So... I just turned 33. My husband and I were hoping to be done having babies by 35.
We currently have a 13 year old daughter and a two year old son. We would both very much like another baby before we are too old.
Our son is watched by my best friend while I am in school. We pay her. She is an amazing 'Auntie' and is fully willing to take on a brand new baby to care for while I am in school. She has a two year old as well as a three month old and is planning two more children in the next few years.
My questions is... is it ridiculous of me to consider adding to our family while in nursing school? Is there anyone out there with experience having babies while in the program? I want to get my RN, I don't want to take a year off... Tell me your thoughts.
Wow.. OP if you do end up having a child during nursing school or at any point of your career. Don't let anyone make you feel less of a mother for placing your child in daycare/nanny/relative.
I wish someone told my mother that spending less than two hours a day with me and my brother was not a good idea. We both had college funds. Unfortunately he didn't get to use all of his because he overdosed. I'm doing great now after years of therapy and one failed marriage due to abandonment and trust issues... So many failed relationships... We had extra things that we didn't need because she chose to work and let strangers raise us.
Well you are ignorant for not considering my point of view and not being familiar with the research. And don't assume anything about me keyboard warrior. Just answer the OP.
I did consider your point of view. I considered it wrong. If you can't handle people disagreeing with you, I would recommend keeping your views to yourself. I didn't assume anything about you, I responded to something you wrote on a public forum. I can respond to whomever I choose. That's the thing about a public forum, it's public. It would benefit you to keep in mind that you shouldn't post things if you don't want people to respond to them.
I did consider your point of view. I considered it wrong. If you can't handle people disagreeing with you, I would recommend keeping your views to yourself. I didn't assume anything about you, I responded to something you wrote on a public forum. I can respond to whomever I choose. That's the thing about a public forum, it's public. It would benefit you to keep in mind that you shouldn't post things if you don't want people to respond to them.
I could literally copy and paste everything you just wrote to me and reply to you. And it will all apply to you too then.
I sense that you are projecting some of your issues and anger onto a situation that may or may not be completely different than the one in which you grew up in.
OP, do what you feel is best for you and your family:)
Y'all can continue to have a [emoji192] fight with me meanwhile I haven't seen any responses from people who actually had a newborn child to take care of while they went to nursing school.
I wish someone told my mother that spending less than two hours a day with me and my brother was not a good idea. We both had college funds. Unfortunately he didn't get to use all of his because he overdosed. I'm doing great now after years of therapy and one failed marriage due to abandonment and trust issues... So many failed relationships... We had extra things that we didn't need because she chose to work and let strangers raise us.
Many nurses work three 12s a week. That is a HUGE difference from a mother spending "less than two hours a day" with her children. A mother who is home 4 days a week is not a mother who is not there. Many nurses have worked out that their husbands are home with the kids when they are not, or a combination of family or other nurturing caregivers are bridging the gap.
We are all a product of our past, but it doesn't give us the right to extrapolate our experiences on the general population, nor does it justify judgmental, insulting rants with no consideration given towards individual circumstances. Finally, not every mother chooses to work, but finds it necessary due to factors that may be beyond her control.
Y'all can continue to have a [emoji192] fight with me meanwhile I haven't seen any responses from people who actually had a newborn child to take care of while they went to nursing school.
I had my second child during Christmas break of nursing school. I did stay home with her during the spring semester and summer, but returned to finish school in the fall. It was never a full time situation, and she had loving family or other caregivers while I finished. When I worked, I worked three days a week and was home with both my girls four days a week. I eventually went part time, then PRN. I was very lucky that I had the option to do so, due to my husband's income. Not everyone I knew at work was so fortunate. Both my girls are in college/grad school and are kind, well adjusted young women with no abandonment issues or drug problems. We are close; very close actually.
You experience is only your own and cannot be generalized to everyone else.
Thanks to everyone for ganging up on me and exercising your right to free speech. I hope you feel great about yourselves and I'm glad I provided an opportunity for all of you to boost your self esteem.
Thanks to everyone for ganging up on me and exercising your right to free speech. I hope you feel great about yourselves and I'm glad I provided an opportunity for all of you to boost your self esteem.
Actually you might want to re-read the Terms of service here, as you are really walking the line with your angry, insulting posts. This site is not here to serve as platform for personal attacks on a poster who is asking about starting a family all the while she must establish her career.
You insulted millions of hard working mothers. If anyone replied in an effort to boost their self esteem, it was due to the fact that you shamed them and made they feel like they were a lesser person. Let's just call it a good example of negative feedback:)
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Wow.. OP if you do end up having a child during nursing school or at any point of your career. Don't let anyone make you feel less of a mother for placing your child in daycare/nanny/relative.