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I'm 31 now, and have a 14 year old son, and 10 and 6 year old daughters. Yes, I was a senior in high school(17) when I became a mom. Was this the best age? No, but being a young mom has its advantages too. Even though it was definitely a struggle, I will be in my forties when my children leave the nest, and I will have that time in my life to travel, work more, and have more freedom. On the downside, it has taken me much longer to complete college, and I am still in the process of buying my first home.
I don't think there really is a "best age" for starting a family, because raising children is the hardest job you will ever have regardless. However, I sometimes wonder about parents starting families in their late 40s, early 50s and wonder how well it is working for them.
I don't think there is a best "age" but I do think some things need to be in order first. Finished with school. Married. :)
I had my first at 24. Had my last at 43. I have 2 in between.
I love infants, toddlers, elementary school age kids. Teens - not so much.
My oldest is in college about to graduate with a Bachelor's degree. My youngest is in preschool. My 2nd child has a full-time job working in the woods driving a skidder. My 16 year old is a sophomore.
I pounded it into my kid's heads to get their education first.
steph
#1 31
#2 34
We tried for a loooong time before the first one came along, so I would have done it younger, if I could have. But I also know that I have mellowed a lot with age, and have much more patience now than I would have had in my 20's. A positive effect of the nine year delay was that we were more financially stable than we would have been otherwise, and I have been able to stay at home full-time.
In my opinion, though, a baby is a blessing at any time.
sugabuga
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Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I appreciate your responses in advance!