A Nurse Made My Wife Cry

MikeLPN · Oct 11, 2004

My wife works as a day HHA and about once a month works at the LTC at the local hospital when they are really short days/eves. I work as a full-time eve LPN at a different LTC facility. This was my weekend as charge. Don't get me started. But I have never done this to any one. My philosophy is; It's a job, go with the flow and do your best and try to be nice.

She calls me sobbing her eyes out and having a total panic attack this AM from her car because this nurse is riding her so hard. She called her home health super and wound up leaving work early. She is going to file a grievance and I told her to never go back and I hope she doesn't. We don't need the money (?) that bad. Screw them.

She saw her replacement driving in as she was leaving (somebody wanted OT perhaps?). Politics.

And this nurse actually had time to ride a CNA? And the nerve to ride a way totally complete part-timer who volunteered when you are supposedly short? Sounds to me like she went out of her way to make my wife miserable instead of doing her job.

I think she's a flipping goddess for working HHA and LTC as a 49 year old diabetic.

I'm SO not perfect especially with the CNAs ( I love the ones that tell me to just back off) but I have never caused anyone to leave much less quit. I will never admit it but good CNAs are the true jewels of the system.

You don't get to make my wife cry.

(This part of the rant edited because I could see where THAT was going)

THAT I will admit

SmilingBluEyes · Oct 11, 2004

So sorry to hear this.....I think the wife is right to file a grievance. I hate snotty people too---------------ALL snotty people, not just those who happen to be RN's. Again, I am sorry about this.

SmilingBluEyes · Oct 11, 2004

So sorry to hear this.....I think the wife is right to file a grievance. I hate snotty people too---------------ALL snotty people, not just those who happen to be RN's. Again, I am sorry about this.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

What Deb said.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

What Deb said.

nursemary9, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

Hi

I'm truly sorry for your wife's terrible experience. That kind of behavior

is just not acceptable. Good that she is filing a grievence.

No one should be treated that way. No excuse for it.

That is one reason that years ago I quit my position as manager--I would just get too anxious with pressure & start being nasty to people in general--not just the aides. Now that I am staff,& just charge occasionally,I am a much nicer person.

MaryAnn

nursemary9, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

Hi

I'm truly sorry for your wife's terrible experience. That kind of behavior

is just not acceptable. Good that she is filing a grievence.

No one should be treated that way. No excuse for it.

That is one reason that years ago I quit my position as manager--I would just get too anxious with pressure & start being nasty to people in general--not just the aides. Now that I am staff,& just charge occasionally,I am a much nicer person.

MaryAnn

UM Review RN, ASN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

I'm so sorry your wife had this experience, Mike. It's even sadder to realize how common it is in our business.

After having had this happen to me, I have changed my philosophy-- I don't believe it's "unprofessional" in this instance to walk out without notice.

I believe work is a business deal. An acceptable deal is one in which both parties make out better; your wife's experience would be the immediate deal-breaker.

That would counterbalance their policy of "Grounds for Immediate Dismissal" I guess, but hey, they make the rules.

There are better places to work. Our jobs have enough stress without piling that kind of pain on top of it.

I think she should take a few days off to regroup, have a nice long weekend with you, with some candles, a nice dinner, a massage, and a hot tub involved :) and get another job next week--if she feels like it.

UM Review RN, ASN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

I'm so sorry your wife had this experience, Mike. It's even sadder to realize how common it is in our business.

After having had this happen to me, I have changed my philosophy-- I don't believe it's "unprofessional" in this instance to walk out without notice.

I believe work is a business deal. An acceptable deal is one in which both parties make out better; your wife's experience would be the immediate deal-breaker.

That would counterbalance their policy of "Grounds for Immediate Dismissal" I guess, but hey, they make the rules.

There are better places to work. Our jobs have enough stress without piling that kind of pain on top of it.

I think she should take a few days off to regroup, have a nice long weekend with you, with some candles, a nice dinner, a massage, and a hot tub involved :) and get another job next week--if she feels like it.

jschut, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

I've worked with nurses like that before when I was a CNA. I made it 6 months at that job, called my hubby at lunch every day, while eating in my car, since I was not part of the "elite group" who ate in the break room. Was physically ill when I left there almost daily, and was also in tears daily.

That place was a joke and still is....

TEll her not to allow anyone to treat her that way, that all nurses aren't that bad, and if you come to Indiana, we sure could use a good aide or two and would be glad to have her!

jschut, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2004

I've worked with nurses like that before when I was a CNA. I made it 6 months at that job, called my hubby at lunch every day, while eating in my car, since I was not part of the "elite group" who ate in the break room. Was physically ill when I left there almost daily, and was also in tears daily.

That place was a joke and still is....

TEll her not to allow anyone to treat her that way, that all nurses aren't that bad, and if you come to Indiana, we sure could use a good aide or two and would be glad to have her!