Hi! I'll try to keep this brief as there are a lot of sides to this situation. I'm an RN and I've been on the same private duty case for over 2 years now. A ventilator dependent child. Many good things about the situation. I was burned out of hospital nursing, and the non-chaotic, casual atmosphere in a home is great. This family lives in a half-million dollar home (buys ALOT of house in South Carolina!) in an upsacle neighborhod. No safety concerns, nice enviroment, etc...
So what are my frustrations? One thing that has just really gotten to me is that the family shows NO gratitude or thanks at all! The first Christmas I had this job, they gave me NOTHING. Not even a card! This past Christmas they gave me a pair of slipper socks! At least something, but how pathetic! Or you might think that they might on occassion show appreciation in another way - for example, the mom loves to bake and there are often baked goods around. You'd think they might offer me a piece. NEVER!!! And this family is wealthy...not like they can not afford it. I don't know...I guess I am just feeling really unappreciated and taken advantage of.
I've tried to think of any possible way to drop hints that they should show appreciation! But I don't think there is any way to do that! (?)
And the mom in particular is VERY "needy". She will "take" all that you will "give" and more. I feel that I give excellent care to the child, but I maintain a strong professional boundry. I think a professional boundry is so VERY critical in these cases. If you don't maintain one, you will get completely pulled in by the family dynamics and lose all objectivity. But I am viewed in a negative light because of it! (A past nurse on this case had no professional boundry - it was ridiculous and out-of-control really. Besides nursing, she was doing ALL kinds of other things for the family. This nurse would do anything and everything, and combine that with a "needy" mom....)
I am very conscientious with perfectionist tendencies. I have a strong work ethic. And the fact that this family views me in a negative light because I keep a professional boundry, and will not do anything and everything for them... It is really frustrating to me. I am used to being appreciated for a job well done, and this is really the first time in my life I have not been "recognized" for doing a good job...
Well, I am not really sure why I am posting this. Just needing to vent. Thanks for listening.