Am I crazy for this?

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I was enrolled in a BSN program, didn't pass my critical care class and wound up getting kicked out of my program. Luckily for me, I had enough education to get an exception from my school to take my NCLEX-PN. I passed hte test last week and received my license yesterday in the mail. I was really excited!

My problem (and question) is this: I live on the Oregon/Washington border, all the jobs are in OR, but due to not passing a PN course, I am not eligible to reciprocate my license and cannot work there. I'm also not eligible for a majority of jobs in my state due to the same problem.

I'm looking for work, but all I can think about is how much I want my RN! I'm looking at LPN-RN programs and am going to start working on getting approval for and enrolled in a program at a community college near me.

My sister in law has decided what I'm doing is completely her business and has sent my mom multiple emails about how dare they continue to support me while I work my life out and try to achieve my goals. I've talked to several close friends who are fully supportive of my decisions (as are my parents), but I can't help but feel like I'm crazy for wanting to better my life. My reasoning is simple. I spent 8 years in college working as hard as I possibly could for my RN (I'm 35), only to have my world fall out from underneath me when I didn't pass my class. I've gone this far in my life, I really want to be able to use all the skills I've worked so hard to learn.

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Specializes in Pediatric/Adolescent, Med-Surg.

While your sister-in-law should mind her own business, I would not want my parents supporting me through school if I was 35 and married.

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Oh I'm not married. I'm single and happy. If and when I continue my education, I'm going to pay out of pocket. I just can't help but wonder if I'm wrong wanting more education.

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Specializes in Pediatric/Adolescent, Med-Surg.
Oh I'm not married. I'm single and happy. If and when I continue my education I'm going to pay out of pocket. I just can't help but wonder if I'm wrong wanting more education.[/quote']

You are not wrong for wanting more education. My bad when I heard sister-in-law I was thinking you were married and independent with your parents paying your way

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You are not wrong for wanting more education. My bad when I heard sister-in-law I was thinking you were married and independent with your parents paying your way

Oh, nope. It's my brother's wife. My parents ARE helping me out; I'm living with them simply because I was in school and it's virtually impossible to work full time and do nursing school full time, but I'm hoping I can get some sort of job somewhere in the near future and then do the LPN-RN program. I'm honestly more than a little terrified by the prospect of not being accepted into a program though.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Oh, nope. It's my brother's wife. My parents ARE helping me out; I'm living with them simply because I was in school and it's virtually impossible to work full time and do nursing school full time, but I'm hoping I can get some sort of job somewhere in the near future and then do the LPN-RN program. I'm honestly more than a little terrified by the prospect of not being accepted into a program though.

You've passed your boards and plan on working as a LPN; sounds like you've decided to turn your failure into triumph.

Is there a way to return to the program you were kicked our of? If you can repeat the course, find out if you can just repeat the course.

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Is there a way to return to the program you were kicked our of? If you can repeat the course, find out if you can just repeat the course.

I can't repeat the class. I'm totally out of that school, which was the hardest part to deal with. Combined with not being able to work where there are jobs, I've just kind of been scrambling. But I took my blow, rolled with the punches and I'm still working on dusting myself off while I'm looking around the corner to see what's next and what can I do to improve myself.

I would LOVE to go to grad school, I'm continually researching things, looking on reddit, etc., and I ma fascinated with nutrition and diet, as well as alternative health things, but my first goal is to get some work under my belt, hopefully get into an RN program, and pay down my loans in order to do more schooling if that's where my journey leads me.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

*8 years doing college to get your RN?

This doesn't make sense.

Why did you fail the class?

You are 35?

You are all over the board.

It sounds like you can't stay on track.

Have you gotten vocational counseling?

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I was in college for 8 years because I didn't know what I wanted to do when I went back to school. I was working on a psych degree when I realized there were no job opportunities, plus all my research led me to the healthcare field so I followed my gut. I was in nursing school for 4 years when I didn't pass the class. I was enrolled in a BSN program, 2 terms away from graduation.

What would I need vocational counseling for? There's no reason for it, they'd just tell me I belong in nursing. I know what I want to do with my life. It's just a matter of reaching my goal.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

Nursing school for four years?

This must have been pre-requirements included I guess.

Why would they release you from the program for failing one class?

I can't help but think something is missing here.

Good luck.

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Specializes in Pediatric/Adolescent, Med-Surg.

Oh, nope. It's my brother's wife. My parents ARE helping me out; I'm living with them simply because I was in school and it's virtually impossible to work full time and do nursing school full time, but I'm hoping I can get some sort of job somewhere in the near future and then do the LPN-RN program. I'm honestly more than a little terrified by the prospect of not being accepted into a program though.

So does the rest of your family see you as free loading? I will be honest if my 35 year old sister was living at home with parental support and not even working while in school I might be a bit ticked as well. However, I tend to value my independence, and working through school is not "virtually impossible" as myself and countless others on this board did it

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Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.

If I were your sister-in-law, I'd be upset too.

You had eight years to obtain a degree and you didn't.

You haven't enrolled in another program, and you're already considering a graduate degree.

All the while living with your parents, without a job, at 35 years old.

I don't think you're crazy. But I don't blame your sister in law one bit.

Most posters on this site not only worked through school, but worked with children.

Living with Mom and Dad is just easier.

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