Baby #2 while in Nursing?

Jules A, MSN · Jun 30, 2008

Wanna do really good in school, but I want another baby, and if we don't have another now we won't at all and my son will be an only child Not willing to take time off school. Help! So unsure!

I think it is very smart that you aren't willing to take time off from school but I don't get why you think that if you don't have a baby right now you won't ever have one? You are so young that I just can't imagine you don't have plenty of time but thats just my two cents and none of my group started getting married and having babies until we were almost 30. :)

RN1982 · Jun 30, 2008

I had a friend who was pregnant through nursing school and did fine. She was very stressed out though. If you think you and your boyfriend can handle having another child, go for it.

07302003, ASN, RN · Jun 30, 2008

Like someone told me... you can have almost anything you want if you work really hard at it. But you can't have EVERYTHING you want.

I went through nursing school with a two year old and plenty of free babysitting from his grandparents. People I know who were sucessful had lot of help from family.

Like another poster said, you could end up really really stressed out in nursing school with a new baby. You don't want to end up failing out.

But if creating a bigger family is what is most important to you right now, go for it. Just make sure you have enough help to succeed!

Zana2 · Jun 30, 2008

I started my training when my little one was 1 year old. I am now at the end of my second year. From my experience, it's really hard work, but I've managed so far. Thankfully my lilone goes to bed at 7 pm and my other half doesn't mind tidying up:yeah:. I have excellent childcare, but it costs us my husband's entire salary, we're living on my bursary.

The time you get to spend with your child is limited to a painful extent. You get the screaming in the morning:no more nursery, mumee, i want to stay at home with you. That's heart wrenching. You get to hear your child declare to her nana:oh, you want to play with me? Oh, really?You like me then, my mumee doesn't like me, she likes studying:banghead:(I never study when she's awake, sometimes at the weekend when an impending exam knocks on the door, my other half takes her to the playground and tells her:we must give mumee a couple of hours to do some studying. That obviously made her quite angry with me)

There are plenty of positives, i'll let you discover them:D

I went on this course knowing it's going to be hard for the three of us. I did my best and clenched my jaw, but in all honesty, i wish i did this trainig before i had her, i'm exhausted and the guilt pang is washed somewhat knowing that she has excellent childcare and that we'd be able to offer her a better childhood, a better life, and a mumee waiting for her when she finishes school for the day. It'll be ok.

Wicked Wahine · Jun 30, 2008

I'm sorry, I know that this is an incredibly useless post but:

Also my boyfriend is 27 and doesn't want to be an "old dad".

just cracked me up, bigtime. I remember a time when I thought people in their thirties were old too! Your perspective will change a LOT once you get to the ripe old age of 30.

vashtee, RN · Jun 30, 2008

Meh, I am a little old fashioned I suppose, but I can't imagine PLANNING to have a child, knowing full-well how little time you will have for him/her during nursing school. Besides, there is no guarantee that your children will be close just because they are close in age, and to worry about being an "old" parent at 27 is hysterically funny.

VikaRN_2008 · Jun 30, 2008

Meh, I am a little old fashioned and to worry about being an "old" parent at 27 is hysterically funny.

I agree too. I'm 26, single, and never had a child (hoping someday). Look at how I feel, lol. Oh well.

But, it's up to you. It's your life.

Justhere, BSN, RN · Jun 30, 2008

The age gap doesn't mean they will or won't like each other. Me and my bother are 3 years apart and we only speak with each other when we are both at mom's house together. We don't make special trips to see just one another. When it came time for college I had to do vo-tech because my parents couldn't afford to send both of us to college at the same time.

So when I had my kids I had them far enough apart so that when one is leaving out of college the other will be going in. I have a 13 year old and a 9 year old, was very hard on both of them when I went back for my RN and they were 10 and 6 wish I would have done my RN before I ever had children and I woundn't have dared brought my 3rd into the world while I was doing school, it was hard enough as it was. So now at the RIPE OLD AGE OF 36 I have a 9 month old. The two oldest get along better with her than the do each other.

Oh and I have a friend that has a 5 year old, 3 year old and 1 year old and she says she wishes she would have spaced them out like I did because they are always fighting with each other.

rn-jane · Jun 30, 2008

Nursing school takes alot of time, studying and comittment. I'm not saying if you were pregnant you could not be able to do it but why put more stress on both of you. First of all no matter how healthy you are each pregnancy is different and health concerns could arise. You could be put on bedrest and might have to sit out a year. I've had babies 3 years apart and it makes no difference in how they get along.

Wicked Wahine · Jun 30, 2008

So now at the RIPE OLD AGE OF 36 I have a 9 month old.

Oh your poor thing. How DO you manage to carry around a 9 month old while pushing your walker? Well, at least you're close to retirement age so you can eat dinner at 4pm and watch Matlock with your little one. Hehehehe :wink2:

Euphoria17 · Jun 30, 2008

Thanks everyone for the replies! It's a big decision. The reason why we won't have another baby if we don't do it now is because I had my son unexpectedly at 18 and kinda missed out on traveling and all the fun stuff you can do while you have your youth. So as soon as my son moves out I won't even be 40 and I will get to do all the stuff I had to postpone. I don't want to have another child 5plus years later and be starting all over again, never kidless! So that's why it's now or never. My boyfriend is going to get "fixed" either way we decide to go. So I think I'm gonna go for it! I have my family here for support and my boyfriend and I really want a baby! Plus a couple years after I graduate we plan on moving to Hawaii and working as nurses there. Wish us luck!