I've read people's accounts of drama within the nursing team, as well as experienced cattiness firsthand. Are women naturally catty? I'm not a female misogynist, but it seems that more drama seems to arise around females. My theory is that women tend to be simultaneously competitive and social, which creates a need to differentiate "us" vs. "them." Women also tend to be more passive-aggressive, discussing the problem with peers and gaining satisfaction from having security in a group. They also tend to bond over emotions. This conception seems to span across time in stories of senior polygamyous wives mistreating younger wives, courtesans and geisha knocking out competition with cruelty and occasionally hitmen, and the precarious world of high school friendships. What are the psychological differences between male and female, if any?
While working in a group home, I fair amount of drama. A rumor went around that I was a stripper, and nothing was said to my face until I quit. Instead of asking me, they asked my male coworker, who they were going to hold responsible as an accomplice(?) if I indeed had that kind of a night life, for covering up for me. A couple girls actually went to the local club where I reportedly worked at, but of course found nothing. I found that my mail had been opened. I overheard them calling me ugly and scrawny. My male coworker said they were all jealous of me b/c I was the only one who wasn't a high school dropout or overweight or doomed to low-paying jobs. I quit because I started a new semester with a heave courseload and couldn't juggle a job and school, and also b/c I didn't want to risk my male coworker's job b/c he had a family to support.