Advice needed!! Lazy peer!

[KStudentNurse70]

Hey so before I started nursing school I finished all of my co reqs such as A&P 1 & 2 ect...my friend that is also in the nursing program failed A&P1 last semester after she was accepted and you get two attempts at it so she is retaking it now. Anyways I am extremely annoyed because she is constantly asking me for all of my lab work from last semester and expects free access codes from me and books. I don't think it's fair that I worked my ASS off last semester to get an A and then she thinks nothing of it and just wants to copy all of my work!!! I am a nice person so it's hard for me to stand up for myself but she thinks nothing of it and always says "I'm lucky" that I'm done with those classes, well excuse me! I put the time in, idk what to do about this, she is ALWAYS in drama too I can't stand the laziness and complaining but unfortunately we have every class together, thankfully we are only school friends, after this semester I am making sure to make a schedule opposite of hers I cannot stand the way she thinks it's okay.  sorry for babbling..

[KStudentNurse70]

Totally agree with you all! I will not be used! Nursing school is serious business everyone should be accountable for themselves!

[Jenngirl34RN]

You should take this as a great time to learn to be more assertive. It is definitely something you should learn soon, before you start clinicals. This person should no be asking you to help her cheat, and you need to tell her so.

It sounds like you are a really good student! Good luck!

[JBudd, MSN]

Look her in the eye and say "What? and deprive you of all that wonderful learning you get by doing it yourself?! Why, I would NEVER dream of doing such a thing to you!"

Okay, so don't really, but it would be hilarious. As said before, the simple, one word answer: "NO"

[caliotter3]

There are those who would give her the info, but they would make sure to turn a profit on the venture. And she expects you to give her this out of the goodness of your heart? Where was your fairy godmother when you needed the same info? Huh. Commiserate with her but don't enable her to be a poor student and get rewarded for her lack of effort. This is the type of person who becomes an albatross around the necks of her/his coworkers on the job.

[RunBabyRN]

I think this is a great opportunity to advocate for yourself, and learn to stand up to people without making excuses. Be honest with her. You don't feel good about this, and it doesn't help HER in the long term. If she's ever going to be a good nurse, she needs to learn this stuff, and if YOU are ever going to be a good nurse, you need to be able to advocate for yourself and for your patients. Being able to stand up to others and being honest in the process (because when you make excuses, people can find holes in them, plus, honesty is important) is a BIG skill that times time, but is VERY MUCH worthwhile.

If she is doing this now, I can only imagine how she will be in nursing school and beyond. Don't set a precedent that she can use you for your schoolwork. Ditch this heavy weight. Let her know that her request makes you feel used.