A Morbid Poll I know.

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Now I know this may seem rather morbid to some. It really isnt meant to be. But as nurses some of the issues we have to face are the decisions that patients and families have made for the end of their life. This is a poll of what you think best applies to your thoughts and beliefs about how you would like to see the end of your life ceremony proceed. There are many different ceremonies and I cant begin to list them all.

Would you prefer.......

1 The standard traditional funeral in this country with either a closed or open casket followed by cemetery

internment with the usual body preparation at a funeral home.

2. Cremation

3. Cremation with your ashes being made into "Reef Ball" to help rebuild coral reefs.

4. Natural or green Burial, where after a viewing if wished you are buried in green or enviromentally safe fashion.

I know this is a morbid question , but I have been researching for a while. Just out of curiosity and some decisions I have had to help patients and their families with of late.

Did you know in a study, easily found on the net. That is an average 10 acre cemetery contains enough coffin wood to construct more than 40 homes, nearly 1000 tons of casket metal and another 20,000 tons of vault concrete. Add to that enough toxic embalming fluid to fill a backyard swimming pool, a human carcinogen. I can see why they are being considered as de facto landfills of nonbiodegradable materials. Classified by the EPA as hazardous waste. All this has amazed me to no end.

Specializes in ER.
I thought this was interesting, so I looked it up online.

I about had a stroke when I saw the prices!!!!

http://www.evrmemories.com/cremation-diamonds-s/81.htm

It's interesting to me how many of us prefer cremation and don't care what is done with the ashes. I think maybe it has something to do with the fact that when we do post mortem care we know that person is no longer on this earth, the soul is gone and all that is left behind is an empty shell. At least for me it's like that. I don't intend to know anything about the cremation.

Maybe I'll have my ashes spread over the top of QVC by helicopter.

The have most of me already, they may as well have the rest!

Which reminds me of the original intent of this post. The diamonds....I'll have my family buy Diamonique!

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
talk about a meltdown.:)

when i was in my teens, i used to laugh at the thought of getting my bra bronzed.

and in it, would be my ashes...

with the sentence engraved, her cup(s) ranneth over.

heh.

still might do that.

beats an urn.

leslie

Oh, leslie!! I love that!!! And definetly unique!

Anne

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
private services for family only , and creamated, ashes to be spread on my mother ( she isn't passed away yet) and grandmother's graves , and i want my ashes to be mixed with my cats that have passed away.

i really find this thread very interesting .. i don't find it morbid at all... thank you starting this thread.

You're right! I guess it depends on how you look at it - I think it's interesting too.

Anne, RNC

Specializes in Hospice.
When I transfer the collective expanse of my brain into a robotic body I will donate my organs and then have fun burning my own body.

You are a mess!! LOL!

As for me, donate it all then cremate me. Do what you wish with my ashes. I figure my kids would probably want a portion of them.

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
ohhhh, yep a morbid question...but as a nurse, Im sure it's one we have all thought of!

for me-cremation.

told the husband I didn't want to be hooked up to life support..but if he finds that I am, no feeding tube at all, and don't unplug me till I can fit into my skinny jeans! (just kidding!) :p

and on the morbid side... I think people should practice making their own obituaries. Write them up, and stick them somewhere where they will be found just in case. I think it's sad to see an obit in the paper, where you can tell the family was just caught off guard, and didn't know what to say. *He liked watching nascar and doing sudoko*

When I was still in nsg school, I was minoring in Sociology and took a class on Death and Dying. We took field trips, the whole nine yds. We went to one of the morgues, to a couple of cemetaries, and to the funeral home. The director showed us all the "tools of the trade" in embalming, ect. It was definetly an eye opener!

I have always wanted to observe a autopsy, but never found the chance.

Anne, RNC

Specializes in MICU, SICU, CRRT,.
I definately don't want a water burial. I am so scared of drowning. ( Have been since near miss at age 9)

Cremated and released in the wind at a signifcant place sound nice.

