Anybody else feeling bad??

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by kaiteabee kaiteabee (New) New

So here is my issue ladies,

Im about 2 weeks into school and I am missing my kids like crazy!!!! I know I have to spend a lot of time with this A&P class to get everything down but am I supposed to feel like I am neglecting my kids>?? (Not to that extent) I miss them! I want to bring them to class with me.

I know that I am doing this for them to make their lives better and more stable, but why do I feel so bad>?? Ive been having my daughter sleep in bed with me because she likes to cuddle.

Am I being weird??

Thanks for listening :)

Katie:heartbeat:crying2:

want2banurse09

want2banurse09

15 Posts

I totally know how you feel. I just posted a thread about that yesterday. I too am taking physiology this semester and also chemistry and it feels like I am at school more than I am at home,but like you said we just have to keep on reminding ourselves that we are doing it for our kids.

BreatheFree

BreatheFree

135 Posts

I felt like this my first semester back at school. My youngest was 4 months old and I missed him and the other kids so much. However, 3 semesters later I look forward to the break. Where you a stay at home mom before you started school?

In2Win

In2Win

Specializes in Med-Surg. Has 3 years experience. 26 Posts

I feel like I've practically ignored my 3 sons since my classes started this semester. One of my classes is A & P and it has me terrified. It's so much work & we're only 3 chapters in! ALL I do is read & study. It's particularly tough right now because my husband is gone for training until early March. I keep telling myself that I'll make it up to the boys during my Spring Break.

Anne36

Anne36, LPN

1,360 Posts

Yes! Me too. Im only taking 2 classes but they are soaking up so much of my time. I was a full time mom for all these years and now all my free time in studying. I hate school right now. The Nutrition class is hell because the teacher does not instruct, I voiced my concerns twice and he just says, "you worry too much, just read the book".

I am questioning if this is really what I want. I want a stable job where I can make a living wage. I dont like to yell at my kids all day to be quiet and go away.

To top it off, I have lost my income as of the week classes started so Im having a hellish time concentrating wondering how long I can hold out on my bank acount. My income was 0 for the past 3 weeks, I have 4 kids and dont qualify for any help based on what husband makes, not that I get a nickel from him. I asked him to put gas in my car as a favor today and that is the first $ I have had from him.

Cilantrophobe

Cilantrophobe

704 Posts

I hate school right now. The Nutrition class is hell because the teacher does not instruct, I voiced my concerns twice and he just says, "you worry too much, just read the book".

Don't let yourself get down, I took nutrition online and there was no instruction. All we had was the book. So I HAD to read it! Nearly the entire thing. And that was before I had ever taken a science course, so a lot of it was hard for me at first. The appendix helped a bit.

To the OP. I started school while pregnant and used to be a SAHM. Now my 17-month old son is in daycare from 7:30 to 5:30. I do miss him but I make the most of my time with him in the evenings and on the weekends. Having him in daycare makes a world of difference for my stress level, as well as my grades. My hat goes off to those of you who do kids and school throughout your entire nursing school journey. My husband and I don't have any family in the area so we have no choice for him to be in day care while I am in school. I make the most of my time at home alone for serious studying and housework so that the evenings and weekends are a breeze.

So, no, you're not being weird. We all miss our kids and want to cuddle them and take them everywhere! But we are doing something that will change our lives, and theirs. For the better. For many of us nursing is something we have always wanted. Reward yourself by not feeling guilty for doing something you really want to do. Your daughter isn't going anywhere. Just make sure she gets your undivided attention when she needs it. :)

peytonsmom

peytonsmom

274 Posts

OP, my son (3.5) is back to sleeping w/ us at night too just so I can cuddle him. :)

I work FT w/ a decent commute and am taking A&P II and Pre-Calc this semester. I am getting home arond 7:00 M-F and his bedtime is 8:00 :o

I just keep reminding myself how much this will be worth it for him too and I make the weekends extra special in any way I can.

Sadly, it only gets worse when you actually get into the nursing program. My school did split clinicals. We would do on campus stuff in the morning and clinicals at the hositals at night. There were days when I left a sleeping baby at home and came home to a sleeping daughter. It was horrible.

Annieh1315

Annieh1315

32 Posts

I am in the same situation. I have re-prioritized my time. I spend much less time cleaning my house and with friends that aren't as important. I dont' always answer the phone or call a friend back that wants to aimlessly chat for an hour. I study at lunch on my breaks from work. We eat simpler meals that don't take as much time to cook. I am very focused on every hour of my time to maximize it with my husband and kids. My husband works full time but has really stepped up and helped with the housework so that when I am home with everyone, we can cuddle on the couch as a family and spend quality time together. Yeah, I am behind a bit on the laundry but it's not as imporant to me anymore.

Yes, your education will dramatically improve your children's lives, but make sure to prioritize your time so that you're there for the moments that really matter. Young kids don't have the concept of "Mommy's going to school to make my life better even if I miss her a lot lately." But, they do understand that "Mommy has homework, so I will play with my toys alone or with my sister until later when we can cuddle." It doesn't have to be long. You'll know what the right amount of time is. I guess in my ramblings, I am just trying to say that there is time to spend with them, but don't let less important things get in the way. And, it's all temporary. You can reconnect with acquaintances and the washer and dryer later - after you graduate!

TryingNot2BeScared

TryingNot2BeScared

Specializes in I was the Assistant to the DON. 99 Posts

Gee I feel like a bad mommy, I can't WAIT for class to start so I can get a break :yeah:. Well not really because I work 6 hours on Saturday and 6 on Sundays and I totally miss my son while I am gone. I just never adjusted to the SAHM thing...I was a real working chick-50 hours plus a week. I always made more than my hubby so it was SOO rough making the decision for me to stay home.

What I have noticed is I agree with the mom who said putting her son in daycare was a good thing..my son is really getting bored being home. I feel he needs interaction with other children and a more new and exciting environment. I have started to "ignore" him in a way while I study, like I found myseld actually saying go watch TV!! OMG never thought I would make my son watch TV-EVER! I used to play and teach him so much, now I just don't have time and I feel guilty.

I want to put him in daycare even if its 1-2 days a week, but we can't afford it-AT ALL. How do you guys wing going to school and having your kids in daycare?? That would be SOO ideal for us now and our future. I suppose your hubbys make enough so its possible? Lucky ducks!:bowingpur

BreatheFree

BreatheFree

135 Posts

I will be using my financial aid in the fall to pay for daycare. I will have to take out more loans than I would like to but I don't have a choice.

Annieh1315

Annieh1315

32 Posts

I work full time at a desk job and go to school (nursing pre-req's) evenings and weekends for now. When my kids were really little, I couldn't afford to work because daycare was so expensive. I stayed home while my husband worked full time and went to school in the evenings for his business degree. Then, I went to school in the evenings and online (technology rocks!) for my business degree. Now, the girls are in elementary school, so if I stayed home to go to school (which I still can't afford!) I wouldn't have to pay for daycare. Life gets a lot easier in so many ways when they get a bit older. The poster who said she needed a break - I completely empathize! I am guessing your children are young? Hang in there ladies!

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