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Specializes in Office nursing.

I need some input from all of you on this issue, thank you in advance.. I work in a small doctors office for a physician and nurse practitioner, who happens to be husband and wife. The wife dislikes me because I am female, don't know of any other way to put it. She has done many things to me over my six years of working with them, most of them regarding personal property issues and verbal abuse. I have informed the physician of these problems , he gives her a slap on the hand and tells me to suck in up and move on, that she has jealously issues and there's nothing that is going to change that.

I love my job there and tolerate her behavior for that reason. Last week I found where she wrote in a patients chart that I gave an order to an outside nursing agency regarding a dangerous medicine and what to do about it. This is the last straw for me, I never talked to anyone regarding this patients care and would not ever do so unless instructed to by a

superior. The person from the other agency (also a nurse) backs up my story and is going to put in writing ,what really occurred. This is a deliberate and malicious act against me and affects me lively hood now. I know taking it to the physician again is not going to get me anywhere so would the nursing board take care of this type of complaint? Would I be better off just to get out of there and forget and move on?

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Move on. Not worth it to pursue anything against her, IMO.

You really must love that job!! I couldn't say I would in any way love working with that kind of hostility.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Home Health.

Get out of there. It's a special kind of Hell being the only non-related employee in a family business.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

You need to find another job yesterday.

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Specializes in Office nursing.

Thanks for your honesty, I have already started the "new job" process. It's sad that people in the healthcare profession can have so much hate toward each other, for no reason.. :)

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Specializes in Office nursing.

Everyone has told me that, but until this happened, I thought I could handle all the BS.. This is different. Can't work and constantly be on the lookout for someone trying to sabotage me. I totally agree, got to get out of there...

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yah.....this isn't a jealousy issue, or "usual" BS.

This place is toxic.

Run!

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

Are you able to include your disclaimer (and that of the agency's nurse) in the patient chart before you go? I certainly hope so, and I also hope that you are able to put the facts in front of the doctor/husband's nose. Given your six years there, he needs to understand the circumstances behind your departure.

Best of luck in your job search.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

Honestly this is a risk to your license. I am big on not quitting a job until you have another lined up but the minute someone starts falsifying records with your name attached it is time to go.

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Specializes in Office nursing.

Yes. I intend to put all the papers together in the patients chart, plus keep a copy for myself. The idea of shoving in the doctors face sounds good but don't know if I want to hear how its not that big of a deal again. That's was why I thought of taking it to the Nursing Board.

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Specializes in Office nursing.

Totally agree. I assure you this is weighing heavily with me. I have been a nurse for 30+ years and never had anyone do something so evil.

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It is never, ever appropriate to have anyone start on "jealousy" issues in a professional discussion. That is a huge boundry issue. What goes on between a married couple who work together should never even be discussed in a professional setting.

I would call the BON and have this discussion with them. I would also call my for guidance. Cover yourself, as this is a licensing issue. Is the wife a nurse?

I also would think about reporting the MD. If illegal stuff is going on in the practice (and falsifying medical records could be one of those instances) someone needs to be aware of it. Is there a parent company that the MD is part of? Ethics would have a field day!

Under every circumstance, cover yourself. Regardless of whatever else is going on, the fact that there is notes in a medical record regarding yourself and giving of medical advice, participating in discussions/interventions that you did not, or any other taking and/or carrying out of orders--and you did not do any of this is HUGE. Seek guidance right away, and this is just thoughts only, not meant as legal advice per AN TOS.

Good luck with this, and keep us posted.

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