Anonymous claim to BON...Psych Eval?

Red Kryptonite · Mar 8, 2015

Do you have police reports, restraining orders, etc that show the stalking? This kind of tactic is well known to be part of that kind of situation, so if you provide evidence it may help you get the claim dismissed without a lot of trouble.

How much weight would a BON give one anonymous claim, anyway? I have no experience and so am really curious about that.

TheMagicCookie · Mar 8, 2015

I have had the police out to my residence twice...one for the initial contact he made with me by leaving a card under my windshield professing his love (he didn't know where my new home was) and again earlier this week when my front window coincidentally was broken, but nothing stolen. He has also been emailing a therapist I see in an attempt to get information from her. He has gone so far as to attack her professional integrity and is sending very cryptic and implicit emails regarding my safety and wellbeing.

Red Kryptonite · Mar 9, 2015

How frightening. I am so sorry. :no:

TriciaJ, RN · Mar 9, 2015

The BON is required to investigate EVERYTHING, even if they know going in that it is ridiculous. Document everything pertaining to your froot-loops ex and bring that with you to the BON. Their only concern is your ability to safely practice nursing. Get some references from your current employer and coworkers. Get a statement from your current therapist. Go along with the psych eval.

It wouldn't hurt to talk with an attorney who has experience with the BON. Psych evals are only as good as the person administering them so cover your bases there. Good luck!

allnurses Guide · Mar 9, 2015

This is a real conundrum,

It all depends on where the complaint came from. RedK is right you need to have a file of all incident and police reports to prove the stalking claim if and only if the board asks for it. Do not volunteer any information. Often when dealing with these situations people can get very emotional even a bit hysterical (totally unerstandable under the circumstances) but tell your story to the wrong person at the BON and you may be in for a lot of run a round.

Let your therapist know in writing that you and this other person are no no longer together and any consent (real or implied) is now revoked - site the HIPPA and have it notarized then delivered by mail with receipt of delivery. Keep a copy with your records as well as the return receipt.

You are most likely right that this is the work of your stalker - so don't worry about the Board - First and formost take care or your safety. Don't walk out of workk into dark parking lots or parking structures. If you don't have one get a temporary restraining or and show up in court when you are notified to make it permanant.

Unless you have been recently hospitalized and placed on an involuntary hold it's not likely this is a result of any medical professional reporting you.

Peace

Hppy

TheMagicCookie · Mar 9, 2015

Thank you. It's such a strange situation and definitely not something I've dealt with before! I've never had any sort of complaint or claim made against my ability to work.

Red Kryptonite · Mar 9, 2015

Thank you. It's such a strange situation and definitely not something I've dealt with before! I've never had any sort of complaint or claim made against my ability to work.

What sucks about these d' bags is that they're so skilled in finding exactly the right places to hit in order to hurt you.

jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B · Mar 12, 2015

If you have not already done so, I would really think about a restraining order, on both your home and your place of work--keep yourself safe first.

Discuss this with an attorney as far as how to deal with the BON. This is harassment, slander.....all those things that stalkers are a pro in.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Please contact your local women's violence hotline and get some support there as well. Because what is happening to you is, in fact, violence.

About your therapist. I am hoping that whomever this guy spoke to was clear that they could not confirm nor deny that you are even a patient with them. I hate to say you may have to find another therapist, but you may.

Be really safe. I would also change your cell phone as well as your carrier. Be mindful of the fact that if at any time you shared a cell phone carrier, or if he ever had access to your online phone access to your information, there can be GPS on your phone--that he activated and is using without your knowledge.

I would also see about a home security system with video monitoring. You can get that through your local cable company. I would also see about one of those monitoring systems on your phone--you push a button and there's a live person who stays on the line with you until you are safely in your car, etc. and will call for help if you need it.

Stay safe. And I wish you nothing but the best moving forward.

Gooselady, BSN, RN · Mar 12, 2015

I obtained a cyberstalker due to my participation on a domestic violence forum. Every now and then, we'd get trolls just like every other internet forum. These special trolls were usually individuals perpetrating domestic violence but convinced, as usual, that they are the World's Biggest Victim. And don't you deny it.

Well, I did 'deny it' with one person, I confronted her via private message.

She finally disappeared after two and a half years. There are still "Don't Date Him/Her" sites out there about ME. She called my HR and sent them multiple emails, accusing me of using work computers to stalk and harass her. The first time, HR took it seriously. I had to go down there with my manager as a witness and basically, I was humiliated that I had to defend myself from this IDIOT'S relentless harassment, which meant I had to explain how I knew her, which meant I had to disclose why I was on a domestic violence support board -- you get the picture. Not stuff I like to share with people I work with!

She had my RN number, home address, my kids and grandkid's names, and a picture of me to boot, which she generously shared throughout the WWW along with mention of me stealing narcotics from work, physically abusing patients, ripping people off, scamming the electric company and the IRS. Fortunately my real name is fairly common and shared with a movie star .

I wasn't her only target, and finally she was sued and HER victim won, a rare thing with cyberstalking and bullying. I hope she fell off the face of the planet.

Anyway, the advice you are getting is very good, and important to take. You'll need the 'document trail'. I'm so sorry someone at the BON was manipulated into taking this seriously. I don't have proof, but I'm almost positive that idiot called my BON as well, she had every other detail of my life at her fingertips.

I don't know if this person is still harassing you in any other ways . . . best to NEVER respond or acknowledge you even notice a communique' from this person, it just feeds them. It is unfair, what is happening to you, but you are far from alone. This is one case where the truth really will 'out'.

HouTx, BSN, MSN, EdD · Mar 16, 2015

Wow - what a horrible experience. In my state, the BON has been known to file charges of "making a false report" and seek damages when this type of thing occurs. In addition to the terrible effect on the person being harassed, it costs the BON quite a bit to conduct the investigation... which the perpetrator should have to reimburse.