My husband has joked that he wants to be cremated and the ashes loaded into shot gun shells and shot out of his favorite gun. ( There is a company that will pack the shells for you). I actually think that is perfect for a good ole red neck boy like him. Either that or sprinked along the road on the way to Sturgis Motorcycle rally.

A friend of mine has a locket with some of her dads ashes in it. It seems a little creepy to me. To think about what part those ashed might have been before they were burned. ( You oved ones elbows or privates on a chain around your neck) Gross.

Ok..that sounds like my husband (with the shells) and my dad (with the rally) combined. I tol dmy husband that i would have his packed and shoot a deer, forever leaving the shell in the deer..i got a wierd, disapproving look. He really does want cremation with his ashes scattered in the forest..He better hope he dies after me...i just cant handle cremation.

As for me, i want traditional..nothing wierd or outlandish..burial in a comfy outfit..no lavish dress..i am NOT a dressy person. I would like the service short and sweet, but i do request "Beulah Land" be played. I am not religious, but its become almost a tradiotion..played at my grandmothers (both), uncles, and will be played at my parents as well.

My mom wants to go to the funeral home and "try out" caskets..she wants to know she will be comfortable in hers..i think THAT is morbid!!!

Specializes in ER,ICU,L+D,OR.
I thought this was interesting, so I looked it up online.

I about had a stroke when I saw the prices!!!!

http://www.evrmemories.com/cremation-diamonds-s/81.htm

But you are actually being made into an actual Diamond

More info and scary prices at http://WWW.LifeGem.com

Specializes in LPN.

I'm sure I'll be in the minority on this one, but I can't really accept that diamond jewelry that is made out of ashes. Considering that I'm open to organ donation, cremation, and donating to research, being made into jewelry should be a far more pleasant thought. It's a great metaphor for reincarnation - coming back in another form. But I just can't get over the idea that a person would "wear" something that was once another person. That thought just creeps me out.

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

I have a gravesite already, I'll be buried in a traditional casket, with a traditional funeral, closed casket. I live near the cemetary where I'll be buried, actually. I walk by my future final resting place several times a week.

Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
I'm sure I'll be in the minority on this one, but I can't really accept that diamond jewelry that is made out of ashes. Considering that I'm open to organ donation, cremation, and donating to research, being made into jewelry should be a far more pleasant thought. It's a great metaphor for reincarnation - coming back in another form. But I just can't get over the idea that a person would "wear" something that was once another person. That thought just creeps me out.

Yeah, me too. I know people used to wear lockets that contained snippets of the deceased person's hair, but that doesn't seem as high on the YUCK scale as wearing a 'diamond' made entirely out of cremains.

JMHO.:rolleyes:

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
Yeah, me too. I know people used to wear lockets that contained snippets of the deceased person's hair, but that doesn't seem as high on the YUCK scale as wearing a 'diamond' made entirely out of cremains.

JMHO.:rolleyes:

I know!!

Anne

On the day of my death, the family gathers for the all-you-can eat buffet with ice cream social to follow. After all are well fed, construction of the 60 foot catapult will commence. During catapult construction, a list of enemies will be compiled. Upon agreement of the biggest transgressor, the funeral procession departs to my enemies stronghold (corporate headquarters), while towing the catapult behind a monster truck that’s blaring the song, “Don’t mess with Texas” on the stereo. After the eulogy, my nude body is loaded onto the catapult with $750 dollars taped to my chest. I am then fired at the building. I’m making it someone else’s problem.

If I were to die tomorrow, it would be T-mobile because although I’ve had them for over 5 years, my two year contract has never expired. You see, if you call them for a stick of gum, ask what time it is. That’s another two years. If I don’t like it, I’m free to find another carrier, after paying $750. I believe my last words to the agent were, “Over my dead body.” So I’m staying true to my word.

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