Anyone planning to start a family before Nursing School or has?

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I need some insight with my future. I plan to attend LPN program this August but was also wanting to start a family. I'm turning 26 this summer and my husband is turning 28 this spring we have been together going on 8years in August. He has an ok job I don't work at the moment. The school I plan to go to is about 4hrs away so I would be moving. The LPN program is 11months and to bridge to RN it's another 11months. However I won't be doing RN right after graduation. If I plan pregnancy this year my start date is pushed for May2017 then graduate March2018 and could start RN September2018 and graduate RN August 2019... I will be 29years old by then!!!!:( I feel like nursing is a rewarding job and also pays really good but to be honest I could be making RN wage other way plus some, so just confused if I should waste my time chasing this RN nursing dream? Or just settle for my LPN but still what's really the deference from my CMA. The reason I wanted to do LPN is to have my RN... I plan to also get into the house flipping business so don't know how nursing and that will play off.. Anywho thanks to whoever took the time to read.. Any mother out there that had to sacrifice time with kids, husband, family for school let me know how you did it thank you!

Specializes in NICU, Trauma, Oncology.

And remember you can plan and plan and plan but you really don't know when and if it will happen or how your pregnancy will go. You can't keep your life on hold while TTC.

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And remember you can plan and plan and plan but you really don't know when and if it will happen or how your pregnancy will go. You can't keep your life on hold while TTC.

Yes totally agree with you, I will not waste another year, last year I worked as a CMA thinking I wanted to settle for that job but realized life is too short might as well go for my RN that I have always dreamed of. So now here I am I was suppose to LPN next month May but I got my diagnosis of my fibroid in January and had to have surgery shortly after and recovering from that now... So now I can start in September and really really want to!! I was thinking if I were to TTC which I can in 2weeks that I would do it meanwhile I'm here and If I get pregnant then I get pregnant if I don't just go ahead with school anyways.. But also looking at starting next year in May if I do get pregnant. I'm just so confused thank you all for your comments I'm sure it's hard being a first time parent and school.. As for me if I do have a baby before school baby would stay with my husband cuz all are support system is here.

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First, I want to commend you for thinking this through before hand and setting up multiple plans! Unlike me who made no plans at all, because I never plan for the unexpected, at least not in my own life. I had just started in a pre-nursing program in our areas community college. This particular program is very hard to get into but if you take the pre-nursing classes and finish with a GPA of 3.5 then you will get accepted, but put on a waiting list. I had to take time off in my first year due to a completely unexpected pregnancy. I was on birth control, but we were very pleasantly surprised since we were told I had a very small chance of conception due to a hormone imbalance disorder. So now, 3 yrs later, I just finished medical assisting classes, which were only 3 hours in the evening, 3 days a week. I'm not gonna lie, it was exhausting! I had many sleepless nights, studying any time and place I could find 5 mins of quiet, working, and trying to spend time with my 2 favorite men, but It was all worth it! By your comment you seem pretty driven and committed, so I feel it all depends on what you feel like you can handle, and how much studying you're going to need. If you retain information easily then I'm sure you'll be fine. Either way good luck!!

Can I ask how you found out you had a hormonal issue? My doctor won't even bother on checking if that's the case with me, I did have blood work done but showed that I was healthy no Thyroid problems. Is that the only form to check if u have hormonal issues by blood work of the T cells I believe it is? My doc told my it just happens fibroids are so common which I believe they are but I still believe it's an underlying issue that's why I have changed my eating habits.

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I have a little girl! She'll be 2.5 in the fall. I've pretty much gotten the hang of studying long hours while still making time for her.

I've seen many girls at my school succeed while pregnant/having kids. Single parents, most of them. It's very very doable! Hard, but worth it. It won't be hard forever.

Follow your dreams:) If that's being a mom and a nurse, go for it! If it's meant to

be, it will be.

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Maybe the OP meant no negative comments, but open to constructive criticism. Because you know in the mix one person make a dumb comment your a moronic braud.

Now I never popped out or a kid or think I ever will, it's genetically impossible due to my parts.

Now as said before going to take open communication with your hubby figure a 2 year game plan out.

I mean I known people who held off and are thankful they did having kids till they were 30 and done with school.

My fiancé is 6 month's away from finishing LPN school. Wants to wait 2 year's before going back then Online RN school then kids by time she is 32. Thank God she got out of the mold are kids won't be alright if we gave kids after 30.

It all depends on you can you survive juggling chainsaws while on fire then most definitely you can do it.

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I have the exact same concern as you. I am 34, and started having kids 10 years ago. Because of this, I have been in school for 9 years (also, I have changed my major a few times). Having kids and going to school is really hard, especially if you are working too. Right now, I am planning to get pregnant this month. I am also planning to start core nursing curriculum this fall (and start working again). That would put my delivery date at the end of the semester, and put me in clinicals/classes in my last trimester. I would normally never choose to do it this way, but I am doing it only because of my age and financial circumstances. I can't wait any longer to have my last baby, as I'm getting too old. And I need to get through nursing school quick, as my financial stability may run out soon. So I guess it really just depends on your situation.

