Are You Happy ?

yadda_yadda_yadda, LPN, LVN · Jul 26, 2006

thank you all for responding. what makes me happy is being with family. knowing that i could help others. but i sometimes feel that when i help others and not myself . i feel that its not enough. do any of you ever feel that? and if so where do you go with it?

Don't forget that caregivers need to be taken care of, too! We aren't just bottomless giving-nurturing-fixing machines. I kind of think of it like a bank account. We can take care of things and keep making ends meet as long as there's money in the account. In order to keep that up, though, DEPOSITS must be made. (The motivational speaker,Covey, refers to it as "an emotional bank account")

I reached rock-bottom about 4 years ago. I 'gave' all day @ work...came home & 'gave' some more...went to sleep & repeated it all the next day. Through a rather long process, I discovered that my "resources were depleted."----Naturally, we don't expect anything from our patients for all we do---but there must be a give & take at home and in our other relationships to keep everything balanced out.

Once I figured this out, I had to reset some boundaries & priorities. I now take time for myself & my interests.--This includes time alone if that's what I seem to need at the time, too.--- If I come home exhausted, we're going to order pizza or eat leftovers for dinner. My tired feet are just as important as my husband's feet or the kids.

We need to learn to see ourselves (and others) as precious resources. If neglected, or not taken proper care of & nurtured, they won't be around (at least in the sense that we EXPECT) if they're not appreciated.

CseMgr1, ASN, RN · Jul 26, 2006

Not really. I can't seem to fit in any type of nursing position lately. Less than a month after I resign from my position as Clinical Manager of a HHA I am told today by the Director that I don't have the skills necessary to function as a Field Nurse. I guess my previous 35 years experience was all for nothing and now I'm nothing but a washed up 55-year-old has been with credentials that aren't worth the paper they are written on.

I guess Wal-Mart is my next stop. They probably won't want me either, so what the hell.

RN Mc Neese · Jul 27, 2006

Try God.When you get to know him your unhappyness will vanish.Give him a try.He loves you and your happiness matters to him.

joshuaha · Jul 27, 2006

Yep, I would say that I am pretty dang happy. I have a great job, a great career ahead of me, and a wonderful family that supports me. What more could I want? When you compare my life to that of someone halfway around the world, it is pretty easy to see how blessed we all are. Even the poorest of the poor in America is still far richer than most of the world. Think about it.

Guest717236 · Jul 27, 2006

Not really. I can't seem to fit in any type of nursing position lately. Less than a month after I resign from my position as Clinical Manager of a HHA I am told today by the Director that I don't have the skills necessary to function as a Field Nurse. I guess my previous 35 years experience was all for nothing and now I'm nothing but a washed up 55-year-old has been with credentials that aren't worth the paper they are written on.
I guess Wal-Mart is my next stop. They probably won't want me either, so what the hell.

I'm not buying it! :nono: Perhaps they feel they would need to pay you more.

You put 35 years of hard work in management. Never would you

have lasted if you did not understand your field nurses.

Stand proud! Reinvent yourself! Choose nursing or a new field.

Trust me, nursing can dent your confidence if you let it.

How about legal nurse consulting or working for a Council on Aging?

Or you could open your own business in something you love to do.

It didn't hurt Mrs. Fields

All the best!!!!!!!!!!!

Jahra

reinventing at 50 years old and loving it!!!!!!!!!!

buildingmyfaith57 · Jul 27, 2006

what about people that consently vents? do you feel they are happy? or if you yourself would consently vent alot would you say your happy or co-worker?

nursecher · Jul 27, 2006

I am HAPPY! :)

I have an awesome husband and two healthy, happy kids (a boy and a girl.... what else could you want?)

And my icing on the cake is now I am fufilling my DREAM of become an RN!!!!

Now don't get me wrong I still have bad days, but I try not to sweat the small stuff.

I too believe God brings happiness. God Bless.

CseMgr1, ASN, RN · Jul 27, 2006

I'm not buying it! Perhaps they feel they would need to pay you more.
You put 35 years of hard work in management. Never would you
have lasted if you did not understand your field nurses.
Stand proud! Reinvent yourself! Choose nursing or a new field.
Trust me, nursing can dent your confidence if you let it.
How about legal nurse consulting or working for a Council on Aging?
Or you could open your own business in something you love to do.
It didn't hurt Mrs. Fields
All the best!!!!!!!!!!!
Jahra
reinventing at 50 years old and loving it!!!!!!!!!!

I resigned from my position as Clinical Manager because I basically had no authority to discipline the very same nurses who are now telling the Director that I have no skills despite the contrary when I rode with them. And do you know what she said, when I told her that?: "Oh, they're not going to say anything to you, anyway. Maybe you need to go and work the floor in the hospital", She adds condenscendingly. What does this tell you??

I smell a rat...and not just one. :angryfire

I'm getting out of there as quickly and as conveniently as possible....and before they are given a legitimate reason to fire me.

Guest717236 · Jul 27, 2006

I smell a rat...and not just one. :angryfire
I'm getting out of there as quickly and as conveniently as possible....and before they are given a legitimate reason to fire me.

Good plan! They all deserve each other :lol_hitti

Best wishes in finding a nuturing non disfunctional environment

seraph · Jul 27, 2006

i am happy to be here!

:) :yeah: :w00t:

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jul 27, 2006

I am happy with my career. I enjoy nursing and have no regrets. Currently I am unhappy with my job. Recently my employer has chosen to save many by changing our staffing pattern to a higher RN to patient ratio and higher tech to patient ratio. I'm going to tough it out while I'm in school.

I'm reasonably happy with my lifestyle. I enjoy a nice middle income, live in a nice house. Been "married" 9.5 years to a great guy. I have several good friends that I enjoy being with.

I could loose a few pounds, I don't always eat right and exercise like I think I should.

I have pretty tough standards for myself, and perhaps should lighten up a bit.

For me it's o.k. to be unhappy and unsatisfied, as long as I don't sit and whine and complain, I need to be doing something about it.

CseMgr1, ASN, RN · Jul 29, 2006

I wasn't happy the last day I posted here. But I am, now....! :yeah:

I made up my mind the other day to leave this HHA I have been working at for the past 3-1/2 months, after I was told by the Director that I basically stink as a field nurse. Never mind that the same nurses who told her this crap were chronic disciplinary problems while I was Clinical Manager. She's worked with these nurses for years and has no intention of getting rid of any of them anytime soon. I guess this is their way of getting back at me.

Well, she can have them.

I went on the internet yesterday morning and found an ad for a Workman's Comp Case Management position with an agency I had signed up with last year. I called the recruiter, she faxed the client my resume and references, and within three hours I was hired. The job starts August 7.

I can't wait to turn in my resignation on Monday, in which I intend to tell my soon-to-be ex-Director exactly why I am leaving. I doubt if she will care less, but I am doing what makes me happy. In the meantime, I hope some big, bad corporation comes in, takes them over and cleans house...starting with her. :devil: