, so just get the job done.

Community college nursing programs are very competitive. Most wont admit you if you've left another program in bad standing, either. Focus on passing your classes in the program you're in. It doesn't seem like you have any good alternatives, so just get the job done.

YES what she/he said

I don't have any advice, but good luck.

You're spending a lot of mental energy on failing. I'd instead plan to succeed. Like maybe brushing up on your skills, getting into touch with professors to get some lab time, etc. Planning childcare so you have some extra time to study, etc. Getting in touch with your old cohort for any tips.

I get your nursing school is hard, but spending much mental energy on what ifs really isn't constructive at this point.

Given your home life, it is understandable that your school life is suffering. Given your experience in marriage, I will draw from that for clarity for you. You are going into this situation as if you are going into your marriage with a divorce plan. You know how that will end? I do, because my first wife always said "if we divorce". Stop thinking anything less than success. Retake the classes that brought down your grade, or challenge them, and bring that GPA up. Find a job as a CNA that will pay for your schooling and focus on you until you pass. Your children will be the biggest winners if you do this.

I'd echo what someone else has already said...don't continually focus on failing. You have to say to yourself that you will succeed and then follow that through because failing is not an option. I'm in a similar position, except that I'm an older student...I'm 51 actually....and in an NP program in a very rigorous school where the passing grade is 83%. Any less and you're out. I don't have the luxury of time nor money for a back up plan. I must succeed because if I don't I will have financially crippled myself without the ability to rectify it with a good future prospective NP position. Luckily, this attitude is paying off as I'm getting A's for pretty much everything, but it's not because I'm smarter than anyone else, it's because I have truly applied myself to succeeding. If I don't feel like I know something I study it until I do. I watch lecture after lecture and read everything I can to make sure I have grasped the concept so that when I'm tested on it I know how to answer. Don't set yourself up to fail under the premise that you'll make it right in the future with a back up plan. It's tough to have to pull yourself up from nothing and ruin your reputation by failing out. You're already halfway there....keep pushing. Why would you expect another school to give you another chance when you screwed up the one you had? You're still in a great position to finish. Use it!

Wow, everyone, thank you for the advice. I was not expecting this many responses. Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. I'm going to do my best to stop making a back up plan since I'm not failing at the moment. I don't want to put the cart before the horse and end up failing again due to fear and the fact that I am dwelling on the chance of failure.

Given your home life, it is understandable that your school life is suffering. Given your experience in marriage, I will draw from that for clarity for you. You are going into this situation as if you are going into your marriage with a divorce plan. You know how that will end? I do, because my first wife always said "if we divorce". Stop thinking anything less than success. Retake the classes that brought down your grade, or challenge them, and bring that GPA up. Find a job as a CNA that will pay for your schooling and focus on you until you pass. Your children will be the biggest winners if you do this.

As for the marriage part.. LOL I wish I had used the word divorce and what-if in my marriage perhaps then I would have been prepared for my husband of 5 years to leave me out of the blue, unable to pay our bills (due to school), with two children at home, and in my 1st trimester of pregnancy with our 3rd child together. That was fun, haha. Glad all that is over with. I do believe since I hadn't been using my "back up plan" method during my marriage I am feeling more inclined to do so with my schooling so I don't get (you know what'd) again. Feeling out of control of things in my life make me want to plan plan plan ahead to prepare for the worst unlike I did before. I think I'm getting ahead of myself here planning ahead for a failure that hasn't even happened yet. Thank you for the advice.

I think your anxiety is reasonable given your situation. But right now it's not helpful to dwell on it. You're not going to be applying to different programs or look at entry level positions in different fields. There really isn't any good back up plan that you can set into motion now. You're in it to win it at this point... focus on doing well. Cross the failing bridge when and if you get there.