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It sounds like you need to decide what it is you want to prioritize: school or a baby. By the time I get (hopefully) accepted into a nursing program this June I will be 24. I want kids but my pursuit of this degree has trumped my desire for a child. It makes more sense to finish one thing at a time. Get through school, then get pregnant. Or get pregnant while you're in school but plan it out so that you'll have the baby after you graduate. There's no rush, and 29 is not old. You will be able to relax and enjoy your pregnancy more if you don't have the additional stress of being in nursing school thrown on top of it. Take your time and enjoy life. I honestly do not want kids until I'm at least 30 and I've advanced as far into my career as I want to go. My personal plan has been to prevent pregnancy for as long as I'm in school, establish my career, become financially stable enough to where I could fully provide for a child on my own if need be and THEN think about starting a family. Everyone is different, but that's my perspective on it.

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Lol and I just don't get how you always end up on my threads out of thousands of threads.? Not the first you come off negative.. And what I mean by no negative comments I'm referring to posts that lead to drama like yours:) and obviously I'm willing to hear out input other then mine that's why I posted read the first comment I'm actually thankful for these type of ppl that genuinely give out an opinion without negativity

My posts lead to drama? Example please. It's just ridiculous to come on here and tell everybody to agree with you. Oh and I love the sarcastic smiley face. That's very passive aggressive.

You don't know me. I'm one of the most positive people in the world. That's my point. You come to an anonymous forum on the Internet and ask the world to agree with you.

Just an FYI, I've been pregnant in nursing school. I could have given you some sage advice but your rudeness I feel is unacceptable. By posting no negative comments and no drama, you are inviting it. If you had just posted normally, maybe you would have gotten better responses. Think before you post.

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Thank you and I'm so sorry you have to go thru that. Well, I didn't know you had that problem with you uterus. What are the chances it might come back? Ow, I completely understand your doubts about what to do. :( can you do some of you classes online? Maybe while the baby is older and then do daycare? While finishing the program? I wish you the best!! And wohoo for your eating healthier. I actually was having trouble to get pregnant, so I did a cleanse and started a vegan diet and I think it helped!

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My posts lead to drama? Example please. It's just ridiculous to come on here and tell everybody to agree with you. Oh and I love the sarcastic smiley face. That's very passive aggressive.

You don't know me. I'm one of the most positive people in the world. That's my point. You come to an anonymous forum on the Internet and ask the world to agree with you.

Just an FYI, I've been pregnant in nursing school. I could have given you some sage advice but your rudeness I feel is unacceptable. By posting no negative comments and no drama, you are inviting it. If you had just posted normally, maybe you would have gotten better responses. Think before you post.

Lol omg get off my post already it's not the first time you come on one of my posts all negative, speak for yourself read you first comment you just sound like and old grumpy person on the other side of the screen... You keep saying I want ppl to agree with me I don't know why you would say that if I made this post its common sense it's to get opinions on mothers in nursing school.. Get a life

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It sounds like you need to decide what it is you want to prioritize: school or a baby. By the time I get (hopefully) accepted into a nursing program this June I will be 24. I want kids but my pursuit of this degree has trumped my desire for a child. It makes more sense to finish one thing at a time. Get through school, then get pregnant. Or get pregnant while you're in school but plan it out so that you'll have the baby after you graduate. There's no rush, and 29 is not old. You will be able to relax and enjoy your pregnancy more if you don't have the additional stress of being in nursing school thrown on top of it. Take your time and enjoy life. I honestly do not want kids until I'm at least 30 and I've advanced as far into my career as I want to go. My personal plan has been to prevent pregnancy for as long as I'm in school, establish my career, become financially stable enough to where I could fully provide for a child on my own if need be and THEN think about starting a family. Everyone is different, but that's my perspective on it.

Thank you so much this is very uplifting, I'm 25yo and turning 26 in July... I really think I need to at least get my LPN out the way and go from there.. I dk why I keep thinking I need to rush at career and babies lol maybe cuz it's close to 30 but yes that's still young I need to relax totally agree:)

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I have the exact same concern as you. I am 34, and started having kids 10 years ago. Because of this, I have been in school for 9 years (also, I have changed my major a few times). Having kids and going to school is really hard, especially if you are working too. Right now, I am planning to get pregnant this month. I am also planning to start core nursing curriculum this fall (and start working again). That would put my delivery date at the end of the semester, and put me in clinicals/classes in my last trimester. I would normally never choose to do it this way, but I am doing it only because of my age and financial circumstances. I can't wait any longer to have my last baby, as I'm getting too old. And I need to get through nursing school quick, as my financial stability may run out soon. So I guess it really just depends on your situation.

Thank you yes that is something to think about, I don't want to finish Nursing in my 30s I want this to be done by 28 which is possible. I just want to work make $ and invest into house flipping business lol.. My husband at the moment is the provider and he makes ok money and would be helping me out with my bills when I go to school, either way I just think I'm a let things be but planning school this August for sure

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