anxiety about evening Childcare

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 31, 2016

Showing children by example, that education can take a person out of a life of poverty, can be a lesson that they can internalize and carry forward into their own lives.

There are tons of studies supporting this. Childred of educated parents tend to educate themselves.

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 31, 2016

Wow Nurse Shawn! That's awesome you had a all planned out. That's very admirable. As for the girlfriend, her loss

Good riddance too, I met the woman that later became my wife and gave me two more bueatiful children a few weeks after.

bagladyrn, RN · Jul 31, 2016

My son was in daycare and with sitters in their home for several years while I was a student.

Of course we missed each other but he grew up with an appreciation for education. He also became a husband who is totally supportive of his wife's education and career.

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 31, 2016

Thanks RNKPCE. You absolutely right and yes we both will miss each other. That is what hurts me the most. I do want to secure his future but I don't want to sacrifice precious time with him.

School will require sacrifices. You will have to answer if the sacrifices are worth it yourself. Id make a pro/con list. To be clear what exactly will you sacrifice by doing evening school? He is 3 so bedtime is about 7 to 8ish? You would leave 5ish to make 6pm clinicals? Whatabout class are the lectures avalable online?

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN · Jul 31, 2016

I'm not trying to be combative. I'm pointing out the obvious. I told you o don't know the answer. I don't have that wide answer for every situation. I don't know the age of your child. I just think daycare and nightcare that are not in your home for at least one of those does not seem conducive to raising a child.

Why not wait until they are old enough to attend school on their own? Why is that hard? Yes, it means putting your dream on hold for a couple of years, but I'm assuming that you are managing now financially. Your child will never be this age again.

My child was in second grade when I started prereqs. I did not have a job. He u set stood though what I was doing. A three year old won't, but the care they get from outsiders will stay with them. That is what shapes them.

Im not being negative. Im being real. On this site you will find your Rah-Rah cheerleaders and those who keep it real. Most people only want the cheerleaders.

Mahogany77 · Jul 31, 2016

I have my reasons for seeking nursing now as opposed to waiting "a few years" which I will not discuss. I am all for "keeping it real" but when you accuse someone of "pawning" off their child and not know the person AT ALL, you can't blame a person for calling your response combative. As a mother, I am quite sure you would not appreciate someone accusing you of pawning your kids off (as you put it) Hey, at the end of the day we are all entitled to OPINIONS but just be mindful of your words. It is possible to "keep it real" without offending. It takes a whole level of maturity to master it tho.

morgieb · Jul 31, 2016

Hey Mahagonnay,

Do you have any family that can help out? I went through this too and still go through it. When I was in my round of nursing school I hired someone to pick up my kids and sit them until my husband got home late nights. Some were good, some were bad but I fired people at will and at whim. I held high expectations, and I carried a very open dialogue with my children. That in addition to security cameras in my home.....,lol. At the end of the day I still worried, but I was doing what I and countless others have to do in order to work and go to school. Do you know my son some 4 years later still remembers it all too well. He hates the idea of me going back to nursing school. I did the best I could. I know we feel guilty, it's just what we do as moms. But just remember this is temporary and you're making a better life for the both of you. Hang in there. You can do this. You're little one will cherish his time with you even more. And you will also cherish your time and appreciate being a mom that much more. Ignore these naysayers. Some people need to be upset about something even if it means jumping on a forum to do so. At the end of the day you asked for advice from those who have been down this path. You have the support of us who see you're just another good mom trying to get advise that works. Good job mom!

morgieb · Jul 31, 2016

That's crazy....your formula for waiting doesn't have to be her story. People go through nursing school with newborns, pumping, etc. Wait until their older? That may have worked for you but don't rain on her parade for trying to advance and achieve now.

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 31, 2016

Im being real. On this site you will find your Rah-Rah cheerleaders and those who keep it real. Most people only want the cheerleaders.

I dont think you are being real by presenting problems as unmoveable objects. There are tons of solutions that allow people with kids to go to school and still have reasonable time to bond. Everyone has their own definition of reasonable and level of resourcefulness. There are loans, grants, scholarships, programs to help single parents get through school, friends, familiy, just to start the list. I am a firm believer anything is possible and my most motivating moments have been when people told me otherwise. Of course you are right, waiting until second grade is one of many options. I know a physician that waited until she raised her children to begin medical school.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Jul 31, 2016

I'm not trying to be combative. I'm pointing out the obvious. I told you o don't know the answer. I don't have that wide answer for every situation. I don't know the age of your child. I just think daycare and nightcare that are not in your home for at least one of those does not seem conducive to raising a child.
Why not wait until they are old enough to attend school on their own? Why is that hard? Yes, it means putting your dream on hold for a couple of years, but I'm assuming that you are managing now financially. Your child will never be this age again.
My child was in second grade when I started prereqs. I did not have a job. He u set stood though what I was doing. A three year old won't, but the care they get from outsiders will stay with them. That is what shapes them.
Im not being negative. Im being real. On this site you will find your Rah-Rah cheerleaders and those who keep it real. Most people only want the cheerleaders.

She posted the age of her child (3). My son (2) goes to daycare & is better for it. Before daycare he was shy & didn't like to play with other kids. Now he is such an outgoing little boy & very personable. Also no one raises my son, I do. They WATCH him but certainly do not raise my son.

There is no ideal time to go to school. Should she wait until her child goes to college? Because that would be a great time!

I feel you are being very negative. Telling someone to put off school just because of her child is rubbish. Did anyone tell you to wait to go to school? It hurts. There is no reason she can't go to school. Showing her son she can always better herself is an invaluable.

Ms.TinyRN · Jul 31, 2016

Hey, doing what you have to do to provide for you and your son is your first priority, this is the best field but you know that, he will see your determination, and drive for his and your future, I drove two hours one day a week to my bridge program for a year, I did have help, but I went through 2 babysitters, and had to leave at 4 am to get to clinical by 6:30. My advice look at ALl, The reviews the bad first and see how he feels when he walks in, is he comfortable, also look online at the Quality Rated Program go visit with them I only looked for home care because I didn't want my 2 year old, former micro preemie around a lot of kids and he could get that one on one care at an in home facility. Also ask around, someone at your church, an old grandmother, that could spoil him at your church, if you attend, but ask and tell them why you need it, when I shared my drive, and people saw my determination I received a lot of support. Congratulations, you got this, and remember if you don't like it, it's ok to change him, your loyalty is him not the person you pay, but change once you find somewhere else. My son loves his homecare lady now, she's great and attentive. And I'm in Atlanta if you are here.

Meeshie · Jul 31, 2016

Mom guilt.. it's a huge thing. It's totally normal, too. You'll always feel a bit guilty. You'll always miss your child on days that you have to be gone. It's hard. You just keep telling yourself it's worth it. After all, this too shall pass. You'll graduate and with that comes a calmer schedule plus the benefits you're working so hard to achieve.

Good luck.