anxiety about evening Childcare

dishes, BSN, RN · Jul 30, 2016

If there is any way you can have him looked after in your home during the evenings? It would allow him time to relax and have an uninterrupted sleep.

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN · Jul 30, 2016

It's up to you. That's a lot of bouncing for your kid. Is there no in home daycare? I don't know the answer.

I guess you chose to have this child but now he is being pawned off a lot. A lot. Daycare is one thing. Putting your kid in daycare because you need to have to work, is fine. People these days have to work. It's common and happens with pretty much 75% of families. These kids grow up fine and well adjusted. But this is not what you are asking.

You want the blessing of random people on the Internet to say it's ok to put your kid in daycare day and night because this is YOUR dream. Sorry but your child and his dreams became more important than yours when you chose to have him/her. Your dreams get put on hold.

This is coming from a single mom.

Mahogany77 · Jul 30, 2016

Thank you for taking the time out to read and respond to my post. Despite your comment seeming very combative, it is appreciated :up:First of all, let's get one thing straight. I am not seeking anyone's "blessing". I simply was seeking advice and insight which this is the platform to do so. Yes I mentioned that becoming a nurse is my Dream but securing my child"s future is my priority like hopefully all Mother's. I need no reminder that my child dreams are bigger than mine.

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 30, 2016

I did this through nursing school. Hang in there you will make it and be able to better provide for your family

I did what dishes suggested*

Mahogany77 · Jul 30, 2016

That is a good idea. I will look into. Thanks for your response. Thanks Dishes

Mahogany77 · Jul 30, 2016

Thank you Nurse Shawn. Good too know there are some positive people on this forum

Malenurse1235954 · Jul 30, 2016

Another thing I did was work prn as a pct. Higher wage and set your own hours. The maternal grandparents would watch my daughter everyother weekend and I could get my work out of the way. Then during summers my daughter would travel to her moms house and I would pull as much ot as I could. That way I could fatten up my savings and not work as much during school and when I had my daughter. My local hospital had as much overtime avalable as I could take. I did max my subsidized loans each year and pell grant. After I finished school I worked 2 months straight and cleared all my student loans... Cost me a girlfriend though.

RNKPCE · Jul 30, 2016

Hello all,
Am I doing the right thing? Should I wait? Any advice would be great

You are asking for advice. Some people will tell you that what you are doing isn't the best idea. If you want to only positive replies you likely won't get it.

I get you want to make a better life for your son. But he will get only two weeknights with you, Saturday night and Sunday. You also will have to find time to study. I think you'd both miss each other terribly.

Mahogany77 · Jul 31, 2016

Thanks RNKPCE. You absolutely right and yes we both will miss each other. That is what hurts me the most. I do want to secure his future but I don't want to sacrifice precious time with him.

True, not all responses are going to be positive but they should be constructive. People should be mindful of the words they choose to type but hey people will be people regardless. Thanks again for your insight.

Mahogany77 · Jul 31, 2016

Wow Nurse Shawn! That's awesome you had a all planned out. That's very admirable. As for the girlfriend, her loss

dishes, BSN, RN · Jul 31, 2016

Showing children by example, that education can take a person out of a life of poverty, can be a lesson that they can internalize and carry forward into their own lives.